I can understand exactly where you're coming from. I, too, am obese according to my BMI; yet today I warmed up an entire cherry pie and didn't even bother to get a plate. I just sat down with my fork and intended to eat the entire pie.
However, after 3 or 4 bites, I lost interest. Not because it didn't taste good and not because I no longer wanted it, but because I wanted more for myself than empty, sugary calories.
I acknowledged that I wanted the pie. I even ate some of the pie. What I did NOT do is beat myself up.
I can only do what I can do. Today what I could do was give in a little to my craving. Then I move on to the next thing. The next thing for me was to realize I was worth more than that and my body needed more than that to function optimally.
I stayed in control! You can, too. Be kind to yourself. Go easy on your self. Stay honest with yourself.
1. Do what you can do. 2. Then do the next thing.
Little by little. Step by step. Day by day.
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21 3/15/13 8:57 P
and it sounds like you are back on track. Good for you for reaching out for support!
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You sound like you are doing better. Congratulations.
It is a vicious cycle. However, you have done it before and you can do it again. That is if it is really what you want to do. Take a few minutes and look at your priorities. What is it you really want? Is what you are doing helping or hindering? If there are changes you would like to make, take it one step at a time-the big picture can become overwhelming and we do not want to even begin. Most who have decided that a healthier lifestyle is more beneficial to their life quality, have faced some of the same challenges you are. You are not alone. We are all here for you as you make your choices and take the steps to realize your goals. Best wishes as you continue to pursue your chosen lifestyle.
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36 3/15/13 10:45 A
This is how I look at my weight loss journey. 1) I am not on a diet, I am simply making better choices of what I put into my body and eating healthier to get healthier. 2) There are no forbidden foods. I can eat whatever I want. Does that mean I want cake, maybe so then I have alternatives that are just as good but healthier like a chocolate covered granola bar. Sometimes I take a bite of what I want, roll it around on my tongue and see if I want more. After not eating sugar for a good while though I just can't touch the bakery crap. The more pure you eat the more you will not even desire to touch fast food additive icky food. You would have to beat me to get me to eat at mcdonalds it just taste like lard and Mcnasty. 3) you will have to detox and work through your cravings. They are just your body trying to push you to what makes it feel temporarily good. Like that sugar blast, or that carbo overload. They are not what your body needs. Try cutting things out small, I started by cutting sugar out of my coffee and no drinks but water, tea and coffee. Now I am to the point I even like my coffee black. Cravings will pass if you acknowledge why you are having them and work through it. Always remember you are not denying yourself anything you are just making more an effort to make better choices. 4) You are beautiful inside and out no matter what you weigh, believe this, tell yourself this.
I am still on my weight loss journey but I have no desire to go back to my habits I had. Just as a smoker takes time to break the habit and end the cravings so do we with our food addictions. Something that has helped me also is to drink water and more, then more all day long. Water is an amazing thing. You need to find that spark in yourself that says you are worth it! and just by signing up here you have found that spark. Now you need to fan it and watch it grow into a raging fire. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! I CAN DO IT!!!! WE ALL CAN!
All great ideas here!!! Start simple, with simple goals to master gradually....Keep sparking, keep reading, keep walking, KEEP SMILING!!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!
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5 3/14/13 4:29 A
Thank you guys!
I have just woken up and I am amazed at how much more energetic I feel today! Yesterday I had nothing between meals, and I didn't binge in front of the tv as I usually do. I am feeling very motivated and really positive. I am allowing myself some treats during meals, but cutting out all junk food snacks because once I have one thing (like, a packet of crisps) I give up and have everything - like, a packet of crisps, then another packet, then some biscuits, then some ice cream, then a couple of rounds of toast. I tell myself I need the extra fuel for energy, but actually the way I feel today shows me that junk is making me feel lethargic, not giving me extra energy. Hooray!
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2,233 3/13/13 10:33 P
Great first day!!!! Also what will help is slowly decreasing the amount of junk food in the house. That way, when cravings do arise, the food that can sabotage your new lifestyle is not there. Slowly, you will crave junk food less and less and feel more better about yourself. Remember, weight loss is a journey! There will be ups and downs, bad weeks and good weeks. Don't give up! Don't get discouraged and expect results too soon. 90% of people fail becuase they gave up, not becuase they were consistent. You are doing great! You hit the ground running already! Keep it up and all the best!
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That's the way you start making those changes. Remember you don't have to be perfect to embrace healthy living!
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5 3/13/13 4:50 P
Goal wise I am focusing on drinking my water and fitting in more walking than I usually do. I am also distracting myself from eating by being more active around the house - tidying up, moving around more, etc.
Kiddies are asleep now so I am going to go for a brisk walk.
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5 3/13/13 4:48 P
Sparkpeople is a brilliant resource.
I tracked my food and I went over by 32 calories or so. I consider this a huge achievement because prior to today I have been eating whatever I like, whenever I like. So today was a shock.
I am proud of myself! Thanks for your support :) I think I have made it through my first day, and the strangest thing is I am full of energy! I ate and ate and ate because I felt like I needed extra energy to deal with caring for my two little boys, but now after a day of eating around a third of my usual calorie intake, I am feeling so much more alert and awake!
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46,222 3/13/13 11:51 A
Hang in there! You don't have to make drastic changes all at once to begin experiencing success. In fact in trying to change too much too soon, can actually be quite overwhelming which is why SparkPeople recommends on focusing on 2-3 things to change before you do a major overhaul.
What goals have you made for yourself? I believe goal setting is one of the most under-utilized tools in our healthy living arsenal. The reason, without goals, we really have no direction as to where we are heading. They are truly our road map to get us where we are today to where we want to be in a month, 6 months, and even a year from now. But they have to be specific for you and your dreams.
Meeting our goals has been considered one of the most important motivators for so many, but sadly something many of fail to do.
Hang in there!
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Don't Panic !! I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.
Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. No one ever became a healthy eater overnight. it's impossible. that's why you need to cut yourself some slack !!!
Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you don't eat 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how good health starts. It's not all or nothing. It's all about making some simple changes you CAN live with. because one small change can change your life.
So, let me ask you, what simple goals are you willing to try this week ? It's not too late. don't wait til monday, set some goals today and you'll be on your way to good health.
Right now you have to ask yourself, which do you want more...to lose the weight or to eat the crisps and ice cream?
You have the strength to do this, because you've done it before. Breathe deeply. You'll be okay. Stay focused. If you can get through today, you can reach your goal!
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5 3/13/13 10:52 A
hi! i want to give up and eat! I am obese and i need to lose weight. my weight really upsets and depresses me and is affecting my health. this is my first day of sparkpeople (i did it before six years ago and was really successful but since then i have put on around 50 lbs after two pregnancies). i am panicking because i desperately want to do what i usually do which is eat ice cream and crisps and toast.
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