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5/27/10 9:57 P

I'm obsessive. I track every single thing that passes my lips and if I go over my calories I'll jump on the treadmill to work them off. That being said, I have my goal weight and I do NOT want to go under it. It puts me in the middle of the healthy weight range for my height and I'm happy with that.
I will become obsessive with maintaining when I get to that point. All because I never EVER want to go back to the way I was because I was miserable and I don't ever want to be like that again. Now that I know what life is like when you're not obese I can't see myself ever letting myself get like that again.

SJT138 Posts: 25
5/27/10 9:35 P

DO NOT let someone else's critisim deter you from your goals of being healthy. My husband did that to me & I gained it back & right back here I am.

PERSEPHONEROSE Posts: 192
5/27/10 9:24 P

You need to live your life joyfully. This is not a dress rehersal. Being health concious is good. It makes you feel better when you exercise and eat right therefore increasing your life quality. But, when you start feeling guilty for eatting a cookie once in a while you need to remind yourself life is to be enjoyed. The key word is balance. emoticon

AWAITING1 Posts: 2,037
5/27/10 8:38 P

When I first started Sparks several years ago... It took over my life. I went crazy printing every article... Creating books filled with the information. I must have spent a lot of money on the printing. Recipes that most of them I didn't even try. Now I'm trying to be careful... I've learned that maybe less is more


MILLYG21 Posts: 22
5/27/10 8:07 P

This is a good discussion, I feel that part of the obsession comes from the fact that we are finally paying attention. We finally realize what we want and that it will be a lot of work at first. Like most things in our culture, creating a healthy lifestyle may present a bit of a challenge. I have been trying to get in shape on and off again, and I think now I am going to put in a 110%once and for all. At the moment I feel a bit obsessed, but I hope that this will diminish once I become adjusted to this lifestyle change.

PTCAKES Posts: 638
5/27/10 7:57 P

I view SP as a behavioral modification program, with the perk of feeling better, being healthier and losing weight.

I know I have to login everyday to make sure my mind is wired towards healthy choices. It is through the message boards, blogging, tracking, and trivia that I learn how to be a healthier person.

CHATHOMP Posts: 16
5/27/10 7:54 P

There was indeed a time when I was certifiably obsessed: I told everyone about what I was doing, I tracked several times a day, and I even felt downright smug at how in-control I was over others who indulged in foods that I labeled "bad." I'm in a different place where I feel as though I'm no longer at the extreme. I am taking my time losing the weight. Moreover, I'm often out and about and can now make much better choices when carting around my own food isn't the most appropriate or timely thing to do. I also love it when I do carry around my little thermal bag of the things that I love to eat.

So, how do I not become obsessive? For me, finding a more neutral ground took some time, some gathering of wisdom about what all "this" is for: it's for eating more healthy and feeling good, doing the best thing for my body and in modeling good lifestyle behaviors for my children, and recognizing that I'm human and will occasionally indulge. But I'm proud to say that I haven't done the bingeing that I used to do. I really do love that I'm in better control of my eating and am exercising more regularly.

SJACOB26 Posts: 28
5/27/10 7:31 P

I'm rather new at SP and a bit obsessed....and I know for me, that the obsession will wear off a bit. I'm OK w/ being obsessed for now. I'm learning a lot though and LOVE the feedback I'm getting thru the reports and other tools we have on SP. I keep encouraging my hubby to use it as well. We are both trying to be healthier for ourselves, for each other and to teach our sons a healthier lifestyle that includes good nutrition and exercise. I think you can learn a lot thru a little obsession here....I've learned that I really don't eat too many calories (somewhere around 1200-1500 per day) but I do eat way too much fat, too little protein and carbs vary a great deal. Gotta load up on those veggies and fruits!!!!

KAHNEFAN09 Posts: 74
5/27/10 7:30 P

When I was obsessed I lost the weight and felt terrific, Then when I stopped I gained all back and more. If that what it takes to feel cute and sexy, I'll do it. I like it so much better that way.

