I'm not a picky eater, but there Are a few foods I dislike. I will make them for my family depending on if its a side or a meal. If only a side I avoid it and have somethime else. If its a meal, I always keep a few homemade frozen meals in the freeezer (frozen leftovers), so I will have that.
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9/5/13 8:31 A
Yes. I am very picky. I will make things that the kids and husband like that I don't like. My son loves vegetable barley soup. I really would have to be starving to even eat even few spoons of it. But I will make it for him.
Most of the time, if my husband wants something I find truly vile, he will cook it himself.
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9/5/13 12:38 A
Can there be a compromise where sometimes you will cook a separate choice but most main meals will be based on everyone? Possibly fixing different sides can help without making it time consuming. Growing up my mom prepared often 3 different meals. My mom was always on a diet, my dad was not, and I was a child with picky taste buds. Looking back on an everyday basis I don't think it was healthy. Food does bring family together and sets the stage for a healthy way of living. If I had husband and kids who all had different needs calorie wise I would focus on a main meal to suit everyone but then increase portions or decrease and add quick sides. Of course I would allow for once an awhile where I would make special different things.
Yes. My husband's family ate an entirely different way than my family did... so I try to give him some of the things that are "comfort food" to him. I also have very many foods which I simply can't digest. Many of them are things he likes. I cook those for him. It's really difficult to get the flavor "right" on something you've never eaten and can't sample!
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9/4/13 7:16 P
I do, I have a thing with texture. I don't like things that get soft and don't eat most types of leafy greens, my family loves this things so I make them.
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9,689 9/4/13 5:20 P
Nope. If my family wants something that I don't like, they cook it themselves. In the case of my children, I have never prepared anything for them that I wouldn't eat (honestly, I've got a pretty broad palate) so they have grown up eating the things I provide. I've always tried to provide them healthy, flavorful dishes.
Now, I will provide variations based on personal preference; for example, my youngest hates sauces and dips... she wants her pasta more or less plain, maybe with a bit of butter and seasoned salt. That I'll do, because when we're making spaghetti for dinner, that's what we're having anyway. But I don't make separate meals, and I don't make things I don't enjoy.
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I can see where you are coming from, with preparing foods that you don't like for folks who have different preferences than you do. We run in to this when my clan gets together, not only dealing with different preferences, but also different food allergies.
One of our solutions, which might work for you sometimes, is sauces.
For example, consider a dinner of chicken breast, corn, potatoes, and brussels sprouts. We would bake the chicken with an herb / almond coating (mildly flavoured), and roast the rest with a spritz of olive oil and some mild flavourings (garlic, onion, and maybe some dill or sage). Pretty bland, overall, which is the preference of a couple of the family members.
I would have the chicken with a tablespoon or two of a balsamic wine sauce, and maybe add a blackstrap molasses/hoisin sauce to the sprouts. My brother and sister-in-law would be adding a Thai chili sauce to the chicken, and a curried cheese sauce to the veggies. My Mom would use the cheese sauce on the chicken but have the veggies plain. By having different sauces on hand, we can each take a basic meal and flavour it to our own tastes. We make all of our own sauces, keep them in the fridge for "single-use" if we're going to be eating together for a few days, or freeze in double-serving amounts if we've made too much.
Instead of incorporating the sauces in to your favourite mixed dishes, you can make the same sauces that you like, freeze them in maybe 1/4 cup servings, and add them as you serve yourself the same dish that you make for your family. That way you're not cooking separate meals, but you're still getting the flavourings that you prefer.
You might find that being able to introduce a flavouring in a small portion allows your family to try it without being overwhelmed with it, and it may induce them to be more open-minded about trying your favourite dishes in the future.
As for salads - my clan does the "salad bar" thing, with multiple greens to choose from, as well as multiple toppings (onions, tomatoes, mushrooms, snap peas, grated carrots, chopped cauliflower and broccoli, nuts, seeds, raisins, etc.). We have everything prepped in separate containers so that we can put them all out on the counted and everyone can help themselves to the combination that strikes their fancy that day. I do the same prep at home with just my partner and I so that we can suit our "salad-mood" any time during the week.
I find that having the small burst of strong flavour from a sauce is enough to make my tastebuds happy and be able to enjoy and be satisfied by a meal that is basically bland.
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9/4/13 3:28 P
I'll cook things that I'm not sure I'll like (how the he!! is polenta supposed to taste?) and then be stuck eating it because I made enough for the week and I'm not throwing perfectly good (if not perfectly tasty) food out. There was one escapade with zucchini pasta...
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9/4/13 2:44 P
If I bake treats, I often agree to something that I will not be tempted by. Also, I am happy to cook more than one entree for dinner since there are different tastes in my household. Why should everyone eat the same thing, regardless of its nutritional value?
No. I enjoy food and I'm not trying to punish myself with crappy food. That isn't the point. That is so far from the point for me that it would pretty much destroy all hopes of my continuing to eat healthy. I would go out and buy something that tasted good and would satisfy me, but would not be healthy.
