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SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 26,165
2/23/13 9:50 P

That is really great news :-) Just remember - don't go weighing yourself all the time, tho', because when you don't loose OR you gain a little (and it IS perfectly normal that that happens at times) you won't go beating yourself off, or be tempted to fall off the wagon again. We all take the odd step backward, but it is what happens over many steps that counts :-)

Kris xx

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2/23/13 8:39 P

I want you all to know I lost 3.2 lbs my first week back on track :)

SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 26,165
2/19/13 1:40 A

You are MORE than welcome :-) This is, after-all, what we are here for - to support one another :-D

Kris xx

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 2/23/2013 (21:48)
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2/18/13 10:54 P

I really needed your support this time around. And what y'all said clicked. Today is my third day of tracking and eating better. I feel hopeful and ready to change! Thank you so much.

NEWRUNNER2 Posts: 542
2/16/13 10:15 P

Be sure to give yourself credit and celebrate the fact that you got on the scale and made some really great choices. Small steps done frequently really make a difference.

I'm so glad you reached out to us emoticon !

SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 26,165
2/16/13 10:00 P

Good one :-) Remember to ensure that you start your day with a healthy filling breakfast (?including a piece of fruit) and don't be tempted to skip any meals at all.

Your goal of not drinking your calories is an excellent one :-) A lot of people don't think of that, and unfortunately, can pack away a LOT of calories in the process :-(

Take care, and keep up the good work!

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2/16/13 9:53 P

Thanks for all your words. Really. I know that I shouldn't use the scale so much. But yes my size is in direct correlation with my happiness. I'm happy when I'm smaller. I have been small. I know what it feels like. And it's great. And I am happy.
I braved up today and got on the scale
It wasn't as awful as I imagined.
I restarted today. Tracked my food. Ate 2 fruits (compared to none usually) and I ate about 1600 calories. Also I set a goal for today that I reached: don't drink any calories.
I am thinking for hopefully and positively today. I can and will do this. Thank you for the continuing support.

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2/11/13 4:51 P

Sweetheart, your signature is a big tip-off to why this happened. You're tying your weight directly to how happy you are. You will still have all the problems, trials and tribulations at 130 lbs as you do right now. You need to find things that aren't about food or weight that fulfill and uplift you.

You can absolutely do this. It requires Consistency, Confidence, and Control. Can you consistently track your eating and exercise every day? Can you be confident at any weight or size - confident that you are a good person, beautiful and happy? Can you control yourself when it comes time to choose foods or start exercising?

I believe you can!

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
2/11/13 11:43 A

Food: Short-term happiness
130: Long-term happiness

You may want to re-examine this attitude. Being a specific weight does not equal happiness, just as being overweight does not equal unhappiness. If you lose weight and aren't happy, then what? You may find better control if you consciously focus on divorcing emotions and your happiness from food.

And remember, you know how to lose weight. You have proven it. Now you have to figure out how to maintain that loss.

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2/11/13 11:43 A


I agree with the others. Don't be afraid to step on that scale. If you did gain weight, don't beat yourself up. That's something that has happened to every single member of Spark People at one time or another. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. Twice in my life I've weighed over 200+ pounds. A few years ago, I made the decision that wasn't going to happen a third time. That was my turning point and now it sounds like you're ready for yours.

Once you have that number, you don't have to look at the scale again. When I decided I wanted to lose weight, I didn't use the scale to measure my change or my success. I used a pair of pants. When I first tried them on, I couldn't get them past my hips ! Well, each week as I changed my habits and started eating right, I'd try on the pants. Each week, they'd get a little higher and higher. Eventually, I was able to button the pants and breathe comfortably. That's why I got on the scale and learned that I'd lost 35 pounds in around 6 months.

You need a starting point. We all do. Don't look at any weight gain as a set back. Like I said, we're all experts at losing and regaining. But that was the past. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future !! And I can see the future does look bright for you !!

I do have one piece of very important advice. If you haven't been to the doctor in a very long time, you should have a full physical done. Find out what your blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc all are. Those numbers will change as your health improves. The road to good health should include a regular physical. Don't be afraid to go to the doctor. that really is a part of your healthy lifestyle.

SLIMMERKIWI Posts: 26,165
2/11/13 5:29 A

Hi Sydney - please DON'T be afraid to get on that scale. That could be your real turning point. Mind you, after that initial weigh-in, I wouldn't be inclined to use the scales again for a while. People often DO get too hung up about a number - there is far more to a healthy lifestyle than the weight. There is how our clothes fit, how we feel, our BP, our Blood results for things like Diabetes, Iron and Cholesterol. There is also how our hair and skin looks/feels, and the quality of our sleep. Even our general enjoyment of life is a factor.