ANDERSONO12 Posts: 34
5/27/10 6:59 P

I try to eat a variety of food. Some days I go a little higher on the calories, some days less. I try to eat a really healthy diet with occasional treats. I choose not to see food merely as "fuel"--why take pleasure out of something that is meant to be enjoyed and that is meant to nourish us? Taste is one of our five senses. I think it's terrible when we don't appreciate that.

WENDYBIRD04 Posts: 66
5/27/10 6:15 P

@ THERAPIST2 You HIT the nail on the HEAD!! emoticon

For the first time, in a LONG time. I am in control. I am making this happen. I am becoming a healthier me. I track my calories diligently. I allow myself to a treat daily and I don't let guilt wash over me. I feel good about where I am at. Sure maybe I would lose weight quicker if I didn't eat that cup of ice cream or that mocha from starbucks. But that's not what I'm going for. I am working on creating a new lifestyle.

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ABRACADAVER6 Posts: 384
5/27/10 6:03 P

Agree with the time issue, but I know that when I identify that I am being more lax, I try to focus more on tracking food for a week to get on track again. Obsession? when I first started...I was absolutely obsessed with tracking and logging. Now it is something I do when I check in with myself to keep things real and to keep me accountable!

LADYIRIS313 Posts: 926
5/27/10 5:58 P

2 words : Time Served.
After you've done this a good long while, it really becomes second nature and the obsessive nature of it naturally drops away. It becomes your new 'normal life.'

THERAPIST2 Posts: 429
5/27/10 5:49 P

Diligent, focused, motivated, consistent, religious, ....

there are tons of better words than obsessive. When we have not cared about what we eat and suddenly start caring, we should realize we are beginning to do what others who control their weight most of the time have been doing most of their lives. That is why they don't have a closet full of 5 different size clothes. That is why there can be no end to the diet, just a continuation of the life style we are learning.

So many of us know we gain as soon as we don't pay attention to what goes into our mouths. For me, it took 10 months to lose 65 pounds and I plan to continue what I have learned from SP and so many of you. Tracking, hopefully, will remain a big part of my life- at least several times a week, and daily if the scale creeps up. I don't feel obsessive. I feel in control for the first time in years! emoticon emoticon emoticon

SKEPHART827 Posts: 556
5/27/10 5:21 P

I have to admit that I am a little obsessive with this. Then again, I tend to be obsessive about a lot of things in my life. It's just part of who I am. Either way, this obsession has worked really well for me. I lost a lot of weight and am in the best shape of my life. I love this so much that I have become a personal trainer and hope to help others who want to get in shape.

SWEETLIPS Posts: 4,879
5/27/10 5:16 P

For the first time, during this weight loss time, I am focused on moving and fueling. Not obsessive but need to use all the tools available to me.

TEACHYGIRL Posts: 78
5/27/10 5:00 P

Lynn0488 I think you said the most important thing, obsessing or not, focus or not, whatever, when you mess up, "get back on track and don't throw it all away". Too often those of us that struggle with weight see this battle as un-win-able and give up. We have to just keep on keeping on and making those healthy choices that will one day (even if it seems far away)get us there.

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5/27/10 4:29 P

I don't think of it as an obsession. It's more about being conscientious of the choices you are making. Also, when a healthy lifestyle becomes a habit you shouldn't have to dwell on it too much. Besides, we all KNOW where the other alternative will lead and, personally, I have no intention of going back there. I hope you find this helpful.
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PRINCESSPIXY Posts: 202
5/27/10 4:28 P

I think it HAS to be a bit of an obsession.
I think "everyone's got a hobby, perfecting myself is mine" (I NEVER say this out loud).

I'm buying sexier clothes, I'm considering a boob job and tummy tuck after a year of having lost 70 lbs and the electrolysis on my bikini line and underarms makes me stupidly happy!
If life and happiness are just an illusion, I want to be the pretty, skinny one near the illusionary pool in a bikini!

