To add to what VELVETMERLIN has already stated, there's also the fact that advertising definitely gets under our skin. They (as in companies that make products) create a need through advertising-they tell us that we're not beautiful enough, and we're not perfect, and we never will be, BUT you can get a little bit closer by buying whatever product/crap they're selling. It's a way to get money from you and to buy into this notion that 1: you're not good as you are and 2: you need products-beauty products, weight loss products, jewelry, clothes, shoes, accessories to prove that you're just a little bit better than your neighbor. That Hollywood glamour crap adds to it too. It's all interconnected. I didn't look at your picture, but I don't need to. You're not an object to be judged. You're a human being. I hope things get better for you. I personally had an emotional break down regarding my physical appearance too. There's this perceived expectation that we need to all be gorgeous when really, the only way to adhere to that standard is to buy all the junk they're selling. I'm not saying don't buy anything, or don't dress the way you want, but just keep this in mind: Do you actually want it, or are they WANTING you to want it?
MIssruth is right: it all has to do with the way women are portrayed in Hollywood. We are taught from a young age (from TV) that we should look and dress and act a certain way and then we take all these measures to try to emulate them, mostly with disastrous results. We have to keep telling ourselves that they are the exception, not the rule. They have their jobs because of their looks (not all-some are actually talented, at least the ones who aren't on reality shows). I'm not saying that normal women don't; I'm just saying that we need to stop trying to get into a size 0 dress because that's what our favorite actress can wear. Think of it this way: they have an image to maintain and they have to work hard for their public; we don't have an audience of millions to entertain-we need to do this for ourselves. I hope my post makes sense and sounds ok! I'm not putting anyone down (just Hollywood) :)
You are beautiful and alive! remember,God doesn't make junk!!!! Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go out walking....Smile at everyone you see...If possible, do a random act of kindness...It always makes me feel better and will bring good karma your way!!
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24,786 2/1/13 1:55 A
Hi ANGBOO - I feel your pain, BUT I don't see the same person that you appear to see! The person I see is a beautiful young woman!
I too, had a look at your SparkPage. It would appear that you have been feeling like this for quite a long time. It is really horrible what Depression and a poor self-image can do to people. I have suffered from bad Depression myself, so can empathize. I hope that you are receiving medical and psychological help for your issues, because more often than not, without this help we can't move forward in a positive way. IF you aren't receiving treatment then I strongly suggest that you make an appointment with your Dr and tell him/her what is going on and how you are feeling. Also ask for a referral to a Therapist to help you. They will be able to help you deal with past baggage that is contributing to your low self-esteem, by giving you the tools to deal with it. If you are on meds, then it is possible that a medication review is in order.
Please take care, and know that WE care - AND that you TRULY ARE a beautiful young woman!! Kris xx
1/31/13 11:42 P
I'm with Archii on this one-- I've looked at the pic, and also your SparkPage, and I just don't see what's wrong. I don't know why so many of us women have such negative self-images. Some of it's probably due to how the press and movies and all, glorify these images of women who've been air-brushed and photo-shopped and plastic-surgeried into some sort of "ideal". sigh. Like it's not enough for us to just look like, how we look.
And like Archii said, we are our own worst critics.
At any rate, I think you look just fine.
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1/31/13 4:14 P
You're a lovely young woman !!
We are our own worst critics. Flaws we see in ourselves. No one else sees. I know you're probably hearing negative voices in your head telling you that you're ugly. You don't have to listen to those voices.
You know what I see ? Someone with gorgeous brunette hair ! I see someone with a nice completion and bright eyes.
As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". I want you to tell me something you DO like about that photo. Because there really is a lot to like.
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