Hi there , and let me say , I TOTALLY feel your pain !! DD is soon 11 , and she has been growing like a weed , as well as getting more exercise . This translates into a LOT more food , and since she is a creature of habit , I felt the same as you do . I took her to Barnes and noble and we talked about HEALTHY vs thin , among other things . She choose a book entitled " The care and keeping of you " and LOVES it !! Talks about many things , all in a light , friendly manner which does not seem to threaten her . She recently began making shopping lists with me , and adores cooking . Hope this helps , and have a beautiful weekend !!!