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10/11/13 4:11 P


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the direction. You are not too old or set in your ways to make a change. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time, that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. Thus the need to be patiet with yourself and your body.

Before you can change your body, you need to change your head. You have to change the way you think so that you're not stuck yo yo dieting for the rest of your life. You CAN be a healthy weight regardless of being single or dating or married. good health transends all of that.

Where to start ? Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies each day, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. once you've achieved those goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how you learn healthier habits. So, don't worry, you are not doomed. You really can change your life !! You're already part way there by joining Spark People. You'll find a lot of support here.

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10/11/13 3:30 P

Hello...Since I met and married my high school sweetheart and was with him for 55 years, I guess I do not know what it is to "break up" unless it is when he had to leave me after a long battle with cancer..That is a 'break up" to be sure..and I did not have much appetite for some time...

My life had to go on and his beautiful memory keeps me satisfied...I do keep very busy with a multitude of interests and it also keeps me away from the food...and so that is my only 'break-up.....Best, Doris

10/11/13 3:17 P

I have been through two significant break-ups in life each time happily losing almost 50 pounds to gain it all back and then some. I know some of this has to do with age but I can't seem to keep the weight that comes off during the "single season" when I find love again. I also can't seem to rid myself of the mindset that I can't lose the weight and have fun at the same time. I guess it's a typical life is getting in the way scenario. Help!

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