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JENNYFAYE55
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4/4/13 7:06 A

You have already figured out the most important thing... what is done is done. This is what I would tell one of my daughters if they came to me with these concerns... how is this making you feel? Were you really "depriving" yourself of something good if it makes you feel this bad. Perhaps the deprivation was really during the binge! You deprived yourself of feeling good about your choices. Which feels better, the taste of the candy or the feeling of self control?

It's a long time before we have another holiday. This one was a learning experience for you. Since you know they won't eat until 9pm and you are likely to want to snack, what kind of snacks could you bring along that will help you make it until 9pm?

Don't beat yourself up about this, just learn from it and know that you have gained some very important knowledge about yourself and what you need to do to stay on track. Also, if you stay on track, the weight and inches will come off. You don't have to exercise 90 minutes a day to do that.

This is a marathon, not a sprint. Just keep going. You are doing great. Don't let fear sabatage you. YOU are in control of what you do. YOU are the boss of you. YOU are fully equipped to do the things that will give your body the best nutrition and proper body maintenance through exercise.

Whether or not cancer returns, you can have the satisfaction of knowing that you have done everything you possibly can to take the very best care of your body. You know that if you keep a positive attitude, make healthy food choices and exercise, your cancer likelihood goes down. That is the only bit of control we have over that worrisome issue.

You have made the choice to take good care of your body. That is why you joined Spark. Just get through today, following the plan. Jesus gave us some good advice when he told us to live each day for that day. Don't worry about tomorrow because tomorrow will have its own worries. For today, just focus on the good things your are doing for yourself. You are taking care of the things that are within your control. That is all you can do. Round belly or flat belly doesn't matter so much as a healthy belly and knowing you have done everything you can to take good care of your body. You are doing that. Feel good about it.

You should also feel good about reaching out for support when you need it. I hope this and the wisdom shared by the other folks that responded helps you get past this hurdle.

Blessings!

-Jenny



SLIMMERKIWI
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4/4/13 4:52 A

Sweetie - the reality is that most people don't have a flat stomach, and it is perfectly natural for us to be a wee bit rounded, there! You are doing TONS of exercise, so you don't need to increase it more. There are many times that we have all eaten like you have for 3-4 days in a row. THAT in itself isn't going to derail us - what does that is by not getting back up and continuing eating well, as in healthy foods MOST of the time and within a healthy calorie range, ALSO most of the time.

Unfortunately sometimes we can be our own worst enemy, and putting that extreme pressure to 'succeed' is one of those times we are best to try to lose our worst enemy!!

Kris



ARCHIMEDESII
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4/2/13 11:49 A

Jessica,

I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself to look a certain way. As others have noted, a 4 day binge will not make or break your healthy lifestyle. As long as you're eating right most of the time, that's what counts. None of us are perfect. The only reason women in the magazines are perfect is because they are airbrushed to be perfect. the reason why celebrities have perfectly taught bodies is because they have personal trainers who work with them every day. they have chefs who cook their meals. they have cosmetic surgeons who can nip and tuck every part of their body. It's their job to look that way.

Would it be nice to have a flat stomach ? Sure, but not having one doesn't make you any less healthy or less of a person.

If you're noticing an increase in your binging because of family stress, then you need to find ways to reduce your stress first. I've said this in past, I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress they'd automatically reduce their waistline.

My advice would be to work on reducing your overall stress instead of worrying about your weight. If you know that your family makes you nuts, then you need to find better ways to relieve your stress that don't involve food. Because if you keep turning to food for comfort, you will start seeing the scale creep up again. That's why it's important to find work on ways on reducing your stress so that you aren't turning to food to cope.






DANAG22
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4/2/13 10:16 A

One long weekend of binging won't undo all of your hard work. Put your head back in the game and move forward. You many not have a flatter stomach but liposuction is an option. Try low carb the weight will come off quick..I lost 9 lbs in 3 weeks, 25 carbs a day.
Stay strong!



CILER11
Posts: 265
4/2/13 9:59 A

It will happen. Also even if you never get your belly as flat as you want you are doing amazing things for your body and your overall health. One bad weekend doesn't undo all of your hard work and stressing about it will only cause you to hold on to the weight and negatively impact your health. When I have days where I don't feel like I'm getting ahead I just think of Dorie from "Finding Nemo" Just keep swimming. :)

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JESSICAMONT32
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4/2/13 8:49 A

hi all,

i all i am scared that all my hard work is going to be undone if i dont get my head back on straight. The last few weeks i have been taking down a notch with how much exercise i have been doing. i have been doing remarkably a lot less, such as i used to do around 90 mintues now i am doing 30 to 40 mintues. I am doing more structured lifting routines as well. Three days a week for a about 45 min. i also have upped my calories, because before i was eating only 1500 calories a day.

what i am worried about is that the lack of control i feel lately set me up for a four day long beinge over the holiday weekend. My family can be very very stressful and there eating schedules are hay wire( they dont sit down for dinner til nine at night) and even through i should just cook something for myself when iam there that is not option, it would offend my in laws. so the entire time i was there i just ate candy and junk.
surprisingly i am learning what is done is done. it is over, i have gotten back on track , ate reasonable yesterday and this morning and i did not over excerise yesterday. 30 min run about 4.7 miles.

what worries me is that partly what set me up for this binge is that i have been frustrated with the lack of progress i have seen with the tape measure and i just said to myself i dont care and just ate what i was depriving ......what if i dont ever get rid of the rest of fat on my belly? what if i am destined to have this unhealthy weight there( i have a history of ovarian cancer ) i want to get a flatter stomach...not rock solid abs but flatter belly. I might be at a healthy weight but i am on the top end of that healthy and would like to be a little bit in the middle for my weight range.

just need reasurance that if i keep up what i am doing then the weight will eventually will come off...or not weight the inches....i am scared of getting another type of cancer, i am scared i will get other health issues....



 
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