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GRANDMAFRANNY SparkPoints: (383,477)
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6/7/13 6:24 P

I am Grandma Franny and you're all wondering "what is she doing here". I am 72 3/4 yrs. old I hate to brag but the word is EXPERIENCE. Been there done that. This may not be helpful but when you talk to your "sweetie" look into his eyes. REALLY LOOK. THE EYES CAN SAY A LOT. GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU BRIDE'S TO BE. JUST WONDERING IS THIS GOOD ADVICE ?????????????????

CDGOMEZ SparkPoints: (992)
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5/31/13 1:06 P

I am no longer a bride to be...well. My dude and I have been having some issues, especially after he lost his job. Long story short, he is in TN for the next 6 months to a year. I miss him dearly, but I think this break will do us some good.

TERRI77 SparkPoints: (399,068)
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5/23/13 8:16 P

Amen, Sarah.

MCCRAEE1 SparkPoints: (7,803)
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5/22/13 3:07 P

20+ years ago I found out that my fiance was having an affair, with my boss's wife. It was heart breaking, embarrassing, and could have been a career ender. But, I'm so happy it happened and really did work out for the best and then some. I am married to the best man ever, we have two very great kids. Really. I am the luckiest woman in the world. BEST. THING. EVER

MNJONES2 Posts: 2,038
5/20/13 1:50 P

My daughter broke off her engagement and called off the wedding as they were getting ready to send the invitations!! It was the right thing to do and she is now married to a wonderful man who is right for her. Dont despair - you will find the right person for you too.

LOTUS737 Posts: 3,597
4/9/13 1:22 P

You'll find the right person- it really does take time and you never know when you'll meet him!

SARAHMO4 Posts: 335
4/7/13 11:14 P

Its not fun and may hurt for a while. I broke off an engagement with a guy over 5 years ago in early 2008. I dont miss him or his not caring, it has made me stronger in a lot of ways. I have a lot of friends that are engaged or married and not having anyone can be hard or downright miserable. Its like why or where is the guy for me. I have made myself stronger in the meantime thorugh god and what he says about marriage and relationships. The bible, prayer and help with a mentor to work on recurring themes like not being a pushover, not being so stubborn or putting walls up because past experiences has helped a lot.

I believe god has created the world, every living thing in it and everything else. God has a plan for every area of my life including marriage and other peoples lives as well, if he says no marriage or kids it may hurt. His reasons are for the better though and trying to have control where he needs to wont help anything for his sake or mine. His struggles make us lean on him to become stronger and be a better christ follower in my experience. Lifes joys can be the reward for following him. I say can because nothing is a sure thing, we dont know for sure and God does seem to work in unique ways to answer questions.

SMASH637 Posts: 392
7/18/12 8:42 P

Sorry to hear that your engagement has ended, EVAMARIE, but the right one is out there for you - and you'll know when you find him! :)

VMRJJ04 SparkPoints: (0)
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7/14/12 6:40 P

Sometimes we just need to take a step back and start fresh. I wish the best for both of you. Everything happens for a reason. As much as people may be tired of hearing this, I believe it to be true. Wish you the best. Don't stop sharing :-)

NOLAMAEW SparkPoints: (0)
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7/6/12 12:10 A

What brought me back to SP was the ending of my 4 year engagement (5 year relationship). I decided that while I was suffering through the pain and saddness that I didn't want my weight to go any higher (311 lbs is high enough). So I used SP as my friend, when I was lonely or sad or needed to just talk I would log into SP and read or talk through message boards.

I am happy to say that we have reconcilled but being stronger because I have new "wants" from the time spent on SP is actually part of that reason. I can't say that we don't have a long road of repair ahead of us, but I can say that having SP here to help me through my new life journey will continue to be important.

My boyfriend (we decided to start fresh and not be engaged til we were ready again); is very supportive of SP and my lifestyle changes. We are going to join the gym together, which I can't wait to do. We are also talking about me joining as a volunteer on the firefighters team he is a member of (I agreed to do for him as he has agreed to do for me). It's not perfect, but it is nice to have my man home again.

After all that...(I didn't mean to make this about me); I can say that things have a way of working themselves out when you least expect it. Learn to love you and take care of you, a mate will come along that sweeps you off your feet and you will be happy to have had the journey to meet him.