LYNN0488 Posts: 878
5/27/10 4:16 P

i guess a lot of you are right, that this obsession is kind of a good thing, or necessary. Its probably because I have been obsessed with this and watching my calories and making sure I workout, that I have been able to lose the 15lbs I put on about a year and a half ago, and most importantly keep it off (between the [past year, ive always stayed between 127 and 132lbs).

so i guess its good that im so focused on this...i guess i just wish i wouldnt feel so guilty when i dont do everything i had planned, or aren't as strict with myself. But i guess as long as im not seriously stressing out over it, everything is okay. im trying to make sure this is a lifestyle for me, so i tell myself its okay to "mess up" every now and then, because it WILL happen over my lifetime, but just that i need to always b sure to get back on track and not throw it all away.

MARLADIA Posts: 1,265
5/27/10 4:08 P

I GUESS I WILL ALWAYS BE OBSESSIVE. FOR ME AND THE AMOUNT OF WEIGHT I NEED TO LOOSE I NEED TO TRACK MY FOOD FOR EACH MEAL AND EVERY DAY. FIND IF I DON'T I GO OVER ON WHAT I AM SUPPOSE TO HAVE AND THE SCALE GOES BACK UP. I HAVE BEEN FAT MOST OF MY LIFE AND I HAVE DECIDED THAT IS GOING TO CHANGE. IF I HAVE TO BE OBSESSIVE I GUESS I WILL BE OBSESSIVE.

ASHLORIE19 Posts: 97
5/27/10 4:06 P

Obsession is an excellent way to put it. I have been "dieting" for the past six months and I would definitely called it that. Im continuing on working out but I do have to admit that I find myself getting a little carried away. I wish it was something that happened quickly so there wasnt any need to obsess over it but thats not the case. Good luck!

CHAOTIC.CATCH22 Posts: 91
5/27/10 4:00 P

As a lot of others have said, I think it really has to do with who you are and what works for you. As long as you are healthy and HAPPY I wouldn't call it an obsession. Continuing to push yourself in your workouts is a good thing, unless you're pushing so hard you're in danger of injury. Avoiding empty-calorie cookies is a good thing, unless you're avoiding so much that you're missing out on fun and opportunities.

What concerns me about your post is that you seem to be aiming to lose more weight almost against your will. If you actually want to lose a few more pounds and can do so without being underweight, go for it. But if you're feeling compelled to lose weight when you don't want or need to perhaps you should re-evaluate and refocus your goals and thinking somewhat.

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5/27/10 3:41 P

This is a great discussion. I wish I could add something more helpful . . . but all I can say is that I'm being careful.

I first joined this site in 2007, and it "helped" my already disordered eating behavior spiral into an all-out battle with anorexia. Now that I've emerged healthy and well-rounded, I've gained far more than I needed to and am looking to trim down.

However, this time it will be different. I'm not beating myself up if my body doesn't cooperate with what this site says I need. For example, if I'm hungry and I've already "fulfilled" my calories for the day, I'm not going to starve myself (setting me up for a binge), but instead have a small, healthy snack.

Also, my goals are different now. In 2007, my goal was CONTROL CONTROL CONTROL, and also to keep getting skinnier. I had no end weight in mind, I felt good only if I kept on losing. Now, I have a healthy goal weight in mind, I'm exercising moderately (in 2007 I was compulsively overexercising), feeding my body responsibly, and focusing on other life goals. I want to be thinner so I can participate in life (hiking, running, wrestling with my pups, feeling strong and capable), not just so I can chalk up another ounce lost. I'm living for NOW, not for when I'm skinner, or when I can fit into a certain size jeans. All we have is now, anyway. Might as well enjoy it, and enjoy the PROCESS of losing weight as much as (or even more than) the end result.

But still . . . I'm participating in SP carefully this time around. I'm not sure if this will help anyone, but that's my story! :)

GLYNNB Posts: 31
5/27/10 3:32 P

Stardust that is a great testimony! Good for you!

