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KKKAREN SparkPoints: (224,301)
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8/16/13 8:13 A

I enjoy living alone, like the privacy and ability to do what I want when I want. Yes getting sick is bad or it's bad when you just need an extra hand at something. My friends usually step up when I need help.

Karen
SHERYLDS Posts: 12,716
8/16/13 7:16 A

I treasure my sanctuary and safe haven.
I enjoy my independence, the freedom to do what I want, when I want.
I like the privacy. If I want company they're only a phone call or a car ride away.

The big negative is when you get really sick...and you really need help...
That can be scary.

Sheryl from New Jersey, EST...2015 start wt. 231
FISHER011 Posts: 1,600
8/15/13 11:37 P

being afraid


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JULIE700 Posts: 699
8/15/13 2:39 P

For me it is the cooking. I just cannot master the art of cooking for one. I ALWAYS make too much and end up eating the same thing for days on end. I've tried freezing portions for later but by the time I'm in the mood for it again it ends up tasting horrible out of the freezer!

Edited by: JULIE700 at: 8/15/2013 (14:39)
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8/15/13 2:03 P

For the most part, I don't mind being alone.

Sometimes it is annoying, when I can't fix something by myself.

Also, it would be nice to have someone to talk to about things that I am concerned about.


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NWLIFESRC Posts: 9,316
8/15/13 1:19 P

Not having someone to share your days and nights with, someone to talk too, etc.

ANNETTE117 Posts: 2,551
8/15/13 1:05 P

Eating leftovers for days.

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE Posts: 27,502
8/15/13 1:03 P

not having someone else to get the house of spiders. :)

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (77,685)
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8/15/13 12:35 P

in a perfect world, we'd have homes in the same neighborhood (walking distance, or even next door to each other). DH & I could spend time together, but easily be able to have our own space without infringing on each other.







until the health dept came to condemn DH's home as a bio hazard...
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DLBROWN93 Posts: 887
8/15/13 12:19 P

cleaning the gutters

SE2832 Posts: 31
8/15/13 12:13 P

Worst thing is when you are sick. My friends and family call to check on me, so it's ok.

Sole control of the remote---Priceless.

MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (32,534)
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8/15/13 8:30 A

When it was just myself and my my son...I hated having to deal with home repairs or checking out noises in the middle of the night emoticon

EOWYN2424 Posts: 6,338
8/15/13 2:24 A

I live with my parents and brother. Family is a blessing!



EXPECTSMIRACLES Posts: 101
8/15/13 2:13 A

If I vomited I would have to clean it up myself.

TERRI77 SparkPoints: (319,934)
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8/14/13 10:14 P

Nobody to do the home repairs.

I'm just not giving up on me. I will never stop trying to be healthy, no matter my failures and shortcomings.

KITTYCAT64 Posts: 599
8/14/13 4:35 P

No one to give the honey do list to.

TINIERTINA Posts: 5,023
8/14/13 4:30 P

Pros: I can have my TV on in the morning, as I'm getting ready for work ..
I answer only to the four walls

Con: It's really just the four walls that I answer to



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LOSE4LIFE47 Posts: 56,512
8/14/13 11:27 A

I have no one to talk to

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BLUEBIRDSFLY Posts: 3,628
8/14/13 11:20 A

Lately I have found living alone lonely. But I have been in long-term relationships and I know that there is a give and take there too so I am not sure what the solution is.

Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity"
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8/14/13 6:02 A

well, when I lived (semi) alone it was both a blessing and I curse that I was solely responsible for all decisions both big and small! Now I am married and sometimes it is a struggle to give up that decision making to share with someone else! Especially when I had learned to be a real penny pincher because I had to be. Now he is the main bread winner and that is nice but sometimes makes me feel as though my voice isn't as loud! lol

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TENNISJIM Posts: 11,074
8/14/13 5:54 A

I have not lived alone in such a long time....