CLD61376 SparkPoints: (0)
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6/15/12 6:33 P

I know it's hard, but keep your chin up and your heart open. He's out there somewhere. Take care

LASHERRMA SparkPoints: (0)
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6/12/12 9:22 A

Once you quite looking you will be surprised, it may take a while but I believe their is someone for everyone.

6/11/12 11:22 A

I was involved in a 2 year marriage that was filled with tears, arguments and depression. When my ex told me he wanted a divorce I was stunned. He didn't try to work anything out with me or fight for our marriage in any way. It was a devastating time for me where I thought I would never again find a soul mate.

Two years after my divorce I met David. He was like a breath of fresh air. I had finally found my best friend and soulmate. It is amazing how you fell when you met the "right" guy.

I didn't believe in fairy tale romance but that changed when I met David. I heard birds singing and saw fireworks when I first kissed him! Its out there!

I never regret my marriage or my relationship with my ex. It has made me a stronger and more independent woman who knows exactly what I want with my life.

When David proposed to me on (on May 18th!!) I cried happy tears. He treats me like a princess and that is what every woman deserves. So dont you worry. Your prince is out there. Sometimes it takes a LOT of dates and maybe a marriage or two before you find him!


DRAGYN5 Posts: 353
5/31/12 3:56 P

I'm a wedding planner and we have a business that does DJ, photo and video for weddings. I have been through some break ups with my brides. It is always for the best and they move on to have much better relationships in the future! They use it as a learning lesson of what not to do! Prince Charming is out there, he may not be perfect, but he may be perfect to you!

I was in a bad marriage for 10 years, got divorce and then found Alan. We have been together for 12 years and he is my Prince Charming!!! He is sweet, smart, romantic and the love of my life!

Good luck in the future and don't settle!

HEALTHNBEAUTY SparkPoints: (7,969)
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5/30/12 12:49 P

sorry to hear that but happy to know you haven't given up on life or finding the love you deserve!!

YNKECHICK06 Posts: 128
5/28/12 11:23 P

I totally agree with SCTK519. Love is about finding someone you CAN live without...but don't want to. Being comfortable, and spontaneous, sharing the same views, having fun...all those things matter. Women spend so much time looking for "prince charming" that they tend to forget what qualities they actually are looking for.

I love the disney princess's and will more then likely raise my future children on them. But come on ladies. Prince Charming doesn't exist. Problems and hard times and disappointments exist. It's finding someone you want to handle those problems, hard times and disappointments with. If he's not right, find someone who is. :)

KYRSTINRO Posts: 945
5/27/12 6:17 A

better than going through a divorce, after 7 yrs of being together (out of which 3 married)...

it hurts, yes, but at least you know what you had besides you

keep your eyes and heart open; you never know where the one comes from...
after i picked myself up , i hooked up with my best friend...we just got married

and yes, indeed it's about being compatible and having the same views of what live, love, everything should be.

Edited by: KYRSTINRO at: 5/27/2012 (06:20)
SCTK519 Posts: 2,086
5/25/12 12:42 P

It's better that you found out now before getting married as opposed to being married, having kids, and then splitting up. It's unfortunate and sad no matter what though and hard to go through.

Truth be told though, it's not about fighting for someone or being swept off your feet. It's about compatibility, similar views and goals in life. You could meet a guy who brings flowers to you everyday and takes you to fancy restaurants, but if you want kids & he doesn't, it's never going to work. My husband has bought me flowers maybe 3 times in the decade we've been friends and 4 years since we've been together, but we think about things the same way, for the most part, we communicate well, and he's the person I want to talk with for the rest of my life. I'd gladly give up all the bouquets in the world for talking to him for 10 minutes. It's about real life and real expectations. No matter what happens, you'll be okay. :)

UPBEAT551 SparkPoints: (28,516)
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5/25/12 6:16 A

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened!

EVAMARIE87 Posts: 15
5/25/12 12:29 A

well, I was supposed to be married 3 days before my birthday last year but we broke off the wedding 6 months before. I guess it just wasn't meant to be, I wanted him to fight for me, but he gave up so effortlessly. Is the man of my dreams out there somewhere waiting to sweep me off my feet... I always ask myself. am I just being to foolish to thithat fairytale ending is out there??? I think he's out there, and congratulations to all you guys finding happiness, I wish you the best.

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