URSIEBE Posts: 1
5/27/10 3:21 P

Honestly, I think we all have a tendency to obsess about something. Food is no different..if you've struggled with weight you have probably been on both sides of the spectrum. Dieting can really take over your life in a bad way if you allow it too..you need to find a balance that works for you. I have found that for myself I need to be obsessive or I won't stick to my goals...if I am easy on myself I end up gaining weight.

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5/27/10 3:15 P

I'm a little concerned with those who are replying that tracking our food intake is not necessarily helpful. Um, EVERY diet show, every weight loss article tells you to keep a food diary! We don't have to obsess about it, but it's extrememly helpful. I will always need to know my calorie intake.

When I was in my 20s, I sucessfully lost 60 pounds and kept it off. Why was I able to keep it off for almost a decade? Because I had a meal plan that had the nutritional information on it. I kept within my calorie count and I lost the weight. When I started to just eat without tracking when I turned 29, the weight came back on!

Okay, now the obsessing part...I'm a food addict. Plain and simple. EVERY diet I've ever done made me obsessed with eating. After I ate a meal, I was already thinking about what I'd eat next. I hated myself for always letting food control my thoughts! I would binge late at night because I got so obsessed.

Not anymore! I recently devoted my life to Christ. I awknowledged that food was an "idol" in my life. When I bowed down to Him instead of the food, my obssession with it disappeared!

I'm not being preachy here...I'm just sharing what works for ME. I started praying anytime I felt tempted by something and I am pleased to say, I haven't given in! 4 weeks now and I'm still doing great...I give Him all the praise and the glory for helping me with this stuggle.

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TEACHYGIRL Posts: 78
5/27/10 3:08 P

I agree with what others are saying. For me, I needed to obsess or focus or whatever you want to call it at the beginning because I was fooling myself. I thought too little exercise was enough and too many calories were just the right amount. But as I am nearing my goal, I do notice I can be a little more lax about it. If I can't do my whole workout, it is not so bad. If I do want one ice cream sandwich, I can have it. I will always have to think about what I eat and I will always have to exercise to stay in my range but I do think it gets a lot more relaxed.

NATKITA Posts: 1,754
5/27/10 3:00 P

SUCH a tough question. I am obsessive by nature. (maybe we all are, to varying degrees?)

I NEED to focus/channel my energy into *something*, so the question is then, "Am I focusing on something positive/healthy or on something negative/unhealthy?"

In all things, I strive for balance. It's a constant effort, and I don't always succeed, but I keep trying, and I like to think I am "evening out" as I get older and wiser.

YANNAKITTY Posts: 63
5/27/10 2:59 P

SHIRLS2010-
Thanks for that comment. I was starting to feel bad about "obsessing" over the calories and exercise, but the remark of it being focus and not obsession makes me feel better. I wonder if there will be a time when it doesn't require as much energy and focus to achieve our goals.

DISGUISEDBYPHAT Posts: 187
5/27/10 2:51 P

I think it must be. I recall when I was young and thin I was pretty obsessive with it. I think you just need to transfer the thoughts of food to the new lifestyle. I don't think I know anyone who is thin that is not %100 with the program. I have heard that those who have had the weightloss surgery change to a shopping addiction.
Those who do not change their thought pattern (and watch the food channel) gain it all back.

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5/27/10 2:22 P

I prefer to call it focusing, rather than obsessing. At this point I need to focus on staying within the calorie and food group ranges and getting exercise since my default lifestyle is to over eat and under exercise. SP helps a LOT with this focus. When I get to goal I hope it will have become second nature to be moderate and enjoy exercise. emoticon

TREKFAN SparkPoints: (6,219)
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5/27/10 2:03 P

