HAHAHA! You know what? No matter how good a parent you are, I think MOST kids go through phases like this. these are the formative years, ya know? This is where they begin to learn their importance, but also their role and yours. This is where we begin to put our feet down. Don't be deceived. Toddlers are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for. They naturally know how to be manipulative, when to lie, etc. etc. etc. It is up to us as their guardians/parents to teach them those behaviors are not acceptable.
One step and one day at a time, Hon. I, and everyone else here who has been there...we're here for ya! :)
thanks for your thoughts!!as far as what brings them on its pretty much when she cant have what she wants.altho for a week or so its been happening for almost no reason!!its soo frustrating and im glad that im not the only one who has had a mini meltdown b/c of my toddler!!
I also second the no-yelling advice. I have a tendency to yell and have my own mini-breakdown when my 2 1/2 yr old has a tantrum. But lately I have started to just say to him, nope, you are not making mommy mad, I am just going to go wait in the other room until you are done. Then, a few minutes later, I go over to him and hold him and tell him I love him. That has been working pretty well so far. Also, I try to help him verbalize how he is feeling. I'll say, "you are pretty mad right now, aren't you?" or "It sounds like such and such made you very sad, didn't it?"
Regardless, tantrums are hard to deal with and I completely understand where you are coming from!
I'm the mom of a nine and a half year old girl and an almost six year old boy.
What brings on the tantrums? Is it just a random thing? Frustration with toys? Or is it just bad behavior because she can't get what she wants when she wants it?
If it is the last one, the key is consistency. Choose one disciplinary action, and stick with it. Do not baby talk to her, but don't yell either-(yelling at a toddler is counter productive and it frustrates them further. I learned the hard way.)
If it is something like sensory overload, you may want to talk to her pediatrician about it.
my daughter is about to be three years old and has awful temper tantrums!!!she yells crys trys to bite and hits some of the time.she screams so loud and her whole body shakes!!i dont know what to do i have tryed everything from time outs talking to her taking things away ignoring the behavior but nothings seems to make a diffrence!!any thoughts????
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