I agree that a counselor or therapist could be a great help. It sounds like you have a great deal of things going on right now; postpartum depression, job changes, and support changes. That would be enough to throw anyone off. Remember that the message boards are only a click away and offer tons of support. Hang in there!
It sounds to me like you are an emotional eater and you turn to food for comfort when issues arise or bad time with friends etc. I would try journaling when you go reach for food. What are you feeling at that moment? What are you thinking to eat that? Now you can try to push through during those times or at least go for healthier snacks such as yogurt, veggie sticks, fruits, nuts, eggs etc.
As far as how to do this, it would be helpful to get yourself on an eating program that works for you and an exercise program that works for you. I would be working out a minimum of 5 days a week if I were in your situation. By replacing healthy foods with the bad stuff everyday you get one step closer. Instead of reaching for that twinkie grab the exercise band, dvd, weights; park etc and get your body moving.
3 days is nothing for changes. I wouldn't consider anything less than 90 days to make some changes and that means giving it your all, not just baby steps. If you are serious you can make it happen. How serious are you?
You will need to give things up like your ROOT BEER, but this is not an easy journey. You could probably end up replacing that Root Beer with something you could enjoy even more. In fact, giving up soda is an easy way to less calories.
Break it down. 2 16 oz glasses of root beer has 202 calories and 52 grams of sugar roughly. As an adult we should only consume around 24 grams of sugar a day. So you are way over on sugar consumption and the 202 calories could go for something so much more nutritious and not to your waist. Just saying.
When you look at it this way, you can see how it is affecting your body better. Good luck!
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Do you have a Therapist? Having one could be your BEST friend (figuratively :-) They can help you devise healthier ways of dealing with issues as they come into your life - or stay in your life!
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i was using root beer as my only friend as saying its one of my guilty pleasures ...... but i know what you are saying lilli. in all honesty i didnt even notice my depression had gotten bad until i lost my job. i am trying to fight alot of things. but weight loss is something that's my biggest foe. and i didnt eat funfetti i had pretzel rods instead yay!!!(1 point for me). but i see what your saying about there's something wrong with eating something i dont like just cause I'm down....That's actually the reason that i gained all my weight back.. and i dont have that much support from friends or family because my "friends" turned their back on me when i left my job so i discarded them and i have done that all my life to be honest with you. if i get disappointed in someone ..oh yeah screw you then eat a twinkie or what ever. so no i cant go out with friends. my husband is trying to support my decisions but he gets side tracked with work. which i understand. so i really dont know what to do at this point im trying but i dont want this to be another failed diet plan.
"please don,t tell me to cut out root beer........ its my only friend"
That line right there set off alarm bells in my head. Your ONLY friend? Seriously?
I mean, I LOVE coffee, and I have a ginormous latte nearly every day, but if I had to give it up tomorrow, I would.
Food (and in this case soda) is fuel. It is not entertainment. It is not comfort. It is definitely not a friend. Friends give advice, watch movies with you, call you on your birthday, know how to make you laugh, support you when you hit a rough spot...they are not carbonated beverages.
You need to stop and really examine what you're doing when you eat funfetti that you don't like. You need to start asking yourself "why?"
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May God bless your success on this journey we all share!
If you can, get your Vitamin D levels tested. It's amazing what low levels will do. Including lethargy, weight gain, an overall feeling of not feeling well enough, some depression, etc. They say that people from northern states are almost always low because of the lack of sunshine year round. A normal level is between 30 - 150, best is between 60-70. Last November I was at 16, now I'm at a healthy 58 and feeling like normal again and so glad I can get out of my chair.
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14 5/3/13 7:16 P
well tiny sunshine i do have post partum depression and they tested me today for pcos if that's the case then atleast i'll have an answer and i do drink about 16 ounces of root beer a day. which i know i should cut out. but is my treat ....... so i cant break up with it yet. but i appretiate your advice i was very helpfull
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Hi - It's great that you are planning on using the Nutrition Tracker. Make sure that you use it for every little morsel that crosses your lips. I also suggest weighing for food for increased accuracy.
You comment "please don,t tell me to cut out root beer........ its my only friend..." indicates to me that there is something going on in your life apart from food. I am wondering if you have self esteem issues, or suffer from depression??? The other thing that this implies to me, is that you drinking perhaps more than a can or two in a day? As a PP has noted, the calories of this soon mount up, and it doesn't really add the quality of nutrition at all.
