I am married to someone who is emotionally closed off- from practically everyone in his family! I can tell you it's no picnic to be the only one of us who is remotely social or polite to his relatives at family functions. It's very frustrating and am considering a separation. Think very long and hard about any long-term plans with the guy....
I need to decide what to do about my marriage. I have been married for 30 years, but the last 10 years have been hell and it just keeps getting worse. I was once so crazy about him, but now we are so far apart in everything. I have no respect for him at all.
8/16/10 9:23 A
He was honest with you and told you his limitations.
Now you have to honest with yourself and ask if you can stay with him knowing that....
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I've been with someone who is somewhat emotionally retarded for nearly 12.5 years. I think a lot of it has to do with upbringing. He has bursts of affection, and he does show he appreciates me. It can be frustrating sometimes, especially if you are a generally affectionate/touchy feely kinda person-like I am. I grew up in a home where there were lots of hugs, lots of "I love yous", etc. He and I connect on other levels and inspite of some problems, we're determined to make it work. If the two of you really want to make it work, YOU CAN. There is some compromise in just about every relationship.
Edited by: GLITTERFAIRY77 at: 8/15/2010 (11:43)
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I am in a relationship with a guy who just told me he is emotionally closed off, but really likes me...not sure what to do as I really like him, too. I am scared of getting hurt again.
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