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MOINSDEMOI Posts: 2,409
9/17/13 5:35 A

I was frustrated this morning, too, but I can gain 2 or 3 pounds in a day depending on what I ate the day before (sodium). So I measured my neck, upper arm, waist, thigh, hips and calf and was happy to see I have lost inches since the last time I measured in August. That makes me really happy and eager to workout knowing I am on the right track.

SCHEALTHNUTT SparkPoints: (49,055)
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9/16/13 7:51 P

Just know you are doing the right things. Tweak as necessary !!

SHYGIRL2013 SparkPoints: (6,868)
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9/16/13 7:00 P

I have my "before" photo taped to the fridge. When I get frustrated, I look at that and look in the mirror and realize how far I've come. When I reach 100 pounds lost, I'll take another photo and tape it beside my "before".

SEAJESS Posts: 3,826
9/16/13 2:09 P

What helps me: being a scientist. Let go of those weight loss expectations. Realize that weight fluctuates. (My husband says, "Two pounds? That's one good bowel movement." Guys... but he's got a point.)

Don't hang the moon emoticon on what your scale does every week. Look at the scale emoticon as just information and only one, incomplete source of information. Use other measures. emoticon Inches, blood pressure, heart rate, pulse, sleep, energy.

Check your measures. Use a spatula to level them or better, weight portions. You can add up to 30% more calories to a portion with those rounded servings.

You're way too short away along the path to make any conclusions, IMO. Relax into it and learn to enjoy the steps. If you're

JMOUSE99 SparkPoints: (194,548)
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9/16/13 2:02 P

I'm with the people who say hide the scale for at least a month. Get someone else to hide it so you won't be tempted to dig it out.

CHERIAH1993 SparkPoints: (49,246)
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9/16/13 2:00 P

You'll get there!!..we all want instant gratification even though the weight wasn't put on in an have already lost a considerable amount of CELEBRATE!!! The scale is only a number, go by how you feel and how your clothes fit....switch up your routine, reset your goals, and go for could be secretly releasing stress hormones (Cortisol) by worrying about it,,so shift your focus back to your workouts/calorie intake and not the'll start to move in your favor......stay focused!! emoticon

WHEELS54 Posts: 492
9/16/13 2:00 P

I think of what I did right and what I need to change. My focus is improving. As long as I can keep moving in the right direction, it's all good. I did pretty well this past weekend and next weekend will be even better!!
Weigh in once a week.

9/16/13 1:22 P

I can choose to make an effort or I can choose not to...I just found the journal page from three years ago today...three years pass by quickly (had not made an entry since January 2010) changes...but I am the one responsible for making sure I am changing with it. I have a choice today to do the things that I know will get me to both long-term and short-term goals. I feel better when I make the effort emoticon

EWL978 Posts: 2,021
9/16/13 11:22 A

just keep plugging along!!

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,362
9/16/13 10:59 A

I get to a frustration point where I change everything around.
It's a fresh start that keeps me going.

I try a different food strategy and a different exercise routine

JIBBIE49 Posts: 72,082
9/16/13 1:58 A

Just keep going.

NEWMOM20121 SparkPoints: (77,388)
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9/15/13 9:17 P

Visiting sparkpeople.

LOLEMA SparkPoints: (105,894)
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9/15/13 6:21 P

meditation and positive thought

MYSTICRAINS SparkPoints: (31,930)
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9/15/13 5:40 P

Research helps. The more I know, the more I test and tweak to see what works. To me its less frustrating to see my body as an experiment.

KARATE_KID SparkPoints: (0)
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9/15/13 4:12 P

I think I've had more weightloss plateaus than the High Tatra. It is frustrating but it's not under my control. All I can do is continue to eat healthy, exercise, and switch things up every once in a while. And most important, look for other signs of progress. How is your strength, flexibility and endurance coming along? Can you run for the bus without feeling like you're going to pass out? Can you do more push-ups, sit-ups, step-ups than before you started this journey? Stick with the program, celebrate your successes and eventually the scale will get the message.