I suggest that if you haven't already, talk with your Dr about what is going on - your weigh-loss efforts, etc., and ask for some bloods to see if there is anything else going on which can impact on your weight - things like Hypothyroidism and Diabetes. It might also be worth asking for a referral to a Dietitian if you find that by properly applying SP's recommendations, that you still don't lose any weight. If you see a Dietitian, take some printouts from your tracker to show her - it can save tons of time. IF there are emotional issues, then ask for a referral to a Therapist - they can be a marvelous resource - especially when a person is trying to get on a healthy lifestyle journey. They can give you the tools to help you when the chips are down.
Take care, Kris
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14 5/3/13 4:48 P
coannie I've been on spark for three days to better track my caloric intake but ive been on the weightloss and changing to a healthy diet for a while and it feels like i loose a massive mount and in weeks i gain it back but thank you both for your input. i know it takes a while to loose weight but when your pants bust as frequently as mine do you start feeling like a balloon instead of a person
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This is going to be some tough love charliesdonnies. You have only been on Spark for 3 days. You can't see any measurable weightloss in 3 days. You should only be weighing yourself once a week.
First, start by taking small steps, like drinking your 8 cups of water a day. Root Beer doesn't count.
Track your calories. That's the main thing that helped me. Use the free nutrition tracker here on Sparkpeople. Even healthy foods will cause weight gain if you eat too much. Fill out all of the info and it will give you a calorie range. I was shocked at how many calories I was taking in. It also helps with how foods stack up nutrition-wise. 14 Doritos equals two fresh pears. Just think about that. I used to eat a bag of Doritos, or maybe 3/4 a bag and then quit in shame. Also track your drinks. When you start to see how many calories that soda uses up, you won't love it so much.
Situps are good for toning, but that's not cardio. Running after kids is, but that is very hard to measure. When you start exercising, try something gentle, like walking. Set yourself a goal to walk 10 minutes a day, and then mark it down in the fitness tracker. It gives you a feeling of success. I walk up to 4 miles a day now, after almost 2 months. It has become a very relaxing thing for me. It's my me-time. I listen to my iPod and chillax.
When you get a craving or an urge to eat, and you know you're not really hungry, take a walk, get busy doing something, sit and breathe for a while, and analyze why you want to eat. You'll start to see that you're eating out of boredom, or stress, or sadness, or whatever, and not from hunger. You'll become more in tune with your body and true hunger signals.
You can do this. Use the free tools that are before you- this is an excellent program, you just have to start.
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Hi, CHARLIEDONNIES !!
I give one piece of advice to all new members and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself was drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time, thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.
Do you log your food choices ? If not, I'm going to encourage you to start logging. If you don't want to log on this website, you could always write your choices down in a notebook. writing down what you eat is a good visual. Studies have shown that people who track their food lose more weight than those who don't. Also, if you were to log your food, the members could take a look at your food diary to make some suggestions.
You don't have to give up root beer to be healthy, BUT you do have to be mindful of your portion size. One can of root beer can have over 200 calories. So, if you drink more than one can per day, you can see how quickly the calories will add up. Now, no one is saying that root beer is the reason you've gained back weight.
You really can't beat yourself up over that. Every single member of Spark has been through the same thing. we're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. that was the past. you can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future. First, you have to be patient. you didn't gain the weight overnight, it's not coming off overnight.
Start with some simple changes first. example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how good health starts. It starts with a few simple changes you can stick with.
Also, while a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week, there will be weeks you don't lose. there will even be weeks you gain ! And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. ever notice your weight goes up during TOM ? Most women tend to "gain" weight during their menstrual cycle. is that a fat gain ? Nope. it's nothing more than a temporary water weight gain that passes in a few days.
So, if you notice the scale go up this week, you may just be retaining water. nothing to worry about. that really is perfectly normal. there are a lot of other different reasons the scale could go up without you're eating too much.
Take things slowly. start with some simple changes and go from there.
Be patient with yourself and your body.
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14 5/3/13 4:09 P
this sucks man i chase kids around and do sit ups and i've been trying to eating really healthy for a while and i gained weight what the heck man i have yes fallen of he wagon a couple of times and before i started on here i lost 15 lbs ( MOTIVATION!!!!!!!!!!!) but i just gained weight what am i doing........please don,t tell me to cut out root beer........ its my only friend ......... i need too loose weight bad.. my pants dont fit and its snowing and i have bee wearing shorts ...stretch shorts for 3 days and my jeans keep breaking and my 3 year old pinched my roll 'and said mom your a fatty.......( she's very good at putting words together..)i am about to eat a cake and all i have for cake is funfetti and i dont even like funfetti.......help
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