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5/22/11 3:11 P

Just been to the doctors, henceforth the reason for the new lifestyle, all of a sudden now I am diabetic and not just pre, full blown with very bad numbers. New day today and back on the healthy ways again but tell me how do you find the support from your spouse when they doen't believe any of the diet restrictions and reasons? He says just a bunch of bull the doc says to keep you coming back and he is going to eat what he whats, as much as he wants and die happy. And he brings the junk in the house, mostly I can aviod temptations but it is hard to eat at the same table while they eat what I used to enjoy just so I can LOVE that salad I am having...

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5/22/11 2:04 P

BGRILL,

As we age, it does get harder to lose weight especially if you've gone through or are approaching menopause. So, don't beat on yourself because the weight isn't coming off fast enough. If you continue to do your best to eat right and get some regular exercise, the weight will come off. But, you must be patient with yourself and your body.

When is the last time you had a physical or talked to your doctor ? If you haven't had time for yourself because you've been taking care of everyone else, then you need to set aside some time for yourself. Talk to your doctor. find out what your blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc... all are. As you change your habits to become healthier, those numbers will change for the better.

Also, if you do find yourself turning to alcohol to help you feel better, that's not going to help your situation get any better. If you can, you've got to try to reduce the amount of alcohol you're drinking. It's not helping your well being or your waistline. When we start drinking too much, we don't think about how much we eat. And if you've seen your weight go up, it's probably because you're eating more than you think.

If you haven't seen your doctor in a while, I'd start there. As far as losing weight, start with simple changes. Walking is wonderful cardiovascular exercise. There are members who will tell you how they lost 100+ pounds just by walking and watching what they ate. So, keep walking. it will make a difference with time.

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5/21/11 11:19 P

No I meant 30 plus years, I am just recently learning how damaging he really has been to me. And I know about the depression meds, I was mad and upset before the alcohol, but thanks for reading my post and actually taking time to respond. At least I know someone is listening.

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5/21/11 11:12 P

I can see that you are sad. I'm guessing you meant 10+ years and you've been trying to change for six weeks? A couple of things stood out to me in your post. One is most depression medication doesn't work well in combination with alcohol so that could contribute to the way you are feeling tonight.

Are you tracking your calories on the nutrition tracker? Knowing how much your are really eating can be eye opening. Substitute the alcohl calories for fruits and vegetables. Losing 1-2 lbs a week is a very healthy way to go and we can't really expect to change a decade worth of habits in six short weeks.

Losing weight for your health and for you is worthwhile and takes time. If you ultimately are still feeling that depressed, you should talk to your doctor and see about changing dosage or medication.

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5/21/11 11:00 P

You said it so well, alcohol and social pressure will lower you motivation threshold. There is no race here, just conviction to a dream. Now stand up, dust yourself off and we're ready to support you again.

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5/21/11 10:34 P

The first time in 6 weeks that I started this diet/lifestyle, I have fallen off the diet wagon. Too much food and alcohol...I know why, HIM, he does not make me feel good and hasn't for a long time. It's been 34 years so there is no way to give up but damn what I wish for is a sin. I want to suceed but 10+- over 6 weeks of denial of my new health issues is not much of a progress. I want to see this fat disappear faster for the effort I have put in. Denying what I want to eat and drink and tread mill walking every single day at 6 am I am tired of workign so hard and seeing such little results. And now today the way he is making me feel tonight......I am ready to just throw in the towel and go back to the way I was, and just let the health issues end this sucky life faster. May be hormones or whatever but I take meds for depression and and just tired of so much work for so little results everywhere. Maybe tomorrow when I sober and wake up I will feel different but with no diet results this whole week I am frustrated.