Maybe choosing to be obsessive about food tracking and fitness tracking is, for some of us, a step in the right direction. Instead of obsessing about how much I hate being 30 lbs overweight, obsessing with guilt over not doing anything about it, obsessing (and I mean every frigging social conversation with close friends of family) about how I "have to really do something") until I was really boring even myself to death (morbid obesity joke there) I am now "obsessing" over Spark People and my new healthy habits and literally tracking every little calorie to see how well I am doing. This is only my second month, and I feel better about this whole question than I have in years. And yes, I'm a little obsessive with my point gathering, my calorie tracking, my ST program and my "fitness points" for yoga, ballet workout and yeah, I even get to count gardening, but would you rather listen to me whine and do self-loathing or chirp about my 25 points for spinning the wheel and crow about my streaks? I am guessing, at least for my circle of intimate listeners, this is an improvement. Perhaps in a year, or at "goal weight" my enthusiasm will have cooled to a moderate "sparkle" but right now I think obsessive is working for me and I love it.

DEBSWO Posts: 11
5/27/10 2:01 P

I hope that as we get healthier, we become less obsessed about everything, it just falls away

L-JO888 SparkPoints: (15,429)
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5/27/10 1:54 P

As with everything, it also really depends on the person. I obsess. It's what I do. And not just about dieting or exercise, I get like that about whatever I am currently "into". So, for me, the obsession is kind of necessary, although not always healthy, mentally. As soon as I let the obsession slip though, the scale starts to creep back up.

YEOLDME Posts: 134
5/27/10 1:52 P

I think if you're prone to obsessiveness in anything, you'll be obsessive with weight and food. I obsessed about eating "right" until I got to my goal and then obsessed about maintaining until finally I reached a breaking point and starting eating "badly" and then I obsessed about what bad foods I would eat next. When I finally realized that my food habits were just another form of OCD and starting working on being calmer and more centered in general, I was finally able to have a happy, healthy relationship with food and my body.

KWRIGHT26 Posts: 482
5/27/10 1:41 P

I think obsession has a negative connotation. I don't really consider the constant presence in your mind of eating right and exercising to be an obsession.

I think that when watching your diet and hitting the gym X times per day actually becomes a detriment to you, then it's an obsession. If you wallow in self-pity for days after making an "oops" or having an off-day at the gym, or if you stop visiting or going out with friends/family completely because of your diet, or if you start neglecting your work because you're online checking your calories or health/fitness information for hours each day, or your family feels like you're never home because you rush to the gym right after work to spend two hours with the cardio and weight machines every night, THEN it's an obsession.

Also, even if you're satisfied with your health now, you have to continue the habits that got you there regardless. Asking yourself if you "need" that ice cream and trying to push yourself a little more every time you work out are the things that will keep you in your happy place. "Lifestyle change" can become a rather annoying buzzword around here (I don't say "It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle change" to anyone anymore. I either say that it's just how I eat, or I agree that I'm on a diet.), but truly, you have to make your healthy thinking permeate your day-to-day life until you don't notice the change anymore and it just becomes your way of doing things.

It's something you can't stop doing, but it's also something you can learn to do habitually and unconsciously so that it doesn't feel like you're always giving yourself the third degree. I don't guilt trip myself for overindulging because I keep to my diet 90% of the time. I don't even think twice anymore about not eating cookies or adding my calories mentally before I reach for a snack. I just do it, and move on.

LYNN0488 Posts: 878
5/27/10 1:34 P

thanks for the responses!

SFRENCH- I haven't had other people tell me im obsessive about anything, although everyone knows i like working out and work out "a lot" (well they say a lot...i do on average 5 days a week for 60-75mins each session...i don't think this is a lot, just i do it consistently and i think of it as part of my schedule where i HAVE to do it). My friends will joke about it like "going for a run? or all me a musclehead/something of that nature, but they haven't said im obsessive.

its more like i just dont want to feel guilty when i eat "bad" foods or when i occasionally overindulge, and i don't want to feel like my usual workout isnt enough and that i should do more...which is how i feel often, even after being at this for over a year on spark.

I am trying to get into maintenance thinking...of course i'd like to lose a few more lbs, but i truely am happy where i am, and want to not feel like i MUST do more. Im trying to get myself to think like that by telling myself not to freak out or be obsessed unless 1) my clothes start feeling tighter, 2) i see myself losing my muscles or 3) i find my food habits slipping, where i am eating more unhealthy foods than usual. I also kind of has 130lbs as my warning point. I tell myself im okay at 130lbs or less, but if i get over that i need to start watching my diet a lil harder and/or reassess my workouts.


