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MOTOMAMA, I like your reply. I remember reading something a long time ago: if we actually concentrated just on each bite of food we put in our mouths - how it tastes, how it feels - we would eat a LOT less.
We've all done it anyone who says they haven't isn't being honest with themselves. We're human and lets face it for many of us food has been our best friends when no one else would listen, care , a bad day, a good day, an argument with someone , or someone just saying the wrong thing to you. Okay , you bought a cake you ate the whole thing its in the past now ... You need to get some good healthier versions of what you like have you ever tried skinny cow fudge bars????? One day when I was on here I wrote something similar to what you did and a woman gave me the tip of eating skinny cows, OMG that was the best piece of advice I ever got on here because it's rich , its chocolatey it tastes like a thousand calories and it's only 100 calories a fudge bar!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (i'm not talking some skimpy fudge bar either) They have ice cream cones, sandwiches just look for healthier versions of foods, we're all gonna have those days especially now that its summer. Don't beat yourself up and remember it's a LIFESTYLE CHANGE NOT A DIET...... Good Luck on your journey! I know it's a tough rode and we're all going down the same path together one day at a time.
I think just about everyone has been there and revisited that feeling. When I used to start losing weight, I'd do that to myself. I'd say, okay, I was good this whole week (or maybe even just for the day), I went to the gym, now I can have this and that bad thing.
Even just yesterday I was at my parents house all day and I go to fridge, and see a wonderful Sara Lee cheesecake with the sour cream topping (my fav). I had to think about what to do. If I have none, I'll be thinking about it the whole time. If I'm careful, I could have a taste and make sure it was only a taste - not 1/4 of the cake. So, I had a tiny sliver and that was all I needed. I put it away and didn't obsess over it. But i think that was fine, I didn't binge, I didn't feel bad afterwards. In the past though, that cheesecake would have been gone.
So, I think it's just about thinking before you eat it. Like the other woman said about the pizza. Now when i give in to a food craving, I think about it and think do I really want it, is it worth a possible weight gain, and monitor how much I have. However, I have no advice for when it comes to that ToM, because I can hardly control myself. lol
I have done the same thing-sabotage myself.. I write down everything I eat in a journal so I can re- read it without going on the computer every time.. I found if I deprive myself of some of the foods I enjoy -including some junk foods for a few weeks- I will either binge or have a small amount, feel like a failure because "I shouldn't eat that", then give up a while then back on a diet. Its been a rollercoaster ride ( Am I the only one that has done this?!). Now I allow myself all the foods I have always enjoyed in Moderation and have been losing. I also realized from re-reading my journal, eating out with friends/family, a cookout, or any get together, is more about socializing than the food! Take one plate of food, whatever you like, walk far away from the food table, and begin getting caught up on things with friends /family..you forget all about going back for seconds! At a resturant, be the First to order so your not influenced by what other are ordering, this will be helpful going with a healthier first choice.
Edited by: TRUETOME60 at: 6/20/2012 (13:27)
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This journet is about change, not diet. Lifestyle change. There will be bumps in the road however once these changes becaome habits, the bumps are far and few in between. Don't deny yourself anything but you need to track in your food tracker. This keeps you accountable and once you see how many calories your using for your self sabotage, you start changing your food choices.
GOOD ANSWERS.... I WOULD ALSO REMIND YOU TO THINK IN TERMS OF A LIFESTYLE CHANGE...HAVE THINGS IN MODERATION...A SMALL PIECE OF CAKE, AND TELL YOURSELF TOMORROW YOU CAN HAVE ANOTHER ONE AND PLAN IT IN YOUR TRACKER. KEEP A JOURNAL,,,.WHAT ARE YOU FEELING WHEN YOU SABOTAGE YOURSELF? HOW DO YOU FEEL IF YOU "GIVE IN"? HOW DO YOU FEEL IF YOU MANAGE TO STAY ON TRACK? THIS WILL HELP YOU TO MAKE CHANGE. READ BOOKS BY GENEEN ROTH. CHEEK OUT ON AMAZON.COM. THEY ARE EXCELLENT AND WILL GIVE YOU INSIGHTS. BEST OF LUCK. YOU CAN DO THIS! HUGS. MARY
I have faced this in the past as well. Last night I was telling my husband how I had seen a pizza on tv that looked so good and I wanted to have some really bad. I made myself sit and think about how it would make me feel if I ate it, how my stomach would revolt and my body would feel sluggish. Then I pictured how I would feel emotionally, how I would beat myself up after eating it. As I was describing this to him it dawned on me that in the past I would not have thought about those things, I would have just eaten it. Especially because I've been feeling great about my weight and how I look and how active I've been lately. In the past I would have said that I deserved a treat like that, but now I realize that the treat is to continue feeling great. So I don't have any great mantra or super advice, but I can relate and I can offer the suggestion of stopping and thinking it through. Every day I think about how eating healthy and exercising has made me feel, I am mindful of what I'm doing for my body. When I am faced with making a decision about eating bad or skipping exercise I stop and think about it which is a big change from the past. I guess it's a habit to have in the forefront of my mind instead of the back of my mind now.
make cakes. use a muffin tin and make up a batch of little cakes. freeze all but the one you're going to eat. and to properly thaw them, you have to have them the next day. this way you have tiny cakes that aren't going to break the calorie bank and they aren't nearly as easy to access as the grocery store ones. and you've already spent time and money on the ones you have, so you shouldn't get more. secondly, start weighing monthly. you'll see bigger results and you'll be on a longer streak when it comes time to weigh. also remember that 3 100 cal workouts do not mean you can eat a cake. they might mean you could fit in a slice of cake a week, but you could also use that 300 cals to count towards your deficit. you may want to start by alternating where it goes. in other words, this week you get the slice of cake and next week you get 300 cals to your weightloss. the following week you can pick the cake again. and then you can save the cals for a deficit and so on.
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I need a little guidance. I do not know how to fix this problem of mine, but maybe you do. I sabotage my weight loss efforts. I have found this out just recently. I lose a few, start to feel really good about myself and my energy levels go up. So then I really do not realize what I am doing until it is too late, but I just skip exercise for that day, or I give in and buy that cake, and eat the whole thing. (a small one but cake none the less). It is frustrating. I do not know of a good mantra or something. Maybe keep a journal of my progress and I really do not know how to stop this negative behavior, but someone said that I am afraid of changing. So if that's the case, how do I change it? Thanks,
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