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ESME25 Posts: 213
8/8/12 11:55 A

i hate working out in front of anyone, too. so i will either work out in a different room and ask him not to come in or send him out to do something else.
i used to do the same thing with my old roommate, but then i finally just started working out in front of him. but i'm still a little weird about working out in from of my fiance.

YNKECHICK06 Posts: 128
8/5/12 1:47 P

I used to not want my fiance watching me when I was working out, but I've actually asked him to do it with me a few times. :) I've found it totally motivates me to work harder, and also, since I've been doing it longer then him...I have much more stamina then he does. :D GREAT for the ego. :) It feels like we're doing something together.

STLCARDSFANS05 Posts: 916
8/2/12 8:48 A

my first marriage was almost 20 yrs with 3 kids. one day you will laugh at the thought that working out in front of him made you self conscience. before you know it you will be popping zits on his bum. emoticon

JRWILLERS Posts: 40
5/9/12 2:21 P

When my fiance and I first got together I hated working out in front of him. I either made him go in the other room or just make sure he wasn't watching. Or I would make sure I got my workout in before he got home from work. But now I feel like it shouldn't matter as long as you're working out and if he truly supports you he wouldn't say anything negative about you. I want to be healthy for me and if he wants me to be healthy also then there will be times when I have to workout in front of him.

KASSANDRA_MAE93 SparkPoints: (803)
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5/8/12 11:51 P

I hate working out with my fiancee... He is so fit and I am not at all... We do workouts together and he is like it is so easy as I am like dying. What we have started doing is he will go do his workout in another room while I am doing mine, it seems to work for us.

SHUFFMAN126 Posts: 205
5/8/12 2:49 P

I'm glad you found something that works for you! And it's great that he is supportive, having a partner that supports your fitness goals is key in meeting them and then maintaining your goal weight

ANG3LIA SparkPoints: (2,626)
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5/5/12 11:49 A

I hate working out in front of him. He had much more weight to lose than I did, and lost it so fast. He's a tough cookie and I feel inadequate when it comes to working out. He's someone that can do the minimal amount of calories every day, and go to the gym and sweat his life away. I can't workout as hard as him and enjoy myself after. I find that doing that makes me give up so much faster because I'm killing myself and not seeing results. It's not worth it to me. I'd rather stay at a steady pace and see the casual results. He, however, feels that I can be doing more and that I don't push myself. He's right, of course, but he just doesn't understand that I don't WANT to push myself that hard. I need to find a healthy calm way of living, not kill myself for 4 months and then start the healthy lifestyle. He never outright says anything, but I always feel him judging. It annoys me.

MRS_CHEFDOODLES SparkPoints: (316)
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5/3/12 3:16 P

We just got married on April 9th and before the wedding we were both working out and losing weight. At first we both worked opposite schedules so it was easy for me to avoid working out in front of him because I was so self conscious. Our schedules changed and my progress suffered. One day he sat me down and talked to me about my fear of working out in front of him. He told me things that made me feel 100 times more comfortable. Now he's my best motivation and the best support system I have.

For us working out together helps us both. :)

LIRPA246 Posts: 701
5/2/12 2:06 P

I hate working out in front of anyone but I have recently been trying to get over it. I think of it as setting a good example for my SO and try to get over my body shame.

CODILYNN2 SparkPoints: (17,106)
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4/26/12 10:01 A

My Fiancee watched me do Zumba once too and we giggled a little bit together but it wasnt that big of a deal.. It was more like mmmm show me those moves in 15 minutes :) Now I wish he would watch me workout I have been doing Body Rock Videos and I wish he could see me kick ass doing them!

KITTEN_351 Posts: 486
3/27/12 9:09 A

My fiancee makes fun of my Zumba but I just tease him and tell him to show me his moves. Then he usually does a little funny dance, sticks his tongue out and goes away. I do my Zumba on the Wii, so I like to tell him to try and get a better score than me. He has yet to take me up on that. It's fun and funny because his Zumba moves are WAYYY funnier than mine ever could be! emoticon

BLUUTH SparkPoints: (469)
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3/16/12 1:26 A

We work out together - I walk/run with the dog more often, but the 3 times a week runs are always together. He's a great motivator. We're both really competitive, so if he's having a good run I'll push myself along to stay with him (and vice-versa). It works out great.

