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LAURA_LYNN
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1/22/13 1:08 P

Thanks everyone for the feedback! :)



DENRNAJ
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1/19/13 12:23 P

You've got the Serenity Prayer at the bottom of your posting, follow it. You can make changes, it's just difficult. Do not give up on yourself- there is way too much living to do!



MINE_AH13
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1/19/13 3:55 A

A few people have already said it, start slow, and Im going to say it again. Start Slow!

Someone said this to me and It has helped me a lot. "You start a slow as you need to. Start with something so simple you hardly realize you're doing anything (for me that was eating a healthy breakfast EVERY day) then maybe every day or every week or even every month you add to it, but no matter how slow you start, you are still one step ahead of where you were yesterday and that is something to be proud of."

Its been two weeks for me and I have the eating under control as far as veggie/water intake, frequency, and calorie range, but I'm working on fine tuning the balance between carbs/fat/protein/sodium/etc. Just the little changes in my diet have given me the energy to WANT to go for a walk and for today that is enough. Tomorrow I might add a little more, etc. but for the first time in my life I actually wake up excited about getting healthy. I'm not worried about my dress size or how many more days of only grapefruit I have to deal with, because I'm doing it for ME. I'm doing it so that I can be healthy and strong and I'm doing it at MY pace.

You have the drive obviously, so use it! Don't burn it out, feed it!



THEMEDI8OR04210
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1/19/13 3:27 A

Just a thought, but you have set a HUGE goal for yourself. Maybe start a little smaller first? I checked out your pics gallery, Maybe you could start by getting back to the 260. Its a shorter goal, hence less daunting and you know you can do it. You've been there before! Besides, you take a hotter pic at 260 than most of us do at 160! emoticon



CECISMOMMY09
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1/18/13 4:56 P

I gained all my weight back to! but here I am back and ready for action!! you gotta re start somewhere the point is at least your trying again!!! stay positive!



ARCHIMEDESII
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1/18/13 12:36 P

LAURA_LYNN,

You can't beat yourself up because you've regained the weight. That is something that has happened to every single Spark member at one time or another. Twice in my life I weighed over 200+ pounds, a while ago I decided that I wasn't going to let that happen a third time. I had a turning point and so have you.

You can't change the past, but you CAN influence and change the future. Start with some simple goals first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. good health isn't all or nothing. every little bit really does make a difference.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others !! If you need support, the spark community will support you.





SP_COACH_NANCY
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1/18/13 9:25 A

Hi Laura,

As a former yo-yo dieter myself, I once joked that I had lost so much weight over the the 30 plus years I spent dieting that there could literally be 2 other Nancys walking on this planet. The reality is, I was really good at losing weight, but horrible about keeping it off because I got stuck in the diet mentality only to go back to my old ways once I got down to certain weight.

You can do this, but it may take looking at this journey from a different perspective--making this a new way of living. This can be quite overwhelming but the deal is, you do not have to make drastic changes all at once to reap the benefits. I recently read that a 10 minute exercise session, such as a brisk walk, can cause the body to undergo many positive changes--everything from lowering our blood pressure to making our body more insulin sensitive.

SparkPeople's program is designed to allow for gradual changes--while it may take longer to see the results, if the result of taking things slowly is not only losing weight, but keeping it off for a lifetime, than you have learned the habits of healthy living.

Hang in there! By coming to the message boards and asking for guidance you have taken a big step forward to meeting your goals.

I wish you well!

Coach Nancy



SLIMMERKIWI
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1/18/13 5:05 A

Hi LAURA_LYNN!

I am wondering if you might be suffering from depression and possibly some related conditions - PCOS and Hypothyroidism are two such ones that can cause you to feel like this and have a weight issue.

My suggestion is to make an appointment with your Dr ASAP and tell him/her what is going on. He/she will be able to do a physical and bloods to see if there is anything going on medically which can be dealt with appropriately. It might also be worth discussing a referral to a Therapist who can help you with this. They will be able to give you the tools to deal with the up's and down's of this journey, and any other issue/baggage that you may have that could be holding you back.

Apart from that, just start this journey off with baby steps, allowing your mind/body to get used to the changes before adding something else to the mix. Ensure that you are getting plenty of fruit/veges, and also quality protein (not from processed meats) to help to keep you full for longer. Wholegrains are also a good source of food to help to keep you full for longer, and provide you with much needed nutrients.

Don't be tempted to under-eat or skip meals. It is important that we meet our calorific requirements, and get some exercise in too. Water is a wonderful choice of drink - no calories and generally free.

I wish you well on your journey
Take care,
Kris



LAURA_LYNN
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1/18/13 3:38 A

4 years ago, i lost 70 pounds....2 years ago, i found i had slowly gained it all back....and i havent lost any weight since then....for the last 2 years, ive felt so devastated over gaining this all back....i've cried over it for the last two days, nearly all day long, both days....ive cried a lot over it the last 2 years....ive started and stopped several times in the last 2 years, only to find myself back at square one......crying over it is so not productive...taking action and doing something about it is productive and i'd rather not cry about it, i feel better doing something about it rather than crying about it....but @#$#% im having such a hard time here....will i ever get this together? emoticon



 
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