" I don't feel so alone. " - This is a wonderful benefit of hanging out at Spark. No matter where you are at on your journey, there will be others (many others) around that are in the same position, or who have been in the same position... you will find so many people that honestly DO understand....
Good luck, bless, keep coming back, you don't have to do this alone! You did the right thing, you reached your hand out, keep reaching your hand out and I think that will help you a ton. Reaching my hand out certainly helps me! Hugz!
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580 5/17/13 9:01 P
Hi, You've been given some good advice. Practice your positive self-talk. You can make what you want to happen happen. Hugs.
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3 5/17/13 8:58 P
I just want to thank all the people responded to me. It did help me just to get it out there. Your words of advice are greatly appreciated. It is a never ended battle to fight the weight. This week has been great I have been working out everyday 45min and really watching my food intake. I also found out that my after dinner was getting out of hand and I was adding alot of calories in front of tv. So no more eating after 7. So I just want to say thanks to all the comments they have helped me, I don't feel so alone.
Here's a few things that boost my motivation and I try to review them daily.
I keep a goal list (short, medium and long term goals) accompanied with rewards for success. For example, one of my short term goals is to use spark's nutrition calculator 5 to 7 days a week, and my weekly rewards are things that I like doing, but ordinarily wouldn't do, such as pedicures, manicures, facials, etc. One of my medium term goals is to reward myself for each 5 pounds lost. For these, I do bigger things, such as full body massages. And for my long term, 100 pound weight loss goal, I'm planning a huge vacation!
Another thing I do to find motivation is read a personal spark page from the motivation section. Reading about other people's success is truely inspiring. Or I'll read a motivational article on here. Or I'll search the web for a motivational video. I try to do this 5 to 7 days a week, and reading/watching something motivation is also something on my daily goal list.
I look at my goal list 5 to 7 days a week, and I go down the list, like a check list and note the days I accomplished each goal.
I also write in a journal. This helps me focus and see where I've been and where I am now.
I talk to other people here on the message boards and at Overeaters Anonymous meetings.
The motivation article section on sparkpeople has a lot of great things on it to get me jazzed up.
I have been in a similar position as you, feeling like I could not do it, that I'd be fat forever, feeling utterly hopeless. I have felt like that many many many many many millions of times in my life. 34 days ago, I was nose-diving into darkness, near hopelessness. I hated my body, I hated my eating habits, I hated myself. But I grabbed on to a smidgen of hope and I pulled myself up from the nosedive by starting to think about what I could do to get myself out of the negative self talk.
I decided to go to Overeaters Anonymous and go to 30 meetings in 30 days. After about 5 days, I decided to do 90 meetings in 90 days. I'm now at day 31 and the meetings help me a ton, the social and spiritual support in the program is of great service to me. I also bought the Spark book audio cd, and for the last month, on my hour long commute to work in the mornings, I have listened to the CD. I've listened to the CD about 4 times already, but I want to continue listening to it every weekday morning, in an attempt to drive the concepts into my brain, in hopes that something will stick. Listening to the CD is where I got the idea for writing the goal list and other motivational tools.
Both the spark and the overeaters anonymous programs have helped me sooo much. I've also been in alcoholics anonymous for one year and I go to one or two AA meetings a week. I'm familiar with the program, and going to overeaters anonymous has helped my diet/exercise program immensely. Both the spark CD and overeaters anonymous have very similar concepts.
You did the right thing by reaching out to ask for help. I hope you find some motivation among the responses you receive.
We can not do this alone. Keep coming back!
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21,785 5/14/13 5:53 A
If you feel stuck in a rut, it's time for a change. I agree with others. Try sitting down and deciding what it is you want to change. If you want to lose weight, then you need to decide how you're going to do it. If you want to get out of a rut, you need to be proactive.
Start by setting some simple goals. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how good health starts. One small change CAN change your life.
So, let me ask you, what simple things are you willing to do this week to start your healthy lifestyle ?
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2,135 5/13/13 9:19 P
Whenever I need some added motivation, I head right to the "Motivation" section on this website. Put your cursor over "Article & Videos," then select "Motivation." You will find lots of great articles, blogs, videos, etc. to help get you up.
Also, reading about other's successes always inspires me. Click on "Community," then select "Success Stories."
Lastly, head on over to the Woo-Hoo message board. Cheer on others. Imagine it will be YOU some day soon!
These three places have been instrumental in keeping me on track. And for those times I've slipped, they help you jump right back to that healthy lifestyle.
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301 5/13/13 7:11 P
I have days where I feel like that too, but if you keep eating healthy and staying active it's impossible. There's no way you'll be fat forever, it just takes work and time. It sounds to me more like you feel "why bother"? Well, why not? You have everything to lose (the negatives) AND gain (the positives), right?
Have you tried seeing a dietician or your family doctor about it to rule out any allergies, special needs or illnesses that could be hindering you?
You can do this!
Edited by: RIGEIN24 at: 5/13/2013 (19:13)
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13,570 5/13/13 6:14 P
Think of WHY you want to get healthier. That is what fuels motivation.
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3 5/13/13 5:41 P
I just cant seem to get motivated and I don't know what to do. I feel like i am stuck in a rut. I just need some motivation.
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