With all the stress you're going through, many strong people would snap. That's a lot for one person to shoulder.
As I tell all new members,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did was drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction.
Quitting smoking and losing weight at the same time won't be easy. One thing you might do is join some of the great Spark Teams for members trying to quit smoking. the teams are a good way to talk to people going through the same thing.
I know things seem very overwhelming right now, thus the need to take things slowly. There are no fast ways to lose weight. Weight loss is a slow steady process that takes time. That's why Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. start by eating a couple extra servings of fruit and veggies each day. start by drinking more water in place of soda. start by trying to get a little bit of exercise. it doesn't have to be much. if you find you can't walk, then sit in a chair and do some upper body exercises instead. that's a start. And you really don't have to do a lot to start.
If you feel stressed out, post on the forums. the spark community will support you when you need support.
I checked your spark page to see where you lived. Have you looked into these programs for help with your heating bill ? it may not be much, but it's got to help a bit. www.ncdhhs.gov/dss/energy/index.htm www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/ocs/programs/lihe
Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 2/27/2013 (12:48)