I haven't started strength training yet - that I HATE to do infront of him because he's always critiquing my form. Maybe I'll get him a set of free weights so we can do it together emoticon

PRINCESSMANDIE Posts: 4,820
3/9/12 1:27 P

I have the same issue. I do my Insanity in the evenings because that's when I have the most energy and can get it done without waking up at 4:00am. But the problem is my FI is home at 4:00pm almost every afternoon.

Well I just do it anyway. Sometimes he goes into our bedroom and plays a game on his phone, other times he sits on the couch and watches me. We're a teasing couple too and yes I'd be embarrassed if he teased me but I think he knows this is too important to me to say anything.

Maybe you could talk to him and let him know that you are dancing funny and crazy but you'd appreciate only encouraging comments.

Edited by: PRINCESSMANDIE at: 3/9/2012 (13:27)
YNKECHICK06 Posts: 128
3/8/12 8:23 P

great idea katherine2008...i got home later then expected from work today, and I called him to see when he'd be leaving work. I told him I wanted about an hour, and it worked out perfectly. :) he got a little over time, and picked up some chicken for dinner. By the time he got home, I was in the shower. Works perfectly. :)

KATHERINE2008 Posts: 22
3/8/12 4:25 P

It also might be a good time to ask him to run errands/volunteer/whatever else he does outside of the house. I'm guessing since he's supportive, he'd be willing to tweak his schedule to help you out.

LACEYLOU236 SparkPoints: (2,719)
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3/8/12 4:43 A

Thank you, everybody, for your advice! I've actually gotten used to doing strength training in front of him and he's really supportive. However, I still can't dance in front of him so I go jogging for cardio if he's home.

CHRISEDER Posts: 743
2/21/12 1:35 P

I totally get this, My FI is the one who will NOT work out with me or with me in the room, its a confidence thing for him. our solution was if he is working out in the living room I just hangout elsewhere. I am also joining a gym without him so while Im out working out he can do it at home in total privacy.

Good luck and congrats :)


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2/17/12 3:39 P

Is it possible to switch up your workout and take a venture outside?? Even if you just walk or run, you're doings something. Maybe he could go on a walk or run with you? Then he doesn't have to see you be your crazy self, but you still get quality time!!! And he sounds like a supportive enough guy that he wouldn't care.

MSBELLAB SparkPoints: (834)
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2/17/12 2:29 P

It sounds as though he is very supportive and even though he likes to tease might actually join you in a work out or two just for fun.
My fiance' doesn't like to work out with me but we love to take the dogs on long walks together.
Have fun with it and enjoy!

Bella

YNKECHICK06 Posts: 128
2/17/12 2:14 P

Yah, I really hate working out in front of my fiance. We work different shifts, so usually its not a problem. However, he is off on weekends, and I work. I just ask him to stay upstairs until I call him to come down in the morning. :D He's really great about it...and he knows if he doesn't do that, I wont work out at all that day! lol...so its a win win for us both! :D

SCTK519 Posts: 2,085
2/17/12 12:52 A

You just have to do it; you're not going to get used to it if you don't workout in front of him. My husband and I are also the teasing sort, but he doesn't tease me about working out cause he knows it's important to me; maybe you need to express to your fiance that you're embarrassed about him seeing you workout, but you need to do it. Otherwise if it's that challenging, can he go chill out in another room for an hour while you work out?

LACEYLOU236 SparkPoints: (2,719)
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2/16/12 6:03 P

Here's my situation: I am engaged to an extremely supportive, kind, sexy man who is trying to help me lose weight, and I love him so much for it. I usually work out at home in the morning while he is at work since I can't afford a gym membership right now and hell, I just like dancing like a crazy person without knowing people are staring at me. The problem is, my fiance got a couple of weeks off work since he's a teacher and they're having a mid-winter break, so my hours to workout without being seen have disappeared. Being the supportive guy he is, he told me that he didn't care at all if I worked out in front of him. But we are the teasing-type of couple so if he sees my Zumba moves...oh, it will just be so embarrassing.

So my question is, what can I do to get my workout in without him noticing? Or, better yet, how can I get used to him being around while I work out?

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