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WMPRESSOIR
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4/30/13 9:40 P

I can relate to the disappointment. I hope you will take the advice of those who've answered before me to: be more patient with yourself and the process, and take comfort in doing the things that put you on the right track.

One thing I suggest is: what do you do when you are disappointed with yourself? Do you know what makes a difference, to lift yourself out of that negativity? For example, what if it wasn't about diet/food? And how would you comfort someone else who was disappointed in her progress? Sometimes thinking of how we would treat someone else gives us an idea of what would feel good to us and would make a difference. It has inspired me to be much nicer to myself when I've worked hard but the results don't show it.

Being discouraged will happen from time to time. Learning how to make it work for us instead of get us down builds resilience so that the next time we know just how to bounce back.

I've found the daily 5 minute pep talks invaluable. Just countering all the negative messages I otherwise send myself is crucial and builds my compassion for myself.

Best wishes!

Wendy



CHIRPGIRL
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4/30/13 7:56 P

I know exactly!! how you feel. You just have to hang in there and I know that's a hard thing to do. All of these posts are full of great advice. What worked for me was just staying focused on a couple of things -- drinking 8 glasses of water a day and tracking my nutrition and fitness. Then, I started getting up without hitting the snooze button. Now, I go to bed earlier (when I can). But, it was baby steps -- one day at a time. One slip up at a time and one getting back on the horse again, everytime.
If you stay with it - you will begin to feel the difference perhaps before you see the difference. And then, you will see a difference - but maybe no one else will. Then, one day, someone will look at you and say, "Have you lost weight?" It will happen. When you feel discouraged log onto SP and dive into articles and blogs and motivational stories. This is a wonderfully supportive community that wants everyone to succeed. You can do it!! emoticon And, you might consider - you already know what will happen if you stop. What you don't know is what will happen if you keep pursuing a healthier lifestyle.



ARCHIMEDESII
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4/30/13 11:48 A

LALABABY8409,

I give all new members one piece of advice when they start out and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

Coach Nancy is quite correct. While a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week, there will be weeks you don't lose. there will even be weeks you gain ! And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. this is not the Biggest Loser. the weight doesn't magically drop off the minute we decide we need to lose. It really could take 6-8 weeks of healthy eating and regular exercise before a person sees a change in the scale.

Also, don't cut your calories TOO DRASTICALLY to start out. If your weight tracker is correct, 1400 calories just isn't enough to fuel your busy day. Women are notorious for cutting their calories in hopes of speeding up their weight loss. Eating less too soon will not speed it up. Long term, it can slow it down. 1400 calories is an amount someone who weighs 150 pounds should eat. As you lose weight, you'll need fewer calories, but right now your body still needs those extra calories to function properly. I know this is going to sound strange, but a person has to eat in order to lose weight.

it's only been a week and a half, you really do have to be more patient with your body. Unless you're on the Biggest Loser ranch and plan on exercising for 4-6 hours a day, weight loss really IS a slow steady process that takes time. You didn't gain the weight overnight, it's not coming off overnight.

As the coaches all say,"trust the process".




CHIGIRL410
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4/30/13 10:39 A

There are lots of us in the same boat. So that I don't fixate on weight, I am trying to meet fitness goals. Right now I'm in a walking group with people from my neighborhood on Facebook where the goal is walking 75 miles in a month, and I met that goal, and I tried new activities too. (Working out hard for 1/2 hour counts as 3 miles of walking.) I feel thinner, but I still haven't lost an ounce, nor are my clothes looser. But I'm really proud to have met the Facebook goals for the past 2 months.



LISS741
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4/30/13 10:27 A

I know the feeling! I know for me I have to expect that when it is that time of the month for me that the week before my weight is probably going to stay the same as last week. It took me about four weeks before I actually even saw a difference in the scale. There could be so many reasons why you are not seeing any differences. The most important thing though is to just keep it up! Eventually it will work out, just not as soon or quick as you may like.



SLIMMERKIWI
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4/29/13 11:52 P

This happens to a lot of people but it doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong. In fact, you will be doing yourself a lot of good. This isn't just about a number on the scales. Other ways that you will possibly be improving yourself are:
Improved BP
Improved Cholesterol
Improved Blood Sugars
Increased energy
Better fitting clothes
Muscle development
Better quality of sleep
........ and the list goes on.

A lot of people have periods where their weight is static for a while, or even increases, and ANNE_SP has given you good information.

Hang in there - this isn't a diet - it is merely a healthy lifestyle. If you watch your portions MOST of the time, and eat quality food MOST of the time, AND getting in exercise, then you are taking very positive steps to be healthy.

Kris



VELVETMERLIN
Posts: 229
4/29/13 8:48 P

Hey there!

Don't give up! Anne is right-it may take some time for it to start coming off. For me, I think it was between 4 and 5 weeks. I was so discouraged! The scale isn't the most reliable, either. It's good as far as getting a number, but it's not the best indicator. Pretty soon, if you aren't feeling it already, you should feel your clothes getting looser. I will say that when I don't exercise, I feel shorter-I don't know how to describe it, but I don't like how crappy my legs feel. When I exercise, I feel taller and not as fat. It may sound weird, but I really don't know how to describe it.

Just keep doing what you are doing. It will come off in time!



AASLP___
Posts: 9,650
4/29/13 7:55 P

Hi,

I can certainly sympathize with being disappointed, but remember that it can take up to 4-6 sometimes to see the results on the scale. Everyone is different, but one of the reasons this can happen is when you increase your activity level, that causes your muscles to increase in glycogen, which then causes your muscles to retain more water. This can even cause weight gain in people, even those who are cutting calories. For more details about this, you can see this "Ask the Experts" answer: www.sparkpeople.com/community/ask_the_expe
rts.asp?q=68




LALABABY8409
Posts: 561
4/29/13 7:27 P

For the past week and a half, i have stayed at 1400 calories a day, give or take 100 calories, besides the one day i let myself splurge a little... ive also been exercising every day but one, from 30-50 min each time, and ive lost nothing!! I'm feeling very discouraged and dont understand why im not losing. ive also cut down on eating out and have only ate out once during this time period. in the past ive lost 80 lbs, but ive gained back 20 of it... ive gained back my motivation to start back up but its slowly dwindling away bc im not losing :/



 
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