RUSTY_ANGEL_ Posts: 343
5/27/10 1:32 P

Perhaps now you need a different kind of goal to strive for? Instead of allowing your weight to be an obsession you could take some of the time and energy you were dedicating to weight loss and use it for something else. Learning a new skill, sport, craft, etc.
I find that if I'm not balancing my time among a few projects I can start to obsess over the ones that remain.
And I also try to limit myself on the SP website. Once in the morning and once at night, or I'll spend hours in here instead of going out for a run.
Good luck!

BALANCEISTHEKEY Posts: 102
5/27/10 1:32 P

You guys seem to be at a great place - and that the healthy habits have mostly become a routine - maybe take a few weeks from tracking everything (just do quick check on fruits,veggies or other hot buttons for you) - then in a month, go back to tracking for a week to see if you're still doing OK.

Definitely keep up with your exercise habits & pay attention to your body to make sure you stay where you want to be - make sure you can still walk as far/fast as you do now in 2 or 6 months.

I have a long way to go - but I'm starting to think that I am building good habits, like packing a light lunch, eating a healthy breakfast, and at least half the time eating healthy in the evening. I will be very happy in a year if I am worried about this becoming obsessive.

Celebrate what you have accomplished !! (and tell people about how you accomplished your goals so this site can continue to be here to help the rest of us become healthier)

MAGIK0731 Posts: 4,837
5/27/10 1:27 P

I think its more mind over matter. If you allow yourself to be obsessive, then it will happen. It good to be aware of what you eat or how much you exercise but you know you need to visit message boards, when you get so focused (in a bad) way that you can;'t think/do anything else. If you find yourself going overboard, take a step back, breathe and chat with other SP!

2SPARKS Posts: 663
5/27/10 1:19 P

I really think you don't need to be obsessive about everything you put into your mouth and the amount of exercise you put in. Yes, you're comfortable with yourself, and you know that you want to maintain a healthy lifestyle - in order to do that, you need to make a 'lifestyle change', as in just generally eat healthy, for instance, have whole grain bread in your ice box instead of white, stock up on fruit and veggies, so you know that you'll consume them when you prepare your meals etc. You need to exercise to be healthy, so fit some exercise in a few times each week - don't be obsessive and kill yourself trying to burn off what you had last night for dinner - just do it for your general health. When you feel like having a slice of cake or some ice cream, do just that - don't over indulge, but don't deprive yourself! What you need to do is just maintain - otherwise, you'll be right back where you started in the first place! Have a wonderful day - and have that ice cream sandwich:)

SFRENCH81 Posts: 24
5/27/10 1:17 P

I agree with you that sometimes the obsession is necessary to get in the right habits. I noticed that one of the responses below indicated that counting calories is not necessarily a good thing. I may have made it sound like I count calories. What I meant earlier was that I track every type of food I eat into the Spark system. As you know, it tracks all kinds of things including the calories. I usually fall within or above the range that the website says is healthy.

My wife finds me obsessive in the fact that I talk about it with her all the time. I think that is only because I have found quick success and I am happy/proud of it. Also, she thinks I'm nuts because i have to input each food into the iphone (the iphone app really makes it easier to keep track).

Lynn, besides feeling guilty/obsessive with yourself, do you have other people tell you the same thing? Does the feeling of having to record all the different foods into the system fade away after a while? Like I said before, I'm only a few weeks into this, so it may pass.

