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NAUSIKAA
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12/12/12 3:02 P

NIRERIN, that's true, and it's what I always do when I divide our food exactly in half. But rather than figuring out what 2/5, 3/7, 3/8, or whatever of the total is (in my head), it's just easiest for me to do it this way. I wasn't complaining. As long as there is food for us to eat, I will NEVER complain about preparing it. But it is actually easier for me to weigh 70g for me, cook it, and then just throw in some rice (w/o weighing) for him. But whatever works for each person is obviously fine



NIRERIN
Posts: 11,747
12/12/12 7:52 A

but you would be using your info, not cooked info. let's say we're back to 210 g raw rice [140 for him , 70 for you]. if that 210 g raw has a total of 500 cals for all 210 grams of it, that's not going to change if you cook it. the total yield will still have 500 cals. so you would weigh the total yield and it would be, say, 600 grams [and yes i am making numbers that make the math easy to do without grabbing my calculator]. and then since your portion 70 grams was 1/3 of the total [210 grams], you would take out 1/3 of the total yield, in this example 200 grams cooked. and that 200 grams you cooked would have 167 cals.

i tend to cook for myself most often and i almost always use raw weights. i will cook up a half cup of dried beans, split it into a few meals [generally three or four depending on what i am making]. i have my dried bean info in my favorites by the 1/4 cup. so if i cook up a half cup of dried beans and split it into four portions, when i track the beans in my tracker, i use my dried bean info and .125 [or 1/8 of cup] even though by the time they hit the recipe they were cooked and 2/3 a cup [or 1 cup or whatever it happened to be].

i definitely don't trust the generic entries in the tracker, i am with you on that. but if i have the raw total weight and therefore the total raw calories, if i do nothing but add water, only the volume and status changes, not the total calories. so all i have to do is measure out the total yield and that makes it easy to find the calories. and i'm not using some other person's cooking info, i'm using mine.



NAUSIKAA
Posts: 4,848
12/12/12 6:42 A

Good points Ruth about electricity! I cook rice in a pressure cooker which only uses about 60 seconds of electricity as I turn it off as soon as it reaches pressure. I wouldn't do it separately if I didn't have that kind of equipment. We are extremely frugal as we are going through some tough economic times here in Greece and they have increased our electricity cost many times so saving energy is very important to me.

I just don't really trust the "cooked weight" of food... I'd rather weigh it out raw because I just don't believe that it's the same from one plate to another - some people may cook it longer so it may have more water so heavier for the same amount of raw rice. That's what I meant in my OP about being a little type A about it. I don't mind doing math to find out how much of a meal is 2/5 or whatever. I just don't like to use cooked weight!



MISSRUTH
Posts: 3,289
12/12/12 6:12 A

Like other posters have said, I also cook pretty much the same things for DH & I and do not cook his separate from mine. He has a much faster metabolism; he'll eat 2 portions to my 1, or add a slice of bread to his meal. He also snacks more than I do. To me, it would be silly to cook 2 different pots of rice; I just cook one big pot of rice and measure my serving out after it's cooked. Same with broccoli or any other vegetable; I cook a lot, measure out my serving, and he can eat whatever he wants out of the remainder. I made turkey chili the other night; I ate my one serving and he ate 2, plus some crackers.

I always fill our plates in the kitchen; I do not put large bowls of food on the dining room table. So while he may go back for "seconds", I do not. My plate is fixed with what I've weighed and measured, that I will eat. And that's it, for me.

It's not just the time involved-- it's the waste of electricity to cook everything separately. There are indeed times where I'll cook him something that I don't like; then I'll nuke some leftovers for me. Or I'll eat them for lunch.



BONITA-GORDITA
Posts: 107
12/11/12 9:31 P

Tonight I did. I made a casserole for the rest of the family and made a dish for me on the side. Sometimes it's just more work to calculate an entire recipe and weight it out, rather than just throw it together and make my own small meal.

I don't have a set rule, but I enjoy eating as a family (of the same meal) most, and will often take the time to calculate the meals based on that.



SARAHANN01
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12/11/12 9:11 P

I don't prepare a completely different meal because what I am making is healthy, and I don't want to prepare something unhealthy for him just because he has a fast metabolism. I just plan to make him a double portion (or sometimes more as he wouldn't mind gaining a bit). If he gets hungry again later there are always snacks around. I typically make some whole wheat muffins and buy fruit every week so that he has something to snack on later.



AM_MORRIS87
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12/11/12 8:45 P

I do something similar. For example, tonight we were having steak for dinner. I cooked two 8 oz steaks. I gave one to him, and then I split mine into two 4 oz portions, and put one on my plate, and the other in a seperate container for him to eat tomorrow. Then I made a baked sweet potato and steamed broccoli for me, and made rice and brussel sprouts for him.

This happens pretty frequently. It's not that I always make an entirely different meal for him, but I might change the side dishes for him or make my version a little bit cleaner. Like I might make spaghetti squash casserole for myself, while he has regular spaghetti. I don't eat pasta, rice, mashed potatoes, etc., so any time that comes into play, I always make that just for him, and have baked sweet potato (or just extra veggies) for myself. Then I usually make him whatever vegetable he wants (because I like to eat broccoli every night and he doesn't lol), and then just serve him a larger portion of meat.

