The only time I remember that happening, to me, was way back when my Son was about a year old. We were at the city park, playing, and this lady came up and asked me when my next baby was due? Needless to say, I about wanted to burst into tears!
So, to this day, I do not utter a single word, about a woman being pregnant, unless SHE brings it up, first. Sometimes I do get tempted, though, when I see these women, who just look so cute, pregnant, and they carry weight ONLY in their belly (and it's obvious they ARE pregnant), so their backside is still tiny. But, I don't..it's safer!
I notice that my clothes sometimes show off my rounded, non-pregnant belly. I am 20 pounds lighter than I was at my heaviest (174). Even at my thinest (120), I still have a really small pooch. It drives me crazy!!!! At 37, I'm hoping to actually meet a guy and get married, and become preggers for real. Until then, I will keep eating right, working out, and watching my clothing choices.
I heard that comment a couple of times in my life. Not the most comfortable feeling, is it?
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1 12/19/12 7:55 P
'This reminds me of the beginning of the year when the mailwoman for my work asked "when are you due?" I blankly looked at her and again she asked, "when are you due?" I gave her a confused look. and she pointed at my stomach and side "your baby." totally shocked threw out an "I'm not!"
I'm not sure which one of us was more embarrassed. Her for assuming I was or me for looking like I was.
I had a young male co-worker ask me if I was pregnant. I told him there were three quetions he should never ask a woman, "How old are you?", "How much do you weigh?", and "Are you pregnant?" He got the message. Nowadays I look too old to get pregnant. So hopefully next year I will stop looking so fat too. LOL!
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202 12/19/12 3:08 P
funny story...when i was 8 months pregnant with my 2nd child i had to get my car registered...unfortunately the government office kept giving me the run around saying u need this paper and that paper ....then after getting all the papers they told me one was the wrong paper....by this time i had run around and been back to this office 3 times....i had had enough of this red tape so i decided to pretend i was going into labour ( damn my acting must have been good lol) they kept wanting to call me an ambulance but i refused to go anywhere until my car was registered. Five minutes after that they had my registered papers in my hand. thats when i stood up and said false alarm and walked out the door
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285 12/19/12 10:57 A
I agree! Don't make personal comments to people you don't know! And I find this one especially annoying for personal reasons... One of my best friends had a pregnancy where she knew in advance that her son could not live more than a few hours. Well, after you have a baby there's a little while where you still look pregnant and random people kept asking when she was due. Very upsetting...
Any kind of pregnancy question is rude anyway, for many different reasons. People might not be pregnant, but overweight or poorly dressed, or they might be pregnant, but not be willing to talk about it (not married, not sure if they'll keep the baby, just found out the baby has a terrible disease, miscarried several times already, serving as a surrogate for another family, etc.). Bottom line, pregnancy is private. In the old days, and in very conservative societies today, women were/are shielded from those kinds of questions by mostly staying in the house. These days we have the freedom to be a part of everyday working society, but that does not mean our bodies are other people's business. I never ask about pregnancy. If the person wants to talk about it, she'll bring it up; and sooner or later, someone will throw a baby shower anyway. With people I know, I'll find out in time, and with total strangers, I don't care, nor is it any of my business.
I don't wear empire waisted shirts anymore, I haven't been mistaken for being pregnant yet, but I imagine it would be soon if I kept wearing them.
Why do they make those shirts for anyone that isn't pregnant? it doesn't make them look thinner by any means. lol
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5,252 11/25/12 7:35 A
I used to work with a guy who loved to say "unless you see the woman giving birth, don't ask her if she's pregnant." I forget who the comedian was who said that - maybe Dave Barry...?
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85 11/24/12 3:33 P
I one time had an old lady ask me when I was due. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she kept INSISTING I was pregnant. Unfortunately, it bugged me so much I broke down crying and said I'm not pregnant, I'm fat. All while working the register at K-Mart.
I've gotten that comment too. It happened to me while I was sitting in a clinic waiting room for a normal doctor visit. I see it as karma because I once said that to someone in a ballet class. Never again.
We just had this come up at work...our office temp asked one of the least favorite girls if she was pregnant. It's completely rude. I told her that no one else there was pregnant either and not to ask anyone else.
I can't believe that anyone in this day and age would think it is ok to ask anyone unless you know...
last year when i was 20+ lbs heavier this old (OLD) man was standing in line next to me and asked me when i was due... having never been pregnant before i could only guess that i looked about 6+ months and lied to him. he had to be in his 80's and did that thing that old men do and hold on to your elbow when they talk to you (at least thats what my 90 y/o grandfather does). i didnt have the heart to break it to him that i wasnt. and this was a complete stranger. around that same time a customer i've had for YEARS told me congrats, and that he didnt want to say anything since i never told him but "since it was obvious now"... i dont wear empire-style shirts anymore lol.
at least now i guess i only look about 3-4 months along. lol. it sucks carrying it all in front.
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2,489 10/24/12 8:24 A
Ack, I know exactly how you feel. I gained A LOT of weight from 2 pregnancies, a lot! And for some reason most of my weight is in my tummy. It looked like I had been pregnant for the last 4 years. My neighbour mistakenly thought I was pregnant a year after giving birth to my daughter. My mom knew I wasn't pregnant but when I told her my weight loss goals at the beginning of my journey with Spark's. She said "Oh that's wonderful! I didn't want to say anything before but you look like you're pregnant!".... errr, thanks mom.
Anyways, I maybe look like I'm 3-4 months pregnant now. :P I'm down almost 30 lbs but the weight is still holding on in my tummy but at least it's easy to hide now. Hopefully the next 15-20 lbs loss will concentrate more on my "problem area" because there's not many other places to lose it from.
lol, yeah, no one ever asks my husband! he's more than twice my size. so not fair!
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573 10/23/12 3:46 P
Had a friend one time when I was pregnant with my youngest daughter (and she knew I was pregnant), who looked at me, then looked at the girls dad and asked when HE was due! Needless to say, his belly was bigger than mine and he was NOT happy! Just a funny story.
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26 10/23/12 3:34 P
I'm 33 and still fat but taking charge and getting my stuff together.
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396 10/23/12 2:16 P
But on the plus side at least you are still young enough to be mistaken for pregnant. There is no question that I am only fat!
Today's motivation came from the server at my local bagel bakery... i've been going here for years, and today she said "you're married right?" (yes), "and you're pregant!" (no...)
guess i wont be visiting there for a little while. so friends are going indoor rock climbing and i will be joining them tomorrow. never done it, and really out of shape (but hey only 153ish lbs, WAY down from when i was 170+ a little over a year ago).
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