Thanks,

French

ASHMARIE2008 Posts: 76
5/27/10 1:17 P

I agree that the key is really WHAT you're eating, not how many calories--even though calories are what directly contribute to you losing the weight. I just always eat extra-healthy where there is no temptation (breakfast/lunch/snacks at work) and that way I'm not SO obsessed when there is temptation (occasional happy hour with the girls, dinner out...ect). If you eat a ton of veggies/fruit throughout the day you'll have extra calories at night and not feel so worried about splurging a little bit on that piece of chocolate. But it's still hard :(

ILVTONY14 Posts: 40
5/27/10 1:10 P

Loved reading the responses people leave. But for me it has to be an obsession. I am type 2 diabetic and right now I am figting hard to stay off of insulin. I do not do the calorie thing I have to do the carb thing. I only allow myself 45 carbs a meal and 15 per snack. So that is my mindset right now. If I can loose more and more weight the need for my meds I am on will become less and less. Because of other health problems besides just diabetes I take 8 different kinds of pills a day. So my goal is to loose weight to my goal weight, do more and more exercising and right now that will be my obsession.

LYNN0488 Posts: 878
5/27/10 12:22 P

thats a good way to do things, i think i should work towards that mindset. I don't do the calorie counting to a T, but i used to never watch portions, etc. and that really added up! so i look at calories just to gauge if im getting too much.

i agree with you ETRA about the good and bad calories...lately ive shifted more to WHAT i eat, rather than how much...ive replaced a packaged snack at work w/ a piece of fruit, and have been buying salad to go w/ my dinners, which has cuz way back on less healthy sides. im trying to focus more on things like how many fruits and veggies did i eat today, what was my protien, etc., rather than the total calories...because i know you could eat 1500 calories in cookies and be in your range, yet you won't be healthy or see the results you want.

i just keep trying to not stress when i have a "bad" food, or get mad at myself for not doing an extra 15mins on the elliptical, after ive already done an hour...those are my problems

LYNN0488 Posts: 878
5/27/10 12:09 P

thanks for the response, glad to see im not the only one. I am the exact same way...ive been doing spark for over a year now (off and on, though my workouts and eating have been pretty consistent throughout)...years ago i would have a big bowl of ice cream every night and not think twice about it, but now, even if its a 150 calorie ice cream sandwich i sit there debating like "do i really need that?? will i regret that tomorrow morning?" i figure ill always be somewhat tracking calories (my lunches and breakfasts dont change much and i pack them myself so they are easy...my dinners and any outings w/ friends sometimes i dont keep track of), but i just dont want to always have that guilty feeling.

i feel i am pretty healthy...of course there are times ill go out w/ friends for dinenr and just eat whatever i feel like...even if its a big burger and fries...but since this is less often than not, i feel like its fine and i should worry about it, but i do.

it just kind of boggles me because im like...im satisfied w/ how i am now and my plans...so y do i stress about doing more and better? i dont want to b like that forever lol

SFRENCH81 Posts: 24
5/27/10 11:47 A

I agree, I only started just over two weeks ago and I can see the difference as well.

My wife tells me that I'm too obsessed with tracking the calories. I tell her that it'll only be a few more weeks until I can gauge the totals well enough on my own. But I feel the same as you. I'm happy with the way I am, just trying to get down a little more to live healthy.

But last night a Cadbury dark chocolate fruit and nut bar was sitting on the coffee table. I debated in my head about having a piece of chocolate. Man, all my life, even just a couple of weeks ago, I wouldn't even think about it. The whole bar would be gone.

Will I be like this from now on in order to stay healthy?

LYNN0488 Posts: 878
5/27/10 11:36 A

How does weight loss/being healthy/etc not become an obsession? How do you know when you are really satisfied?

I ask this because I feel like i am pretty happy w/ myself...sure, i wish my abs were a lil flatter and would like to lose a few more pounds, but if i had to stay the way i am now i'd be satisfied...and im happy w/ my workout regiment that ive been keeping up for 5+ months now, and have been eating healthy for the most part, without depriving myself.
But in spite of all this, i still feel like i am always trying to drop another pound...or trying to add on more time to my workout, or keep myself from eating a cookie because i hadn't planned that into my calorie count....how do you stop feeling the need to push yourself more and stop the guilty feelings when i can't or when u give in, and how do you decide good is good enough?






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