GRANDMABABA SparkPoints: (304,636)
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9/15/13 3:36 P

I try to cope by being kind to myself.

INCH_BY_INCH SparkPoints: (262,878)
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9/15/13 9:05 A

I don't think I can master not feeling frustrated. But I am working hard on finding better coping skills to handle the frustration. Instead of eating junk to calm that turmoil inside. I find healthier options such as going for a walk or grabbing an apple to ride out the frustration storm.
As a gal friend pointed out is the frustration coming from unrealistic expectations because we wanted someone to read our minds rather than taking the time to express to someone what we want. So we need to overcome the idea of asking for help as a bad thing. I know easy said than done.

HAPPYLISA17 Posts: 213
9/15/13 8:11 A

I am human; I don't.

9/14/13 2:17 P

I don't think you can one 100% but you can do things to calm it down. When I'm frustrated, I usually go out for a while and take a walk to get away from the situation. I try to not be to frustrated since it isn't always healthy, but that feeling is only human.

SHININGDRAGON SparkPoints: (7,169)
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9/14/13 1:56 P

I don't think that it is humanly possible to avoid frustration - of whatever kind. It is a part of who we are.

That being said, there are times (like last month) when I feel so frustrated that I want to scream and/or hurl something up against a wall, because I only lost one pound; THE ENTIRE MONTH - ONE FLIPPING POUND. So, then I had to re-evaluate what I'm doing; did a lot more research on the net and found some information that really helped me, and hopefully will help someone else on this board.

When a person has been tested for diabetes and found to be in the pre-diabetic range or is a full-blown diabetic, their bodies do not respond to a diet/lifestyle change the way the ordinary body does. They tend to lay down everything that they eat and drink as fat, especially those food/drink items that are loaded with carbs. Apparently, the pancreas keeps pumping out insulin (sometimes at random) and that will prevent weight loss. The pancreas also becomes exhausted and eventually the person has to take medication or insulin injections to do the job that the pancreas is no longer able to do.

So then, here I was, having tested on numerous occasions as a pre-diabetic and being warned by my doctor to lose the weight. Easier said than done, when slow weight loss and frustration take a toll on your emotions. Sparkpeople is certainly a life saver, no question about it, but a person can and should do more to avoid the screaming meemies, when frustration has hit the boiling point.

I had to put on my thinking cap, and after some heavy-duty brainwork (how many calories burnt in the formulation and conclusion of a thought? just curious), decided that I would give my pancreas a rest every second day. That is, I eat only proteins, fats (the good kind) and tons of vegetables that are all low-carb. Eureka!!!! I lost almost three pounds in one week.

I'm on my second week, and hopefully I will have lost another pound. I am expecting a pound in any case; any more than that and it will be a bonus.

So yeah, on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays, I do the high protein, low carb thing, and the other days are regular balanced Sparkpeople meals.

I'm not a scientist, and don't completely understand the science behind all of it (surely there is someone on the board who understands better than I do), but right now it is working for me. I don't feel too deprived that I can't have my beloved fruit and complex carbs, but maybe I'm doing something for my pancreas that will allow it a rest.

9/14/13 1:30 P

When I feel frustrated, I remind myself that I am really working for improvement, not perfection. I also try to change things up with my routine and really look at how I am eating and if I am tracking EVERYTHING! emoticon

TCANNO SparkPoints: (343,862)
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9/14/13 4:41 A

