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CBLENS
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6/16/13 11:51 A

I never had any labor pains... if my water had not broken I would not have known. The nurses actually had to tell me when I was having a contraction.....Boy was I lucky. And no I did not have any drugs.



10POUNDBABIES
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7/5/12 3:59 P

I'm loving the stories ladies!
@REDSHOES: I'm so sorry you had a poor experience.

My story is unusual for the U.S. I had a freebirth. That means that I birthed my baby at home, without the assistance of an OB or midwife, in whatever fashion I chose.

It wasn't painful so much as it was uncomfortable and HARD work. It was exhausting more than hurting. I had absolutely no medications or interventions! My labor was about 3 1/2 hours long, with only about 2 hours of active labor.

I gave birth to my son in my livingroom while my two older girls slept. I was kneeling down and leaning forward onto a birth ball (yoga ball). My partner held his head as he emerged and eased him gently earthside.

It was so gentle, so comfortable, and profoundly empowering.



10POUNDBABIES
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7/5/12 3:59 P

I'm loving the stories ladies!
@REDSHOES: I'm so sorry you had a poor experience.

My story is unusual for the U.S. I had a freebirth. That means that I birthed my baby at home, without the assistance of an OB or midwife, in whatever fashion I chose.

It wasn't painful so much as it was uncomfortable and HARD work. It was exhausting more than hurting. I had absolutely no medications or interventions! My labor was about 3 1/2 hours long, with only about 2 hours of active labor.

I gave birth to my son in my livingroom while my two older girls slept. I was kneeling down and leaning forward onto a birth ball (yoga ball). My partner held his head as he emerged and eased him gently earthside.

It was so gentle, so comfortable, and profoundly empowering.



REDSHOES2011
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7/5/12 11:24 A

I wish my story was profound I almost lost my youngest son and needed a TVT operation to correct poor midwife and doctoring skills..
I love my kids, one quiet and one full of beans- but never want to have another in this life!



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7/5/12 9:51 A

fun thread!
The night I went into labor with my first baby, my husband was a paratrooper with the 82nd Airborne. He had been jumpmaster on a parachute jump the night I went into labor, and he got hurt with a concussion at the jump. He woke up on the drop zone, and vomited, was unconscious for a bit, then came around and DROVE HOME. My water had broken and I had been told to go to the hospital, so being completely self-absorbed at that point, the minute he walked in the door I made him drive me to the hospital. The next 20 hours of pitocin-induced labor he completely slept through- he was the butt of many jokes from the Dr's and nurses- none of whom thought to assess why he was asleep for so long. I did give birth to a beautiful daughter, and my husband is now fine. Oh, BTW, I am an ER nurse- awesome assessment skills right!



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7/5/12 9:36 A

I love my three children more than anything in the world and it was worth every bit of what I went through to get them.

However, pregnancy was never something I enjoyed. As far as childbirth itself, yes it is painful but for me that was one day and one day is not much in one's life. I can put up with horrible pain for a day (well 3 days for my 3 kids).

It was the nine months of discomfort that I did not enjoy at all. With my first pregnancy, I was horribly sick the whole time. Call it morning sickness, but it lasted all day and it lasted right up until she was born. I could not keep food down unless I took this drug called Bendectin. This was in 1980 and that drug has since been taken off the market. I saw some negative articles about possible birthdefects in the newspaper, but my doctor assured me it was not dangerous. Still, I tried to wean myself off from it. I took one pill instead of 2. I still felt sick but kept the food down. I did this all the way up until she was born. Any day I missed taking the pill, I got so sick I'd have dry heaves and almost ended up in the hospital, dehydrated more than once. I believe my doctor thought it was "in my head" which is ridiculous because if anything I am one to convince myself that I am not sick if I am sick.


I have never seen any proof of a study that showed it was dangerous but there were lawsuits, and though unproven, it was taken off the market eventually. My sister who is a nurse, says there are other things that parents can take for this nowadays.

This extreme sickness caused me to think I did not want to go through it ever again and so I waited six years before getting pregnant again. By that time I was willing to take the risk and also realized it was unlikely I'd be so sick the next time.

And I was not as sick. I always felt kind of icky, never really well or good, but I kept food down with no medication, and in fact I ate to make myself feel better (even though it didn't really make me feel better, of course). I gained a lot with that pregnancy.

Then when our second daughter was about a year old my X decided we should have a 3rd. I guess he wanted to try for a boy. I was happy with our two girls and didn't want any more. But he convinced me and I went off the pill and quickly got pregnant. I threw up a few times early on but as is more normal, this subsided later in the pregnancy and I did not need medication to keep food down, but like with all my pregnancies, I did not feel very good and was not what you would call a "glowing" mother to be.

