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6/9/13 6:24 A

There are hotlines for immediate support which might give you some relief.

I am sorry for your loss.

ANARIE Posts: 12,665
6/8/13 4:09 P

Exactly what LadyCJM said. There's almost always a Victims' Assistance program that can get you free counseling and maybe even send someone to court with you for comfort and support. You're in a terribly complicated situation, and you should have professional support to help you work through it. I'm a little surprised they didn't already offer it, but you should definitely get whatever help you ask for.

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6/8/13 1:16 A

Ask about Victims Assistance. Most cities have a group. They are there for you, to help you through this difficult time. Ask the lawyer who summoned you or call the courthouse.


LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,332
6/7/13 10:29 A

I would suggest talking to a therapist, counselor or find a support group.
It is going to take time to get back to normal life regardless of what you do.

KNUCKLES145 Posts: 13,748
6/6/13 9:46 P

there are online grief groups too. I am a member of TAPS (tragedy assistance program for survivors) which helps people who have lost somebody in the military. They used to have an online chat although I haven't been there in awhile (my husband died 9 years ago)

Also talk to the police department. they may have counselors available or somebody they could recommend.

and this is a Sparks issue, because often people who go through a something traumatic like this eat their way through it. in fact I wonder if there might be sparks teams about grief.

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6/6/13 9:10 P

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Talk to someone in your church, a friend, a family member, or God!!!!

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SHERYLDS Posts: 13,137
6/6/13 6:55 P

Have you tried contacting any of the churches near you.
I'm sure they have support groups for people in grief.

They usually extend themselves even to non-church members
Hope you find peace

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 6/8/2013 (09:35)
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6/6/13 4:39 P

thank you on top of it he was military about to deploy and was killed state side..... might go to his unit and ask thy might know .. im not sure


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6/6/13 4:37 P

wow. I know there are support groups for family/friends who are victims of violent crimes. I'm not sure how to contact them though. I bet the cops that you have been talking with could give you some info.

I would imagine everything seems very surreal.

I had a relative who was killed saving an informant in an undercover drug operation. With cops, you kind of know in the back of your head that these things are a possibility. It was still a shock when it happened.

even more out of nowhere for you. I'm really sorry for you and the friends & family.

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6/6/13 4:24 P

idk im not sure about all that i just need to figure something out my best friend was murdered by another friend and now i have to appear in court and talk about it just not sure anymore

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6/6/13 4:13 P

emoticon very sorry for your loss

are there any support groups in your area? Often if you can find people with a similar experience, it helps.

or you may be able to channel you grief to a worthy cause. I have a good friend whose daughter died in a single car accident during her senior year in high school. She was a runner, and he started a 5k to fund track scholarships at her high school. It's always the Saturday before Father's Day.

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6/6/13 4:00 P

does anyone have any advise on how to grieve after losing someone in a horrible way ? im just having a really bad day with it and i just cant seem to get through this days with out setting me back on everything ....

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