Have a total change, do something different

FIFIFRIZZLE Posts: 2,148
9/14/13 1:13 A

Congratulations on your simply AWESOME success in losing over fifty lbs of unwanted weight.
That is a super achievement!
Funny isn,t it how we can really long for some goals? I wanted Onderland so badly, and what a great feeling when I got there.
Can I suggest thinking of how great you will feel when you get there, and thinking of how much more comfortable you are in your body than you were even ten or twenty lbs ago? Look back on your success and revel in it. Look forward to onderland and start thinking about how it will be when you get there, in just 2 lbs. What reward were you going t give yourself? New clothes? Go try some on now, because 2lb is not going to be a new size. Hey, you could even buy some. You may choose not to wear every piece you purchase until you get to that magic number, but you certainly deserve to reward yourself.
The funny thing about ths is, it will counter the stress you are putting yourself under. Cortisol, the stress hormone, makes us hang on to our fat. Give yourself a good dose of happy, and you might find you have made it through to the other side, without doing anything else.
BTW, I think you could step up your exercise. 45 minutes per session I don't think is enough for continued weight loss. If you are doing that, it is nothing to ramp it up to an hour, and you will really see the benefits.
Hope these two tricks work for you and you join me in Onderland real soon.

Edited by: FIFIFRIZZLE at: 9/14/2013 (01:15)
JIACOLO SparkPoints: (545,152)
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9/13/13 7:22 P

You get frustrated and keep moving forward! Your hard work is showing results even if it is not on the scale. You work too hard to turn it back!

9/13/13 7:03 P

Whatever you do, don't eat to deal with your frustration! I had a plateau that lasted a month one time. Very frustrating! I thought about quitting, but that is what I always did in the past and it got me nowhere. Instead, I thought it out logically. Eventually the weight has to come off if you are accurate about your food intake. It has to. Eventually, it did.

Keep on going and eventually you will start losing again.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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9/13/13 5:47 P

I make sure I am getting enough sleep and drinking my water. Also I do a lot of cross training so it doesn't get boring.

9/13/13 5:04 P

As ZAX and ALBERT said, try to shake things up. Your body becomes accustomed to doing the same things all the time.

A great thing to try for people who only do land based workouts is swim! It's great for a full body workout, and is very low impact, so your joints won't suffer.

I would STRONGLY recommend taking some kind of class if you've never worked out in the water, though, as it's an entirely different beast than the sort the landlubbers enjoy. emoticon

There's a number of community based (Think YMCA) pools with open swims and classes in most every town (at least around me), so even if your gym doesn't offer pool services, you can still get in a swim once a week or so for only a few dollars. And if your gym offers a pool, then I am jealous.

TIG123GER SparkPoints: (77,547)
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9/13/13 11:32 A

I think that is one of the hardest things to do with in this journey. I've fallen into the same situation. I work out consistently, eat well, and do all the things I know I should and the scale refuses to move and I could just sit down on the bathroom floor and cry. As many have said, I see a lot of positive changes (stronger, clothes fitting better, etc.) but the scale is "the thing" that has haunted our weight gain/weight loss battle. I need to see it move down to know that I've accomplished something. But, I have accepted that our bodies adjust in their own way and you will lose and then it needs to recalibrate and you plateau (no matter what you do) and then weight loss will resume again. It really SUCKS but as long as you keep doing the things you know you need to, it will happen again so don't get too down. Just realistically evaluate where you were and where you are now and celebrate the successes and make sure you continue to do the things that got you here and you will see additional positive change. Just be patient (I know it's really hard) and you'll see your results. Good luck!!

BITSNPIECES38 Posts: 981
9/13/13 11:18 A

Are you the type of person who can pick a new goal, and forget about the old one for awhile? If so, pick something different to concentrate on: I'll increase my fitness minutes by 10 minutes on average each week for x a time, one day a week I'll go meatless for x months, I'll increase my number of zumba classes from two a week to three a week for x months, etc. And put your scale away while you target that new goal. When you reach the new goal, then take your scale out. You might find you totally missed seeing 199, but if it shows up at 189, that would be entirely motivational!

EXOTEC Posts: 3,327
9/13/13 10:54 A

Frustration is pretty much de rigueur for any long ongoing process. Don't lose faith!