I just had a peek at your Nutrition Tracker to see what is going on, and most of what I see, your gaining weight can very easily be reversed. There are quite a few days with no breakfast OR with McDonald's. It doesn't take more than a few minutes to start the day by eating some wholesome food - perhaps Rolled Oats in the Microwave and a banana Take a healthy lunch with you - you can pre-make them when you have time and put them into a freezer to just grab-and-go when you go out the door. Put some healthy snacks in as well to take care of any in-between meal hunger. Have some meals bulk-cooked and in the freezer for when you are tired when you get home. All you need do is just zap them.

Don't be tempted to skip ANY meals - eat them all, because you will find that by doing this you are less likely to over-eat when you DO eat, and/or you will make wiser choices with your food.

I can quite honestly tell you that when you notice your clothes starting to fit you better, and others start to comment about how well you look (they won't really realize why to start with) you will get a real buzz and that will give you the impetus to continue. Ensure that you get some exercise in, too! Don't expect the weight to start coming off straight away, but if you remember your portions, wise choice of food AND drinks, and add lots of fruit/veges to your diet, you WILL see results.

You CAN turn this around - have faith in yourself. Enjoy the ride!


Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 2/11/2013 (05:33)
FITGLAMGIRL Posts: 2,045
2/11/13 1:25 A

I don't think you should be afraid of anything on this journey. Face your fears. I wouldn't be a slave to the scale, but it's good to know a starting point and to celebrate progress, but what's more important is have you mapped out a plan of how you are going to lose the weight? It's best you go in with a plan of what you are going to eat tracking your food and your fitness routine. Without a plan, it will be hard to navigate.

You have some really cute pics, those should keep you motivated to get back to that weight again. Good luck on this journey! Now make it happen!

STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,376
2/11/13 12:59 A

It's fine if you start without the scale. I personally liked having beginning measurements and a weigh in, but that was only because I had so far to go, and I want to see how much weight I'd actually lose.

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2/10/13 10:24 P

thanks for the encouragement. really... should i brave up and get on the scale and face the music or is it okay to start without knowing my weight? as you can tell usually i'm a slave to the scale

2/10/13 7:37 P

The hardest part is taking that first step. I kept saying 'tomorrow' until one day I realized that my clothes didn't fit anymore. Then we had a nice day out and my favorite shirts didn't fit. Then I didn't like how my legs rubbed together when I walked, and I literally felt like crap. Then I decided to go out for a walk and when I got home, I realized how much I missed that feeling of being exhausted and I actually felt lighter. My first step was obviously exercising, but for everyone it is different. Maybe set little goals for yourself and work yourself up? Like maybe switch from high-fat milk to a lower-fat milk, go from drinking soda every day to every other day until you are down to none (or like I do, 2 times per week). Sometimes taking the smaller step works better than going all out.

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2/10/13 6:33 P


I think for many of us seeing the photo can be a huge turning point, but remember you need to have some action steps in place in order to move you in the direction of healthy living. Just wanting to lose weight may not be enough to keep you motivated especially when we discover no matter how hard we try we can't determine the rate at which we lose.

Weight loss is not a goal itself, but is the result of meeting goals you can put into action--things like drinking water in place of soda. Walking 10,000 steps a day. Eating at least 5 fruits and veggies each day. When you put the action steps into action, the goal will follow.

But know that you cannot undo what has been done--don't be too hard on yourself. Try using it as a learning tool. What happened to cause you to fall off track? To me this can be one of the biggest turning points in one's journey. When we discover what I like to call, "the why we do, what we do, when we do it" scenario, then we can develop a plan to have in place so we do not repeat the mistake.

Hang in there!

Coach Nancy

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2/10/13 6:27 P

I've been gaining weight like crazy.. When I first started Sparkpeople in 2010 I weighed 170. Got down to 144. Then I gained it all back plus 25 pounds. My last weigh in was 195. That was a week or 2 ago.

I've been gaining weight like crazy. Looked at a picture my fiance took of me today. I have chipmunk cheeks! I'm so so sad. I keep trying to get back on track, but just can't seem to find my groove. And I'm terrified to get on that scale because if I've gotten to 200 I won't be able to handle it....

I guess I just need encouragement.

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