I got motivated by being fed up. I've spent my life being complacent, and over the past year I just realized it wasn't working for me any more. 'Good enough' wasn't good enough at all, and it was just making me feel worse. I actually had to get pissed at myself, to shine a light on the self-destructive behavior. There was no reason for me to eat the way I did, to lay around and collect fat, when the person I see on the inside was feeling trapped and frustrated. The anger actually works for me, gives me the energy to push myself.
Telling myself why I couldn't do this or that was just a bunch of excuses, a way to wimp out. Eating crap and laying around wasn't enjoyable, relaxing, or beneficial. Keeping myself down was just dumb. I was basically turning into the kind of person I hate to be around, constantly negative and full of lame excuses and whining. If that isn't a wakeup call, I don't know what is.
Obviously my situation is not yours, but in my case I had to turn healthy eating and exercise into the normal pattern of my day, not a special occasion. That's the real me, not the unhealthy shell I was living in. It's not a question of IF I go to the gym, but WHEN. It's not a decision between unhealthy and healthy food, but WHICH healthy food I'll be eating. Oddly enough, it's one less thing to worry about when you already know you're going to work out and that the only food you have around is the healthy stuff.
You are the only person who can put yourself first. Thats what you need to do. Give yourself one hour a day, split it up into 2-30's, or 4-15's, something. Take some of that time to workout (lift weights, go for a walk around the block, run on the treadmill, jumpin jacks, sit-ups, anything), take 10 mins to track your food/exercise, and the rest to relax in a quiet room doing something enjoyable (reading, watching tv, napping).
There has to be a way to get more sleep, hire a babysitter for a few hours, something.
Don't give up.
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3,587 3/19/10 12:54 P
savannabell....this was inspiring and I needed to hear it. Thanks
My name is Jewell.
The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail Isaiah 58:11
SO, I'm gonna be completely upfront and honest. The only way you're going to get yourself to care again, is to... Get yoursel to care again!! If you check through my blogs, you can see that I've been having the same problem for almost 3 weeks now! I tried reaching out for help, but it didn't really help me until I was ready for it to! You have to be ready to do this!! And you CAN do this, you just really have to dig deep to find some motivation in there! And I know it's there, because you're calling out for some help!! So, what I would suggest, would be to just take it slow. Don't FORCE yourself to do something, just find something small that might not seem like such a big deal, and then those small things will add up. Then you'll build a little more confidence in yourself that you CAN do this, and you'll start expanding your options. It's hard, but you can do it! And we're all here to keep ya going! You just have to make some YOU time, even if it's only 20 minutes a day!!
Edited by: SAVANNABELL at: 3/19/2010 (12:52)
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1,001 3/19/10 12:09 P
It sounds like you have a lot of things to balance right now! It's great that you're trying and asking for the support you need. Lack of sleep has a MAJOR effect both on your body's physical and mental capabilities! Is there a way that you can get more rest?? Also, can you integrate a bit of fitness into your work routine? Even doing simple strength exercises that require no equipment will help. Do the little things like taking the stairs, going to the bathroom that's farthest away, and park at the back of the lot. Try to integrate whatever healthy things you can into your work day that will fit with what you need to accomplish anyways. Be patient, practice self love, and take care of yourself!
MY MISSION: I will live a balanced lifestyle focused on becoming my best self. I will achieve this by overcoming my disordered eating, living a fit & healthy life, becoming financially independent, & building & maintaining solid relationships. During this process I will practice patience, acceptance & self love.
Also, I found that the "bringing US to healthier options" is a bit hard on one person, if you can't even do it for yourself. I don't know how old your children are, but your spouse is an adult. Can he not be responsible for these healthy options as well? I say, make them ALL eat what YOU are choosing, and if they don't like lighter, healthier foods, them at least your husband might be able to cook for himself right? He's grown up. You are working a tough shift! Also, try to get more sleep -- how is it you only get four hours? Sounds like you may be doing too much for others and not enough for yourself. It's hard to function and make good choices, or FEEL good on that little sleep. Good luck!
I agree, you have to just do SOMETHING, even if it is marching in place. Buy prepared vegetable trays. More expensive but you are worth it. Decide on just ONE change you will make, and just let that ONE thing settle in for a bit, then decide on just ONE more thing. Make it something you KNOW you can accomplish, don't set yourself up for failure (e.g. I WILL lose 50 pounds by summer or I will stop eating ALL food I consider "bad") If you do that, you WILL fail. But "I will walk for ten minutes a day" is do-able. Or "I will fill up on lean soup before one meal a day for ten days"...that's what I do. I used to try to do "all or nothing" plans, but they don't work in REAL life. Good luck. Keep us posted on how you're doing, and if anything helps :)
3/19/10 8:03 A
You posted; so you are still making that choice to be concerned. Night shift is the hard of all shift. I did but I was single with no family. Maybe plan your day. Change something your doing to just once a week or once every 3 weeks. I am sure your family understands. Sit down and tell them how you feel. A family always pulls together in time of hardships. If not talk to your doctor maybe something is wrong.
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95 3/19/10 7:50 A
First I had to decide that I wanted this. Then I had to put myself first for once ahead of the husband, kid, house, pet, etc... Work is work if you have to be there for those hours you have to be there however, the rest of your obligations should be open for negotiation. I see you have been a member since 2007 but you don't have a spark page which suggests some lack of committment on your part. Motivation starts with desire. I wish you well on your journey.
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3/19/10 2:27 A
You sound exhausted from the stress of work. You need some down time to rest and re-focus. Think about what is important to you and to the people that care about you. You will feel better if you are healthy and your loved ones want you healthy. If you do not have time to plan ahead, go to the store and pick up some prepared vegetables and fruit to have close by when you need a health pick-you-up. If your energy level is up, it will help you not eat because you are stressed. Ask for help at home or treat yourself to a housekeeper for a couple of hours (It can be a high school age person that will work for less pay). They earn a little spending money and you will get some well deserved rest or an opportunity to go for leisure a bike ride. Important you stay healthy mentally and physically. You will be happier as you take those small steps to feel better you will be ready for the next goal.
How do I get myself motivated? The only thing that really works for me is to do something. Anything. I can talk myself into circles but no amount of mental chatter works as well as action.
Do something. Spend ten minutes walking in place, if that is the only thing you can manage. Just do something. And after that, you might feel motivated enough to do something else. And then something else.
3/18/10 10:24 P
I've been working 12 hour nights (48+ hours a week), trying to get about 4 hours of sleep between shifts, and trying to do everyting else to function as a parent and a spouse. I have always been able to keep under my worst weight ever, and now I have gone so far beyond it, I'm having a hard time feeling like it's worth trying. I know how hard it was when I was actually loisng and right now, I don't have the time or the energy to even try. Sparkpeople and all the tracking aren't in my time budget either.
I have been trying to limit eating a little bit more, trying to bring us back to healther options, and not eating out much, and not relying on caffeine in pop to keep me awake as baby steps to get back in. I'm just having a hard time FEELING it, even with as frustrated as I am.
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