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COURTNEYANNEMT
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11/17/12 8:23 A

Recognize that a thought is just a thought. "I am bound to fail.". Is just a thought, not necessarily the truth. When I wake up or start judging myself with those type of thoughts (and believe me it happens more than I care to admit). I recognize it as negative thinking, get support here and go exercise. It's amazing how our mind will just jump to the next thought.



NIKKIG3
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11/16/12 3:28 P

Hell, sometimes you just have an off day for what ever reason. But the thing to remember is forgive yourself and get back on the horse. You had your one day of "mess-up" enjoy those oreos (my weakness too) but just know that tomorrow you are back- bigger and stronger.

Rome was not built in a day and neither was your weight gain or loss. You are doing "Insanity" bravo for you. I am losing weight to TRY and get to a size where I can do that workout. I love the motto behind it. So see you are already ahead of the game. Just keep going!!!



SLIMMERKIWI
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11/15/12 4:26 P

Hi ANGELA - it really sounds like you tried to change your eating all at once. This needs baby steps, too! It can take a few weeks to gradually change to a completely healthy diet. It might be reducing soda/juice and replacing it with some water. It might be adding an extra piece of fruit or vegetable to your day, as you reduce the unhealthy alternative. It could also mean gradually decreasing your calories. I know I had to go down in small increments of 50 cal's and allow my body to get used to that, because otherwise I suffered from nausea and light-headedness.

This is also not about deprivation, so you might find that once you have made the adjustments, allowing yourself to have the occasional treat will actually help you to stay on track!

Good luck,
Kris



ANGELAFERRIELL8
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11/15/12 4:15 P

Thanks for all of the advice. I guess it is hard for me to grasp the fact tha it isn'tgoing to be so easy. I have always been in great shape and exercise and eating decently better was always enough for meto feel very pleased with my body. However, I had a baby and now I am having a hard time understanding that I really do have to be patient with myself this time around.



ARCHIMEDESII
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11/15/12 12:53 P

ANGELAFERRIELL8,

Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself was drink 8 glasses of water today, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Thus the reason to be patient with yourself and your body. NO ONE ever became a healthy eater overnight. It's impossible.

As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. If you were to eat right five out of seven days this week, you'd still be doing better than the average American.

There are going to be days you eat more than others. It's going to happen. If you beat yourself up every time you eat more than you want, you're going to end up miserable. This is a learning process and you still have a lot to learn. Thus the need for patience !

As the Coaches all say,"trust the process". Do your best to be mindful of what you eat, but don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect.




QSULLIVAN
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11/15/12 11:25 A

I'm willing to bet that you are eating better, more often than not. One of the sayings that I've heard here at Sparkpeople that helps me when I do something that I regret is "One step back, two steps forward." Like you, I like exercise but have more trouble with food. Changing your relationship with food is going to take a long time, after all, it took a long time to establish that relationship. So, here is what I have been doing and maybe it will help - change your relationship to one meal or snack at a time. Eventually you will change your overall relationship to food but little steps are good for moving forward.



ANGELAFERRIELL8
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11/15/12 10:18 A

Well, I actually love to exercise and I always have been pretty physically active. It is the eating that gets me. It just seems like I can never stick to it and I battle myself with it all of the time. I would not be SO upset if it was the usual 2-3 cookies/day that I eat or a candy bar or one soda. I had seriously probably a total of a pack of cookies yesterday. Maybe it is all in my mindset, but I just can't figure out how to think differently about food. I know I am supposed to think of it as nourishment for my body, but I think of it as my friend when I am upset or stressed.



SP_COACH_NANCY
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11/15/12 9:41 A

Hi ANGELAFERRIELL8,

Could it be that you are trying to change too many things at once?


Changing life-long habits takes dedication, determination, and most of all time. So many of us have made unhealthy habits such a big part of our life that it is going to take more than a few weeks to truly integrate the new habits into our lives so that we no longer have to think we just do.

If you look at this journey as a quick means to get to a certain number on the scale only to go back to the way you used to live, you will not keep it off for long.

Just by making small permanent changes into your life can lead to big results down the road. There is no place for perfection in this journey we call healthy living. One oopsie moment doesn't mean we have blown it for the day...we always have the opportunity to make healthy choices any time.

Every day brings the opportunity of new beginnings...if you fall, pick yourself back up and carry on and know that your SparkPeople friends are here to help you along.

Hang in there!

Coach Nancy



ANGELAFERRIELL8
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11/15/12 9:37 A

After completeing week one of insanity and feeling very proud and motivated I took my scheduled rest day. The next day i ate SO much junk food. My whole diet for the day pretty much consisted of cookies. Then I didn't feel like starting up on week 2 of my workouts and I skipped yesterdays workout. I now feel so discouraged and all I want is some white chocolate covered oreos and my bed.



 
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