I tried to look at your Nutrition Tracker, but you don't have it shared. If you feel comfortable doing that, you might get some more specific suggestions. How many carbs are you totaling for the day? if that number is high, you're going to be stalled no matter what else you may do. And, like others have mentioned, your body simply gets to a point where it declines to cooperate with you, so you have to make it think you're on some different tangent in order to restart the loss.

Just try different things. You'll find one that works for you!

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9/13/13 9:57 A

I would definitely consider "shaking things" up a bit.

{} try some new exercises
{} try exercising at different times of the day
{} eat healthy, but switch to eating some "new" or different healthy foods
{} drink plenty of water, particularly to start the day
{} eat a big breakfast, then manage your calories for the rest of the day
{} switch to a 6-7 meal/snack plan throughout the day, but consuming the same calories

Best of luck! You WILL succeed!

MOINSDEMOI Posts: 2,409
9/13/13 9:10 A

Track other measurements along with the scales. Have you measured your waist lately to see how many inches you are down? I "only" want to lose ten pounds and will spend a lifetime doing it and maintaining the loss. But I was surprised to see that I have lost 2" in my waist in the last few months.


Edited by: MOINSDEMOI at: 9/13/2013 (09:11)
ARON12 SparkPoints: (0)
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9/13/13 8:47 A

I just try not to think about it

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,362
9/13/13 8:29 A

If you really know you are being diligent on the food side (and you haven't 'stretched' the portion sizes) then accept that your body may just be 'adjusting' to the current weight and will continue your progress in a short while.
I have found that milestone numbers play a real MIND GAME on us (of our own making) and in the past, I have unconsciously sabotaged myself. You may want to be to go back to tracking and being sure about what you are eating. And do it for a while after you're in onederland, because it is sooooo easy to wander back out. For me any number ending in zero has a neon sign around it. I can't wait until I'm in your neighborhood.

best wishes emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 9/13/2013 (08:30)
QUELZ15 Posts: 12
9/13/13 8:24 A

Thank you for those tips. I appreciate

LULUBELLE65 SparkPoints: (37,106)
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9/13/13 6:39 A

Pick a new goal, one that you can control. "I will start a running program and run a 5K in 6 months" and then sign up for that race now, so you have to commit to doing it. Or "I will go to Zumba 3 days a week for the next two months". Having a goal that you are successful at helps deal with the fact that some of our goals are not entirely within our control.

Also, I think that the tape measure is a much better indicator of success than the scale. Measure yourself once a month and you'll see that you are shrinking.

Finally, as other people have said, sometimes you need to shake things up. I did a month of vegan eating last spring and lost about 8 pounds. I have no interest in being a full-time vegan, but I think that doing it for a month made two things happen, one, it shook up my body, and two, it made me have to be aware of absolutely everything I put in my body. There are so many things that you think are vegan that are not, and all of that reading labels made me make much better choices.

Good luck!

SUSANK16 Posts: 2,635
9/13/13 2:33 A

I have changed my focus. I do not focus on what the scale says--I have another focus -- making a lifetime habit. I created a BMR spreadsheet and regularly long in my daily calories and my exercise. The two goals are I log in everyday and I eat healthy. That way I feel as if I am moving forward. Eventually the scale will catch up.

9/12/13 10:27 P

I guess maybe try not to prevent feeling frustrated. If you become frustrated, let it be. Feel it. Then (and I just learned this technique) .. say to yourself, "Even though I feel very frustrated, I deeply and completely accept myself." I guess the trick is to try to keep yourself in a resourceful state of mind, and not let yourself get bogged down in negativity. Because once you sink into those negative thoughts, that is a trigger. Concentrate hard on a blessing in your life, such as a child, supportive spouse, decent job, your own living space, your car, being alive, etc. This may help crowd out any negative emotions.
Also another thought is to let go of the end result and concentrate on behaviors, which you CAN control. You can't completely control results, but you can control behaviors and those influence results. So feel successful if you behaved in a healthy manner for a day. If you lost weight, that's great. If not, know that it will come with time if you continue with your healthy behaviors. Be relentlessly dedicated.

