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LOTHEVA SparkPoints: (369)
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9/30/11 5:30 P

Some gyms have included day cares enclosed in glass next to the machines. You could have "me time" there, watching the babies. You might could get some of your friends to join too. Also, crockpot meals are awesome. They can be a little more difficult to track food and calories, but you could prepare them whenever you have the most energy, not when the baby just woke up and is cranky, the 9 year old just got home, and you're stressing out about what's for dinner. Or completely make the meal (to put in the oven) along with the sides, and everything and stick it back in the fridge. Then at the time you're normally most stressed, go outside and play ball with the kids. Offer your babysitter to bring her siblings over, or meet them at a park and let you chill out. Good luck!!

PS: In case you go to my page and find out I have no kids... I spent a year and a half taking care of my sister's (then 3) boys when she was very ill (in/out of hospital, bedridden) then again for 5 months (now 4) during her early pregnancy sickness. A lot of these ideas I learned from her, she homeschools and yes, some days can get difficult. It really is worth it. Babies who have SAHM the first 2 years do better in life, are happier and more wealthy than those who immediantly go to daycare.

AHENRY30 Posts: 927
8/16/11 5:06 P

I make sure to have grapes and cut up cucumbers when I know it's going to be a stressful week, they're small and don't cost a lot of calories to eat a lot of. I also use our air popper for popcorn and don't feel as bad eating a ton of that since I don't put anything on it.

COOKI3123 Posts: 2,762
8/16/11 12:52 P

I am a serious emotional eater so all of these ideas are much appreicated!

BURNINGEMBER SparkPoints: (10,999)
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8/16/11 12:05 P

I am a stay at home mom to a 9 year old, soon to be three year old, and a 19 month old. I'm also a college student. I encounter the same battle every day...my husband is currently working 70-80 hours a week. When he gets home from welding all day, he is too tired to care for two energetic toddlers so I can go out. Family is far away now. We have only one babysitter, and she's a busy teenager whose parents all (she has four of them in two seperate homes) work third shift, which limits her availability as she has 5 younger siblings (all six and under) to care for at night. Many people have no clue what a luxury a babysitter truly is. People love to tell me "get a babysitter" ummm.....I'm not trusting just anyone with my kids, thanks!!! I do not trust day care centers with children too young to talk and tell me what happens. My husband works so hard all day he can barely stay awake long enough to eat something when he comes in the door like a zombie. A girls night, as my friends love to suggest? LMAO bwaaa haaaa haaaaa. Not when one's husband has to work 7 days a week.

I try to make sure that I shop healthy and don't have sweets or junk food in the house. That way if I am tempted, all I have here is nuts, fruit, yogurt etc. Bad days when the kids are sick, or teething, or just cranky are the days I find myself most tempted. Sometimes I win, sometimes temptation wins, but overall it is not easy. Sometimes I'll drink a big glass of water and it helps. Try healthy versions of your favorites if you can, and pre-portion snacks so you can grab something and accurately track calories. Measuring goldfish crackers into baggies works well for kids to have easy take-alongs and for mom to know how much she's eating when she has a snack! If I don't measure first I will devour half of my day's calories without thinking about it, so pre-portioning works well for me. Raisins work wonders for sweet cravings, eat one at a time and measure carefully. They also have iron :)

ACADEMAMA Posts: 6
8/16/11 11:07 A

p.s. I really do sympathize. I have a 3yo and an almost-5yo, and a lot of the time since they were born, I've been at home working on my dissertation. It is so, so hard to be in that position all day and to be just a short walk from the kitchen. But you can do it!

ACADEMAMA Posts: 6
8/16/11 11:03 A

It's really hard. I've been there. For years--well, for my whole life!--I've been there. I've finally reached some equilibrium now and I think the difference is this: I have tried to change my view of what I need. I am off in the summers because I'm a college teacher, and by the end of the summer I am just about nuts. It's hard work and it's mind-numbing sometimes, because all of the work you do is ephemeral. The next day it all has to be done again, and the only thing you have to show for it is that your daughter is well cared for. That's very important and totally worth it, but sometimes it feels like you're just treading water.

In the past I have felt stressed, angry, bored, whatever, and I've reached for food as a way of coping. I've felt like I needed it.

Now I try to think about what I really do need. Do I need some private time? Do I need to get out and see someone who is over the age of 4? Do I need a nap? Do I need some uninterrupted work time (I'm a scholar)?

If so, I try to fill the need that I'm really experiencing, not the compensatory desire for food.

If you really need a break, try putting your daughter in the baby carrier or stroller and taking a walk, or going to the mall to window shop for a while, or whatever is relaxing to you. Take a book and go outside to let her play while you read. If you need some private time, hand her over to your husband (does he work out of town or just long days?) as soon as he gets home, and go take a bath.

Whatever it is, YOU have to get it. It is usually easier to turn to food for solace than it is to take care of yourself, but you have to take responsibility for those needs or they will never be met.

You can get some exercise by putting on a video and doing it with your daughter, or you can nap when she takes a nap if she still does. She is old enough to play alone for a few minutes so that you can shower (in a pack-n-play if you can't leave her anywhere else in the house), or to let you prepare a real lunch that will be healthy for you. If you are bored and discontented, try a local SAH parent group or take up a new hobby (something like knitting or gardening that you can do with your daughter along).

Unfortunately, no one else is going to assure that you take care of yourself; however, you can talk to your partner about how you're feeling and ask him to support you. I think a lot of the time, the partner who works has NO IDEA how aimless and overwhelmed the SAH parent feels. If you tell him, maybe you can work out some arrangement so that you can spend a little time taking care of YOU--a girls' night out once every week or two, sleeping in on his off day, or an exercise class or something that would let you burn off some steam. Or maybe you just need a sympathetic ear and he doesn't know how you feel.

Finally, a sick kid is no fun at all. If you have a hard time keeping it together when she's sick, go easy on yourself and just try to figure out how to work out a better normal day when she's recovered.

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8/10/11 4:53 P

for sure! I am trying some fruit, it has next to no calories, walmart has great frozen fruit that takes minutes to thaw in the microwave. Just an idea if you haven't already done it :)

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8/10/11 4:38 P

Thanks for the support! You are right, it won't feel good after if I binge to satisfy an emotional feeling instead of eating for a real hunger. One day at a time!!

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8/10/11 4:12 P

I am SAHM to a teething 9 month old and currently trying to avoid binging myself. I just remember, is it worth it? Usually it doesn't taste that good and I felt like crap afterwards. I just try to see into the future when I have the bag or whatever it is in my hand.

It will get better! just remember you aren't physically hungry! :)

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8/10/11 2:57 P

I am currently a SAHM to a 2 year old. My husband works alot and we don't live near family so I don't have anyone to help me. My daughter is a little under the weather due to a cold and I just feel so overwhelmed. My issue is I seek food when I am stressed/tired/ sad, etc. How do I resist my cravings in my current situation?
I know eating food won't make me feel better in the long run but when you are sleep deprived and stressed, it is so easy to seek comfort in food....any advice or what works for you?

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