It doesn't bother me, because I like cooking. And it's better than feeling forced to eat "regular" food like he does. Which would mean verrrry small portions for me if I wanted to stay within my calorie range.



WAY2GOCAT
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12/11/12 12:29 P

My husband eats the same things I do, but in bigger portions. I cook a lot of SparkRecipes for us. In fact, that is almost all I cook. I like the fact I can add it easily to my tracker. When I cook something else, I build a recipe. Again, it makes tracking easy and accurate.
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-POOKIE-
Posts: 11,848
12/11/12 11:18 A

I doubt at all you are the only person!

I do it regulary, my fiance has a different lunch I pack for him, and he is also vegetarian and I am not, so often our bigger, evening meal has different aspects to it, and as you do, I add extra's to meet his calorie needs.



MEG-NATALIA07
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12/11/12 11:16 A

Depends. I'm gluten free, my husband is not. He needs more calories than I do. We're big fans of rice, potatoes and pastas. With pasta, I'll either make brown rice pasta, or eat spaghetti squash instead... I make the entire package of spaghetti though so that I have leftovers for the next day or two for him.

Many times I try and cook things we mutually enjoy and portion my own, and let him serve himself whatever he's hungry for.

With veggies, he only likes raw, and I prefer most of mine cooked, so that takes more time, but it works out.



SOCCERTAZ
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12/11/12 10:55 A

I usually just cook one meal. My husband does need more calories than I do, but he usually snacks more than I do. It is much simpler doing it as one meal instead of making two meals.



NIRERIN
Posts: 11,747
12/10/12 5:48 P

I think I might just like math more than you. If I were cooking rice for him and me, I would weigh out all the rice, say 210 grams, cook it, then serve myself a third of the yield (by weight or volume depending on which was easiest based on the rest of the meal). Same for the broccoli or sauce. Since the nutrition information available is an average anyways, I guess I can not see the point of being super accurate. If I am a little off this time, it gets balanced out on average.



YOJULEZ
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12/10/12 5:40 P

My BF can eat like a horse and not gain anything, so he does eat more than me. I don't cook separate meals, but this is what I do.

I rarely make just 2 servings of something, especially since I use the leftovers for lunch the next day. I cook a lot of casseroles or skillet meals as these reheat well usually. So once it's done, I take out two portions for me, based on how I built the recipe in the builder since I plan and track ahead of time. So if I built it as having 4 servings, I take out my 2 equal correct portions. The first one I dish up for me to eat, the other I put in a plastic container and let it cool off before putting in the fridge for my lunch. After that, whatever's left is fair game for him. Same sort of thing if I'm making a roast or a pork tenderloin or something like that. After slicing, I take my portion out, weigh it to make sure it's correct, then put it on my plate, and then do it again for my leftover lunch. After that he can eat as much as he wants of what's left. If I let him take his first I wouldn't ever be sure if my portion was totally correct.

Also, I buy most of my meat in bulk and freeze in packages of 2 in ziploc bags. The meat usually comes in various sizes, so I purposely put a smaller one in the bag for me, and a bigger one in for him. Baked potatoes are similar, I buy a large bag of potatoes, and then pick out a smaller one for me, and a bigger one for him. If the size difference is a lot I'll just take mine out of the oven a little earlier than his.

Lastly, I might have something like some kind of bread or tortillas on the side. Like tonight I'm making a red chile chicken and rice dish. So, I will have mine with one tortilla, he will probably have 2 or 3. He will also add sour cream to his, I will not.



GRAMCRACKER46
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12/10/12 5:36 P

I also cook for both of us and he also needs more calories than I. I keep it simple by serving him the same food and portions that I have and it's up to him to work in the extra calories, usually in the form of snacks.

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Edited by: GRAMCRACKER46 at: 12/10/2012 (17:38)


NAUSIKAA
Posts: 4,848
12/10/12 5:23 P

I do all the cooking; my husband does all the cleaning, and we both like it that way. My husband is at a healthy weight (he wants to lose 2-3 lbs) and his caloric needs are higher than mine. I get a kick out of tracking my eating perfectly, I guess it's my type A personality, but it works so I'm not going to fight it. Sometimes it's too much trouble to try to figure out exactly how to divide up a meal into his calories and my calories, so I cook the meal separately for each of us, even when we're eating the same thing.

We both come home for lunch (that's normal in the country where we live, lunch is the main family meal and dinner is the light meal). Today for lunch I made steamed broccoli, jasmine rice, chicken breast, and homemade general tso's sauce. I made the sauce and then weighed it out into two identical portions. Then I weighed out 600g raw broccoli for me, steamed it; then steamed the rest for him separately; weighed out 70g uncooked rice for me, cooked it; then cooked some for him; etc.

I don't do this for every meal but I do it maybe 3 times/week - for the other meals I divide them in half and then put olive oil or cheese or something on his to increase his calories (or give him a roll or some olives or whatever else with it). I also eat eggs or Greek yogurt w/ fruit for dinner pretty much every night, but I make a regular dinner for my husband. So I end up cooking a lot of times each day. Today I in effect cooked 8 separate dishes and that's not including the breakfast and snack I prepared for myself.

Am I the only one doing this? I suspect that I may be...



 
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