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BRENNA84 SparkPoints: (54,472)
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1/30/14 5:18 P

thanx all for the help.

FTSOLK Posts: 1,391
1/30/14 9:55 A

They want to eat off your plate even if you have identical plates?

Sounds pretty typical to me. I know of a girl who, just this past Sunday, insisted on getting cheese out of the white bowl instead of the clear, glass one. The bowls were identical.

I would make a list of foods that each person cannot eat, and one of the foods that everyone will eat. Start making meals around that menu. If there are some healthy foods your kids will eat, and some yours won't (but you will), then try making them as side-dishes. Allow them to have some of those foods that are off-limits to you, but also encourage them to try the dish you prepared for yourself.

I can understand some special meal planning for health reasons, but I don't believe in making a separate meal for each person. If you're going to make sandwiches, make everyone sandwiches. You can make yours on your "special" bread, but that's no different than a family with one child with a gluten allergy eating gluten-free bread and another child eating regular bread.

EX-PRESSO Posts: 478
1/30/14 2:55 A

I'm allergic against a lot of stuff.
And my mum is allergic against a lot of stuff.
My dad is diabetic. So he try to avoid carbs.

We live in a three generation house and cook together.
Most of the time its easy. If my mum cooks stuff my family likes, but I can not eat, I cook for myself.
If I cook something we like, but my mum can not eat, she cooks something special.

I never cooked anything special for my daughter!

I still do not see the point why your kids are not allowed the same food like you?

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1/30/14 1:17 A

There are many resources online to help you how to prepare healthy kids for the kids. Try them.

ANARIE Posts: 13,175
1/29/14 11:26 P

You're not explaining yourself very clearly. There are foods you can't eat because you're allergic to them. Fine; don't eat them. Unless you're allergic to *everything,* you don't have to buy those things for the kids, either. I'm assuming that there are lots of foods you're *not* allergic to, and your kids like a lot of those. Feed those to the kids. If one of your kids likes a food but the others don't, give it to the kid who likes it, and the others can make do with the other foods you're serving at that meal. There's no reason to make 3 menus. If you're the one with the most restrictions, make meals you can eat. Give the kids the parts of those meals that they will eat. Nobody's going to starve to death because they eat two dishes instead of three for dinner. If Joey likes brussels sprouts and Susie likes raw spinach and they both like carrots, you can have brussels sprouts and carrots on Tuesday and let Susie decide if she wants to try one, and you can have spinach and carrots on Wednesday and let Joey decide if he wants a bite of spinach. They don't each have to eat the whole meal every day, as long as every meal includes *something* that they'll eat. Seriously, even if your child has one day a week when s/he eats nothing but salad and bread, it's not going to do them any permanent harm. On the other hand, if YOU start eating chicken nuggets and Froot Loops because that's what the kids like best and it's easy, it WILL do you permanent harm.

Your health comes first. You can't take proper care of your children if you're obese and sick. You owe it to them to get healthy, because they need you to live long enough to take care of them.

As for the husband, he's a grownup. Feed him your healthy meals, and if he doesn't like them, he can make himself a sandwich. Adults eat what's served or feed themselves.

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1/29/14 10:08 P

IMO time to set personal boundaries: "My plate is my plate. Your plate is your plate." It really doesn't even matter what ages the kids are. IMO it is the same thing as: "My bed is my bed. Your bed is your bed." Be the adult.

Good luck! emoticon

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1/29/14 7:25 P

yes, I have allergies. they still want to eat off of my plate, even when they've got the same thing on theirs.

its getting hard and hard to balance 3 different menus

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1/29/14 6:07 P

This is what I am hearing:

You like to eat healthy. Your kids like to eat what you eat.

Am I missing something?

BRENNA84 SparkPoints: (54,472)
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1/28/14 4:38 P

well I have allergies, and can't eat certain things that THEY can because it hurts my ovaries

and its hard finding dishes/foods that they will ALL eat

they love veggies. carrots and apples. they eat apples like Irish people eat potatoes. no problem.

rightnow my "special food" is mostly just sweet potatoe (my kidz will play with them and they end up rubbed into the carpet), and my special bread. thats it. and some of my favorite foods, only one of my kidz like. like brussel sprouts, and spinach. etc. but some of the things I experiment and let them have a bite. but eve when we eat the VERY SAME things, they still want my food :(

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1/28/14 10:32 A

First and foremost you need to make sure that your children aren't thinking you have a 'special weight loss diet'. While it doesn't seem so, it is particularly dangerous to children because they develop the same mindset as you, thinking that some foods are 'bad' and others are 'good' which causes a distorted view of food, body image, and weight.

If your diet is simply a 'healthy lifestyle' diet in which you are just trying to eat healthier (organic foods, lots of fruits and veggies, whole grains, etc) than there is no reason to share that with your family. Doesn't your husband and children deserve to eat just as healthy as you? If you cannot afford all these expensive health foods for the whole family I suggest you cut back on them and buy cheaper alternatives.

EXNOLA Posts: 308
1/28/14 9:58 A

Autism can make a difference. My friend, whose son has autism, has figured out what his son will eat and gets that. He knows his son likes a certain fast food restaurant's fries, so he gets those fries. My friend eats his own foods. It does mean a lot of different meals, but you do what you need to do.
Would it work to get them what they like (one or two items every meal) and introduce a new food that you can also eat? I went to a speech therapist's feeding seminar when my son's issues were the worst. He said to slowly introduce new foods and do it in stages and use all senses. Smelling, touching, seeing can all lead eventually to tasting. Tasting can lead to eating. It may take 100 times and you will "waste food" but allow them to explore it and get familiar with it. I do not know if that would help with your children, but it did help mine.
Until then- you may be stuck with mostly separate meals.