THROOPER62 Posts: 19,946
8/14/13 5:31 A

No one to talk to

JAMIRBLAZE Posts: 1,139
8/13/13 10:06 A

I've lived alone for the most part for 7 years. I don't mind it, as I'm a bit of a loner, have a very social job and have a good friend who lives down the street from me. Yes, I do tend to eat the same thing day after day, but for the most part, I like what I cook, so it's not an issue. (I grew up eating the same thing, more or less, for lunch most weeks, so I guess that I'm used to it.) I'm also pretty handy (and so is my dad), so I rarely worry about repairs, etc. though I'm pretty capable of defending myself and do live in a condo with neighbors close by. If I had a house with a yard, I'd probably get a big, sloppy mutt to have around, but I work too long of hours and have too little space for one now.

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8/13/13 4:56 A

On the whole I prefer to live alone as I've had lodgers who haven't always been easy. There are times when it would be nice to have someone to share a meal with or to help in the garden but I'm happy as things are.

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8/13/13 3:51 A

having to go shopping emoticon

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JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (270,289)
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8/12/13 11:19 P

I've never had to live alone. Maybe you need to get a roommate.

Janie Garcia Moreno

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8/12/13 9:47 P

I've lived alone for about 30 years and really like it. I find I eat healthier at home alone than under other conditions. I've learned to make stuff for one.

I like not having to get dressed on a day off ... not having to comb my hair ... etc. I like that it doesn't matter if I am a bit messy, or choose to stay up real late reading, or whatever ... I like that freedom and would probably resent having to alter my lifestyle to suit another.

On the down side, I feel awkward with contracters/service providers around -- but not really frightened as I live in a condo. If something happened to me, someone would hear me scream. I don't think I would feel as safe if I lived alone in a single-family home. I prefer having close neighbors who are there and readily accessible in an emergency. (I live in a nice building that is a "community" of sorts.) ... but I can close the door and have my privacy.

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PITUFA2471 Posts: 568
8/12/13 3:53 P

No quick hugs when you really want and need it. No one to talk to at all, no one to watch movies or have supper with....sometimes is good but not all the time


RAINEMARIE214 Posts: 1,774
8/12/13 3:50 P

I like living alone because I am introverted and like quiet. When I had roommates I always had to deal with everyone else being loud, and wanting to talk all of the time. I am perfectly content sitting in silence. I also like being able to watch whatever I want to watch on tv; reading a book without anyone bothering me; and being able to do craft projects without interruptions.

I dont like living alone on days when I am having pretty bad, emotional days. I want to be comforted and there is no one there (except my dog) when I get home. I also dont like to cook for myself - I do batch cook on the weekends - but I get bored of the same thing over and over and am much more inclined to grab take out rather than cook something new!

"I am a work in progress, dressed in the fabric of a world unfolding." - Ani Difranco

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8/12/13 2:21 P

I really like cooking for myself, now I just need to master cooking extra and freezing in portion sized containers. One of the best things about living alone is not having to please other people with what I want to eat, and when!

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EWL978 Posts: 2,021
8/12/13 2:20 P

The repairs that need to be done....like when the smoke alarm started "chirping" which meant that before the day was through it would be hollering at me...and of course, in Florida the ceilings are 16' high!! Not me!! Had to scurry around to get a handyman that could show up in the same day. These guys are busy!!

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8/12/13 2:15 P

definitely finding motivation to cook for myself - however on the positive side, I can eat whatever I want, no matter how strange it may be. If I feel like eating leftover pasta all week - so bit it since I am the only one dining.

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8/12/13 2:11 P

when I lived alone, my dishwasher was used as a drying rack - I'd wash the dishes in the sink, then put them in the dishwasher and leave it open until they dried

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8/12/13 1:50 P

I love living alone. If something is missing, I know who to blame for leaving it in the wrong spot. I tend to eat the same things day in and day out until I get sick of them so cooking is a breeze - I make enough for four meals and only have to cook once or twice a week. I do miss having help cleaning up after cooking, but on the flip side, if the sink is full of dirty dishes it's my own fault!