I'm also somewhat amused by the vastly different preferences in food and I'm glad my husband is much like me in taste. In fact, when I offered to make him stew, he politely asked me to never make it. but I do love chili and casseroles - odd since I hate when my food touches other food on the plate. But when I eat chili and casseroles and have a side or bread with them, the side/bread cannot touch the chili/casserole or it isn't the same.
The way I see it is my husband and I aren't always going to agree on what we want to eat. Most of the time, we eat things that both of us enjoy. It may not be a *favorite* for one or both of us, but we should both come out of it satisfied.
And when I want some of my favorites that he doesn't eat (mac n' cheese, how I love you) I'll try to eat them when we go out - which is good since it isn't something I should eat regularly anyway.
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9/4/13 7:18 A
There's probably not too much I don't like; but there are things I've chosen not to eat. There's the difference.
I'll make things for others that I won't eat myself - because I want to do so, not because I want to make something that repulses me.
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9/4/13 2:21 A
I am not a fan of pineapple but I discover that I began to like the taste when it is blended with other fruits. Sometimes, we have to love something we hate.
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42 9/4/13 1:28 A
I hate bananas. I love just about the whole thing else however, so whenever I cook it's attractive much something I'm going to eat!
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386 9/3/13 10:52 P
Bottom line: the fam loves those one meat/two veg meals that consist of a piece of meat or chicken that is more or less plain, a side of veg, and some sort of starch. I love stews, soups, salads, and other complicated multi-ingredient dishes with lots of herbs and spices. Sometimes they'll eat spaghetti and meatballs, or mac and cheese, or the equivalent.
From time to time, I'll make plain chicken and then offer the option of mushroom-and-onion-with-capers on the top, which the kids reject out of hand. And I don't really mind pork chops.
But honestly -- tonight's dinner was ham steaks, rotini, and roasted brussels sprouts. I enjoyed the sprouts, skipped the pasta (who wants plain pasta?? yuck!) and ate a very small portion of the ham (plain salty ham? really??). Other nights its baked breaded chicken, broccolli, and corn. Again, it's nutritious food -- but flavor wise, why bother?
I'm much happier myself with hot and sour soup, or thai chili... or a hundred other recipes my kids wouldn't touch and my husband would just about touch and then crave chops.
I'm certainly not tempted by second helpings of plain ham and broccolli!
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9/3/13 8:25 P
Nope. Recently my 26 year old son noticed that we never ate beets when he was growing up. Reason - I don't like them. If you want them, cook them!! But we roasted some and I found out they're actually not bad.
9/3/13 7:19 P
I second what BUNNYKICKS said. I want to enjoy my food and feel satisfied both during and after my meals.
9/3/13 7:08 P
Nope nope nope nope nope.
I mean, Ok, maybe "for the family because they like it" i will prepare dishes "for them" that I won't necessarily eat myself.
However, as a general strategy, this one has failed me throughout my life. This was a general philosophy in my household (a home in which i seemed to be the only one that gained weight - parents and sibling are/always have been thin)... but it was a philosophy of "well just make stuff that doesn't taste good and you won't be tempted to eat too much of it."
Nope nope nope nope nope all that strategy ever did for me, was leave me in tears, angry at myself, angry at the unfairness of life, angry at the Dry Tuna on Wheat Bread sandwich that was making me gag but I was hungry and "if i was hungry enough i'd eat it." Yeah. I *vividly* remember doing exactly that, about 30 years ago, as if it were yesterday. I have other memories of attempting to learn to like plain celery sticks dipped in cottage cheese. Or overcooked stinky rubbery-dry liver because it was "good for me." Nope nope nope nope nope. If it's gross I WILL NOT waste the calories attempting to consume it.
That said, i have learned to keep a more open mind about what "tastes good." I've learned that things I thought I didn't like (eggplant, beets, liver) can actually be quite tasty, if you give them a chance and try a few different cooking techniques/ercipes. So yes, I will attempt to cook with foods I *think* i dislike, every now and then, to see if my tastes have changed.
But to go out of my way to cook food I dislike on the hopes that this will keep my calorie consumption down? Nope!!! I am basing my entire weight-loss plan on the concept of embracing the joy of food and eating, savouring it, quality over quantity, avoiding cravings by giving myself options I like as-much-or-better than my habituated " unhealthy " food choices. Might not be the secret of success for everyperson, but it is a strategy that is working for me.
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as long as you are devoting the same sort of time to food you'll actually eat and it works for you, why not? though do remember that with the children sort of family that the kind of meals you provide set the tone for how they eat throughout their lives. so it's one thing if you are making pesto for you and chicken pot pie for them because you don't like pot pie and they aren't as fond of pesto. but it's another thing if what you're serving them is devoid of nutritional content.
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386 9/3/13 5:01 P
Recently, I've taken to preparing food I really don't like -- because my family likes it, or because it's great for a potluck. On the up side, I'm not tempted to eat too much of it! On the down side -- bleh. What do you think of this as a strategy??-
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