RUSSELL_40 Posts: 16,826
1/28/14 8:45 A

I know you are eating slightly lower carb, with sweet potatoes, and some bread, and it would probably be fine for the kids. Make sure they eat their vegetables, and fruit, and plenty of them.

Moderate carb isn't special, it is how we are meant to eat. Low carb is used mainly to undo damage done by eating too many high glycemic carbs early in life, and moderating that as a child will let them remain healthy as teenagers, into adulthood. Letting them avoid the high glycemic carbs now, especially sweets, and processed, pre-packaged foods now, will make it so they can enjoy them throughout their lives, without having to be more restrictive later.

We always tend to wait till we are unhealthy, and then have to overcompensate by being restrictive, whether carbs, or calories. Your kids hopefully do not have any issues with food, or weight problems yet, and lean meat and a sweet potato, with a side of broccoli will be great for them. They should be eating the same carbs that you do, just more of them maybe.It is better for them to eat 10-15 servings of fruits and veggies, than eat packaged foods, and sweets, and fast food, like most kids do.

While they can eat any food today, they don't need to. By eating healthy carbs now, they can avoid worrying about having to restrict them in years to come. I wish I could go back, and remove all the garbage carbs I used to eat in my 20's, and be able to eat more fruits and vegetables today. Let them learn healthy habits today, and they won't ever have to worry about losing a bunch of weight, or having to restrict something they now consider " normal " food.

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1/27/14 7:00 P

I would just buy more of what they are enjoying. Low starch can easily meet all their nutritional needs.

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1/27/14 6:40 P

The allergies thing I can certainly relate to. Starch is an easy one to avoid so long as you are prepared to pay a bit more for 'special foods' OR make your own (which is quite easy, anyway.) There are many substitutes. Even flour-less cakes using well-mashed chickpeas or almond meal.


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1/27/14 3:53 P

I have lots of food allergies and am not supposed to eat tons of starch.

they have autism adn i have a hard time finding foods that they ALL like to eat.

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
1/27/14 12:44 P

Are you on a special diet?

If not, there are ton of low cal recipes here that should appeal to a family, even with small kids - unless your family is "meat and potatoes" only.

If your kids are young, this really is the time to introduce them to healthy, nutritious food. And eating healthy meals means so much more than a bowl of steamed carrots for dinner.

Again, I don't know the ages of your kids, but something to consider is 5x a week making a healthy dinner for the family (again, so many choices with recipes), 1x get pizza, 1x serve them chicken nuggets and fries (while you make your own).

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1/27/14 12:33 P

What is "special food"?

EXNOLA Posts: 308
1/27/14 9:50 A

My kids eat pretty much what I eat. Children do not need to eat standard kids' meal foods. Some kids will like almost everything you put in front of them (my 7 year old), some will like almost nothing you put in front of them the first 100 or so times (my 6 year old) but eventually the picky one will eat something healthy. My 6 year old won't eat a spinach leaf ever but will eat spinach blended in things- smoothies, Trader Joe's spinach tortellini (but no other brand, I said the child is picky and it is very true), and veggie pouches from the babyfood aisle. I present the food and the kids must try everything on the plate. Then they eat what they want to eat. This sometimes means that 6 year old eats 5 bites for dinner. I do not make something else. I might offer elements of the dinner in a different form. My husband might get a different portion, but still the same food.
Tonight, we will have whole wheat pasta, baked eggplant parm., and a large salad with roasted red pepper, sunflower seeds, sugar snap peas, and more. Kids will eat a serving of pasta, cheese, and some of the veggies, and probably the seeds. Later in the week we will have smoked salmon, poached eggs, and spinach soup. My kids and I will have bread with that, my husband probably won't. Picky one will likely dip bread into the egg yolk and be done.
What "specialized food" are you eating?

Edited by: EXNOLA at: 1/27/2014 (09:52)
1/27/14 8:57 A

What is it about your food that makes it special?

ANARIE Posts: 13,175
1/26/14 11:14 P

Exactly what Kiwi said-- if they WANT to eat your healthier food, by all means, give it to them! Anything that you "can't" eat, they probably shouldn't eat, so just feed everyone what's healthy.

The only exception would be if the children are small and you're on a very low-fat plan. Pre-school age kids need fat to help develop their nervous system. If you're eating low fat, give them whole milk when you drink skim, whole eggs when you eat egg whites, and more of things like peanut butter, avocado, and so on. If they'll eat fatty fish like salmon, that's great, too (but you should also be eating taht yourself.)

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1/26/14 9:55 P

Is your food *truly* 'special', or is it just different from what you would normally give them. If what you eat isn't out of the ordinary or expensive, why can't they eat the same as you? I know that you are a bit lower carbs, but so long as they are getting a good amount, it would make a lot of sense because then you are only doing one lot of meals.


BRENNA84 SparkPoints: (54,472)
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1/26/14 8:55 P

any ways to eat healthy with kidz and a husband?

they can eat food that I can't but then they all want to eat my special food


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