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8/12/13 1:45 P

there are definitely days that I miss living alone

The most handicapped person in the world is a negative thinker; a person who has the skills, abilities, talents and tools, yet chooses not to use them.
~Heather Whitestone

Forget your perfect offering, there is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.
~Leonard Cohen
BETE2013 Posts: 61
8/12/13 1:33 P

I LOVE living alone. But like others on here, the leftovers get old. Ha!

DIDS70 Posts: 5,368
8/12/13 1:24 P

noone but me to kill the spiders.

:)
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8/12/13 12:16 P

i am the first one to say that i love living alone.......but it has its downside........eating for one sorta sucks......no-one to share a good meal or cook for.......so its easier to just grab something......

it doesnt matter if you run slowly.........you are still running faster than someone on the couch!!!
KITTYCAT64 Posts: 599
8/12/13 12:07 P

I have been alone for nineteen years. I love it, but I will say that cooking for one is a challenge.

PATTIJOHNSON Posts: 2,075
8/12/13 11:59 A

Gives you too much time to think about sad and sorry things, however, it also gives you lots of time to focus on good and educational things and hobbies without interruption.

Keep a sense of humor. Remember, laughing burns calories too!

Laugh until it hurts! It's one of the few things in life that's still free!!

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8/12/13 11:50 A

I've lived on my own for over 25 years now; though I don't consider myself "alone" because I live with two cats. I honestly cannot think of a down side. I am an introvert, so I would not do well sharing my space with another person.


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SHKIRK Posts: 1,168
8/12/13 11:46 A

My problem is I cook too much and have to eat the same stuff 4 days in a roll. (even after freezing half in meals). Another thing is worring if I have a sudden health condition no one would find me. " I've fallen and I can't get up !!" HA-HA emoticon

DEBIROTH Posts: 296
8/12/13 11:42 A

Can't even seem to pay anyone in the family to fix might outside lights or other things that need done outdoors.

Debi Rothausen
DLBROWN93 Posts: 887
8/12/13 11:25 A

yard work

KNUCKLES145 Posts: 13,672
8/12/13 10:50 A

I hate having to make all the decisions.

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8/12/13 10:36 A

Not having someone to share your days and nights with, someone to talk too, etc.

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8/12/13 9:50 A

re: not cooking - when I lived alone, I would go for weeks eating oatmeal for either breakfast or dinner, and grits for the other meal. Because I didn't want to cook, and because I didn't want to go to the grocery.

I can totally relate to being uncomfortable with workers in your home. It is very scary. If you have a neighbor that you trust, see if they will come over for a visit. Or maybe you could call somebody. Or arrange for several friends/family members to call you during that window of time.

for me, the worst thing was hearing noises at night. Or when my dog would stare at something behind me, or stare up at top of the stairs.
that's another thing - if I was downstairs, there were always noises upstairs. When I was upstairs, I would hear noises downstairs.


there are LOTS of good things about living alone though. You can do whatever YOU want. You only have yourself to clean up after. Nobody is going to drink the last of the milk or use the last roll of TP without telling you. Nobody steals the covers on a cold night. You can enjoy some quiet time - no TV, no phone, no music, no talking. You can start a project - and actually finish it without being interrupted. Nobody is going to ask 'how many times have you seen that movie?' when you watch one of your favorite flicks for the 100th time.

The most handicapped person in the world is a negative thinker; a person who has the skills, abilities, talents and tools, yet chooses not to use them.
~Heather Whitestone

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~Leonard Cohen
NWFL59 Posts: 6,137
8/12/13 9:14 A

having to do everything yourself

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MKMMARTY Posts: 2,392
8/12/13 9:02 A

I can't think of anything - only coming home to an empty house sucks

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8/12/13 8:58 A

Not wanting to cook for myself.
Uncomfortable having workers or service people in my home.

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