During the 7th month I learned my then-husband was having an affair! I'll leave off the horrible details but I left him with our three kids when my youngest was just two weeks old, and the next one was barely 2. I really had no where to go, few resources and no money so I went to a brother's house. His wife was all into La Leche and she was extremely judgmental when I fed my newborn formula. But I had no breast milk for him! None at all! My sister in law, for all the expertise they are given in La Leche still did not understand that under extreme stress and distress there will be no milk and really there was no option but to feed my son formular or let him starve and obviously I was not going to let him starve. Eventually I could not take it at my brother's any more and my ex was begging me to come home the whole time besides so I did the easy thing. I stayed with him for a couple more years but as I said, now he is the ex. Sorry this turned out so long, but I feel I should end it happily. As I said before, my 3 kids were worth everything. Our kids are all grown up now and they are wonderful people who make me proud beyond belief.



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7/5/12 1:44 A

I'm single and childless. I've always wanted to know, is childbirth really painful?



10POUNDBABIES
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7/4/12 11:55 P

I couldnt agree more. I always stayed very active and found I had much more energy when I would just get up and get moving. It would get my appetite back and I would eat better then have more energy to get moving which again made my appetite stronger - just kept going up and up. I struggled terribly with my 2nd because I had kidney/blatter/ureter infection throughout the last 4 months which often kept me heavily medicated to manage the pain, but I still made my partner get me out of bed, help me get around the house and comfortable in a chair or the couch so I could do some stretches. It wasnt much, but it helped immensely.



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6/29/12 5:46 P

I've always enjoyed my pregnancies. Stayed in shape. No pain med.'s for labor/delivery - all the babies arrived pretty quickly though. We have six healthy children...well not children anymore. Range in age from 27 down to age 7...three girls, three boys. Last dd arrived when I was 43. No problems. Nursed them all. Our eldest dd just had twins (boy/girl) and she's nursing both. The best thing we can do during pregnancy/delivery/birth and after is to stay in good shape & health to be available for our kids.



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6/29/12 3:11 P

That is wonderful! I'm so glad that despite all the complications and problems you faced you managed to come around to a positive outlook! It's so true that women judge. Even I have been guilty of doing so. I try not to jump to conclusions, but I've found myself judging some friends and family who chose to not even try breastfeeding or scheduled an induction out of convenience. It takes every ounce of strength I have to remind myself that it was their choice to make, not mine! I CHOSE to birth at home and I'm so glad I had the CHOICE!

Breastfeeding can be so difficult after long labors with an epidural. The drugs inhibit our bodies natural hormones which trigger milk production. There's ways to stimulate the milk, but when we're judging why a woman isn't breastfeeding we are too busy to help her! I'm sorry you had to go through that, but it's made you stronger.

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BLUEYUREI
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6/29/12 2:41 P

I had a really good pregnancy. My blood pressure started climbing around the 8th month because of my weight though. My doctor felt it was best to induce a week before my due date. That was the worst thing I have ever encountered. After a day and a half the induction wasn't working. The contractions were starting but I wouldn't dilate past 6. I tried to hold out and decided to get an epidural. The first epidural was botched, the doctor went to far in and I leaked fluid. The second was put lower but took only on my left side. I eventually had to have a c-section for which I had to be completely sedated for. After I went home I ended up with an epidural headache and could not function for a week. Finally went back to the emergency room to get a blood patch that worked right away. YAY!!!
One thing I did notice though was how women can be so judgmental. I was unable to breastfeed. My milk never came in. I was so depressed because I thought I was a bad mother because I had to formula feed my son. I actually had women tell me that I was not a very good mother and I was setting my son up for health problems because I wasn't breastfeeding. It was horrible!!!!!
After a couple of months of feeling bad about myself I finally let everything go. I knew I wasn't a bad mother and no one was going to tell me I was.
And after everything that happened I would do it all over again. My son is now 2 and healthy and happy. He is the joy of my life!!!!

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10POUNDBABIES
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6/29/12 12:38 P

Do you have an inspiring pregnancy, birth, or postpartum story? I want to hear it.

I just posted on my blog about the birth of my son a few months ago and how profoundly it affected my life (including my attitude towards weight loss). I aspire to be a midwife, and to help other women have empowering births, in whatever way they choose to do so. I would love to hear stories of how you felt empowered while you were pregnant, in labor, or during your postpartum period. I always welcome stories of challenges as well. Perhaps you had a difficult pregnancy or labor and are struggling with the aftermath - you're not alone their either. Tell your story. let it be hear.



 
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