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2/11/12 2:15 P

a big part of losing weight is realizing that you deserve to reach your goals. Love yourself and work hard for you and your happiness. If you are one to get burnt out quickly, I wouldn't try anything extreme. Don't look for a quick fix because it didn't take you a few weeks to get to the weight you are so don't expect it to fall off after a few weeks. consistency is key

MICHOU83 SparkPoints: (10,424)
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2/10/12 12:39 P

I have to completely agree that the first thing you cannot do is call yourself some awful name. I had a really hard time the first time on SP when it came to eating right because I didn't like myself. Every single time I got angry with myself, I would eat. Every time I thought I failed, I threw in the towel and had a cupcake. Or taco bell. Or whatever.

This time around, eating right is so much easier. Because I like myself. Because when I eat that banana or spinach salad I think, my body DESERVES to feel good, not just lose weight. I DESERVE to feel lighter and healthier. I DESERVE to reach my goals.

So, start small. These changes do NOT happen overnight. Track EVERY SINGLE THING that goes in your mouth. Every day. You don't have to share it with anyone, but fess up to yourself. When I started I didn't realize I was eating over 3000 calories a day. Well, NO WONDER I wasn't losing weight! Now that I'm really on track, I can not only see, but FEEL how much better.

So, if you want, private message me what your biggest food pitfalls are. I'll be glad to help you figure out some better options. :)

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2/10/12 10:10 A


First off, you've got to stop calling yourself a big fat loser. I'd feel pretty miserable too if I kept calling myself those names. Would you call your best friend a big fat loser to her face ? Well, if you wouldn't say these things to your best friend, WHY do you say them to yourself ? Be kind to yourself as you would to others.

As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and try not to beat yourself up if you eat more than you want. Don't look at weight loss with an all or nothing mentality. ANY healthy thing you do for yourself makes a difference. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself is to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

So, no more beatings, the beatings aren't productive. Start with some small changes. If you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, then set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to walk for 30 minutes each day for one week. If you drink too much soda, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses of water each day for one week. Once you've achieved those goals, you set new goals.

Slow and easy really does win this race. You didn't gain the weight overnight. it's not coming off overnight. thus the need for patience !!!

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2/9/12 5:56 P

Hey Sweetz,

Is it possible that you may be trying too much too soon? If you follow the Spark guide, Stage 2 gets you changing habits GRADUALLY so you aren't in a SUCCESS/FAILURE dichotomy. This all or none mentality is brutal and weighs heavily on us success driven people.

Make a list of your "bad habits". Some examples of mine are:

Coffee: I went from a double double, to double double with milk, to 2 milk 1 sugar, to single single, to 1 milk, to black!

Orange Juice: I could chug a liter at breakfast I swear. I cut it down slowly, measuring how much I consumed.

Cheese: a serious work in progress, I still struggle here. I switched to light for a while but it is just not the same so I am working on portions.

This is important: JUST CHANGE ONE!!! Spark people has great swap articles for healthier choices, so I'm sure you can easily find what you could switch.

Do this a little at a time. Try and go a whole day with the swap, then go two days, then three, then a week etc. When you can handle that one, add another.

No one expects you fly a plane tomorrow. That's just crazy! So it expecting perfection overnight!

Chin up!


SWEETZ11 Posts: 99
2/9/12 5:17 P

Recently, I've been off track with my food choices! It's like I'm up, then I'm down. One day I'm wanting to eat right, then the next day I don't.

Could someone give me some ideas, on starting fresh tomorrow?

I'm not taking a chance to step foot on the scale, mainly, cause I'm afraid of what it might read.
Also, will juicing, just for a day or two, jump kick my weight lose? I feel like a BIG FAT loser! Just cannot get motivated, like I were at the beginning. Please help!

Edited by: SWEETZ11 at: 2/9/2012 (17:18)
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