BUNNYLAMB SparkPoints: (52,562)
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9/12/13 10:16 P

I agree with the person that said it's ok to feel frustrated. Emotions are normal (and temporary). Persevere through your plateau, "turn the other cheek" on your frustration by sticking with your good habits, and eventually the scale will catch up. Good luck!!

JBALDWIN29 Posts: 5,136
9/12/13 6:42 P

I have had the same problem, I try to stay focused on the positive. The fact that my clothes are getting loose. I am one full size smaller in clothes. After 6 weeks I finally lost showed a 3 pound loss on the scale.

MAGWINA Posts: 101
9/12/13 6:32 P

I don't. But you learn to deal with it

ELORA101 Posts: 427
9/12/13 6:24 P

I am so with you on this! I am 2 lbs away from being the smallest I have been in 10 years and the scale hasn't budged in weeks! However, what helps me is being able to perceive progress. I keep a spreadsheet of calories in vs calories out, divide my deficit by 3,500 at the end of the week and see where I should be. Eventually, my scale catches up to my spreadsheet and all is well.

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9/12/13 5:45 P

I've found frustration to be inevitable, though persistence will always pay off eventually.

9/12/13 3:10 P

Sometimes you have to shake things up to get past a plateau - I would recommend you try either doing something new (something like CrossFit or high intensity interval training) or eating in a different way - try gluten free, or paleo, or eating low-calorie meals 2 days in a row then have one high calorie day that focuses on protein and good fats. When you get really stuck, try something new and stick with it for 6-8 weeks to see if it gives you results.

Also, it's OK to get frustrated. Get frustrated! Maybe join a boxing gym or a martial arts school so you can yell and hit some stuff on a regular basis - it's very cathartic.

SIMONEKP Posts: 2,750
9/12/13 3:01 P

I've been on a long plateau and during that time I have learned to keep my focus on getting stronger and healthier even if the scale doesn't reflect it.

FLOYDIE40 Posts: 34
9/12/13 2:54 P

There are plenty of suggestions on the plateau post, but what if you changed your goal from a number to a size?

HEALTHYZAZA SparkPoints: (0)
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9/12/13 2:38 P

I tend to fall into exactly the same trap - I get really frustrated when I do not see changes on the scale. However, I'm trying to mitigate that by focusing on why I am doing this, and what I hope to achieve. You say that you are noticing changes in your body - that's great! I think ultimately what we all want is to be and feel healthy and confident and if you are starting to feel different then that is what should matter, not the number on the scale. Your weight can change due to shifts in your water balance, hormones, etc.. And that is not a true reflection of the work you are doing or the changes at you are creating in your life. I'd say to lock the scale in the closet for 2 weeks or a month and instead every day ask yourself what you did to improve your health that day, and how you feel, how things fit, and how easy it is to get through the day, the workout, or stressful events. Find motivation in the actions that you do rather than in an arbitrary number.

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9/12/13 12:07 P


While a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week, there will be weeks you don't lose. There will even be weeks you gain ! And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. This isn't the Biggest Loser. the weight doesn't magically drop off the minute we decide we need to lose. It really could take 6-8 weeks of healthy eating and regular exercise before a person sees a change in the scale. And that too is perfectly normal.

Remember, you didn't gain the weight overnight. It's not coming off overnight. As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for all the POSITIVE things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. you don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

But, you do need to be patient with yourself and your body. You've already made great progress by losing 50 pounds. Now, it really is just a matter of being consistent as well as patient.

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SUSANNEE1979 SparkPoints: (721)
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9/12/13 11:45 A

I am exercising daily, 30-45 mins. I do Zumba or Tae Bo. I am eating well. I am on South Beach Diet. I can see and feel changes in my body, but the scale isn't moving. I know it shouldn't matter, but it's stuck at 201. I am so desperate to see that number under 200. I haven't been in the ones since my 15 year old was in pre-school. My highest was 252. Any advice for breaking that plateau and staying motivated? Thanks!

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