Yup, this is an elite and exclusive club we are in! I started off on Spark People so ashamed and crumpled up over regaining it is a wonder I cared enough to even try! Ok, I s'pose that sounds too dramatic, but I was pretty deep into my shame! So forgive yourself and this time, don't make PROMISES - make PLANS! Strategy is WAY stronger than will-power!!!
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Look at it this way: you're now part of the elite and vast club of people who've done just what you describe: lost and regained. Only you, my dear, didn't even regain half of that 70 lbs!
Your past efforts were NOT for nothing! Losing 70 lbs is AWESOME and hey - at least you didn't gain it all back plus more (like yours truly). So be proud of what you DID do!
And you KNOW you have the knowledge and fortitude to do it again. Like the others said, just focus on learning from the past as opposed to beating yourself up. Perfection has no place in this journey. The vast, vast majority have slipped a bit or a lot. What matters is striving to learn if this happens so eventually it will happen less, and just keep going!
You only lose out if you quit and anyone who has lost 70lbs and run a 5K sure doesn't sound like a quitter to me!
Well, I reckon it sure wasn't "all for nothing" -- you're still 40 pounds down from where you started. And you did it before; you CAN do it again.
The big thing for me, is to learn whatever I can from my mistakes. Edison had a bazillion (ok, I'm exaggerating, but it was a LOT) of tries at a lightbulb before he got one to work, learning something every time. So you learned that slacking off on the exercise and not tracking your food, gets you into trouble.
Personally, I've yo-yo'd so many times over so many years, that I no longer care if I have to track everything I eat for the rest of my life, if it means I'll keep the weight off. I hate to exercise, but I'll do it if that is what will work. Because everything else I ever tried, never did.
Thanks. You're right. I've done it once before, which means I can do it again. I'll do it another 1000 times if that's what it takes. Laying in bed last night I was thinking, Sure I've gained 30 pounds back, but I didn't gain back all 70, which means I'm still down 40 pounds. Have to think positive. :-)
I'm sorry that you're so disappointed in yourself. I wouldn't say that the previous loss was 'for nothing' though. By doing it, you proved to yourself that you CAN do it, so that means you can do it again. Sure, i'ts frustrating to have to do it again, but at least you know you do have the capability to do what you need to do.
Don't hate yourself over this. look at this as a lesson learned. You CAN do this!
I'm so disappointed in myself. I had done so well and in 2 years lost 70 pounds. I was exercising everyday and felt pretty good about myself. My big goal was to run a 5k, which I did. I was so proud of myself.
But then after the race, I don't know what happened. I just stopped. I told myself that I need a week to recover from the race, but ended up going a few weeks. Then it got cold. By the time spring had come around, I was feeling lousy. I started getting depressed, which only got worse when I lost my job (from hell; you'd think I would've been happy lol) and fought for months for unemployment and welfare help. During this time, my best (and only) friend and walking buddy moved away.
I thought I had been doing ok eating-wise, even though I had stopped tracking. Turns out I was doing horrible. Even since I got my new job, I'll do okay during the day, but end up blowing it all snacking in the evening.
I've gained 30 pounds back, and it makes me sick. I promised myself I would never do this to myself again, but I did it anyway. :-( It makes me want to cry and beat the crap out of myself.
For the past 3 days, I've been tracking my food again and staying within range. Today I did Coach Nicole's 10-minute cardio kickboxing video. I've updated my plan and am hoping to stick with it all this time. But I worry that I just can't do this. Two years and I thought I was past the worst of it, and it was all for nothing, wasted.
Sorry for the whining rant. Just needed to get this out.
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