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FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,868
6/7/13 2:56 P

How come most cut their hair when they are pregnant or shortly after they deliver too hahaha I use to have it short when I was a kid and hated that after like 2nd grade off it went. Now it's long and it's staying long till the day I die!
Even when carrying my son in the summer months of heat I kept it long and right after I found the time to take care of me and make sure my hair was always done and make up was put on.
My mother once told me when I turned 30 yrs old okay your getting to old for that long hair you need to cut it hahahaha I said I'm dying with my hair long ....
I also cut my own hair after so many disasters at the hair salon, it really came in handy me taking up hairdressing in high school hahahaha
I'd bring pics of haircuts and I'd always come out butchered no matter what hair salon I went to now that I have to color my hair I have my hubby help me. I don't trust the salons.
Some people just have the face for short hair, I never thought I did. I guess women are so much more on the go these days it's easier for them to just have it short.
I remember my hubby asking me after I had my son are you going to cut your hair short now? hahaha I said noway! He said good I love your hair long hahaha emoticon

KRAFTYKRAFT SparkPoints: (96,210)
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6/7/13 2:11 P

I plan to have long hair until I am too old to care - long hair is my signature look and I don't want to mess with it :)

HICKORYRN Posts: 279
6/7/13 1:48 P

I kept my hair long for years until a hairdresser told me in my 40s if I would let him cut it he would guarantee it would take 10 years off my age. It DID! Everyone I saw commented on how much younger I looked. I believe that is why most women go makes them look younger! :) There is definitely more maintenance with short hair though.

BREWERFAN71 SparkPoints: (32,482)
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6/7/13 1:31 P

When I was a kid my parents kept my hair short & I was mistaken for a boy. So when I hit my teens I grew my hair out. I had long hair until my mid 30's, but it was a mistake cuz I have very fine, thin hair. I found a great hairdresser who gave me a great cut. I'm now 42 & get more compliments on my hair now than I ever did. So for me, it was more about letting go my hang-ups from childhood, & just going for it-things that you finally figure out as you get older!

That being said, I notice more that many women will cut their long hair when they become moms-my mom did, my grandma did-although neither of my sisters did. I'm not a mom but I imagine it has to do with whatever is easiest to take care of with little ones running around!

JOANIEBUG46 Posts: 4,214
6/7/13 10:32 A

I can only speak for myself and texture and having soft hair is very important to me. I am about 80% grey under my hair color. Grey hair is wiry and if I let my hair grow, it looks frizzy at the ends, even with very good hair care products. For this reason I get my hair colored and trimmed every 5 weeks. My husband's sisters are all in their 50's and they all have long hair. It works for them, but it looks bad on me. PLUS, I live in Florida and like to walk outside, which is in high heat and humidity. Longer hair frizzes like crazy on me.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
6/7/13 10:07 A

My mom had her hair shorter most of her adult life. She had the same hairstyle too. I can't imaging her with long hair. As she got older her hair starter to thin out so shorter hair was probably better for camouflaging that. I think long hair would have been more difficult for her to physically care for on her own with arthritis and such.

I've had my hair long, short and in between. I have shoulder length hair these days. I like shorter hair. It feels very light and free to me. I wouldn't cut my hair off just because I was a certain age though.

LUV2SURFCHIC Posts: 2,507
6/7/13 9:55 A

I'm 54 and have thyroid issues. Its just too hard to keep it long with it falling out. I'm going to get it cut much shorter as soon as I have the money to pay my outrageously expensive stylist lol.

KENZYE Posts: 357
6/7/13 9:44 A

I LOVE my long hair. I cant imagine cutting my hair short. When I get my hair done I am always checking to make sure my stylist doesnt cut too much. She knows me by now, and knows the lenght that I prefer. I see women with short hair all the time, and yes, I have wondered how it would look on me, but then I strike that thought out of my mind.

One way to find out if you like short hair or not, is to experiment with wigs. That will give you the "look" without any permanent commitment. It works to try other colors too.

MADEIT3 Posts: 2,586
6/7/13 9:40 A

I've been short all my life and now that I'm 60 plus, I'm letting it grow. Tired of making a mortgage payment to my hairdresser!

5BADDOGS Posts: 653
6/7/13 9:23 A

I've had both - long hair almost to my waist, and a super short pixie cut, and everything in between. I like it best at extremes - medium length hair doesn't suit me. Too much work.

Currently, I'm long again ( to my bra band) and I'm definitely past the conventional age for hair that long (46). I don't care. I like it - I maintain it (I was blessed with nice hair) - and I'll keep it that way as long as I want. Convention be damned!

I will say that once you go short, growing it back long again is a time commitment. I endured months and months of in-between styles that nearly made me throw in the towel and pixie it off. Growing it long is a bit like a diet that way....

What works best on different women is a matter of opinion and taste. I love Halle Berry's hair short. I love Charlize Theron's hair short. I don't like Ginnifer Goodwin's pixie at all, but i think Michelle Williams looks best in a pixie. I like Jennifer Aniston's hair better long. And Diane Keaton's, Blythe Danner's, and Meryl Streep's. Age doesn't matter - do what makes you happy!

DLDROST Posts: 8,082
6/7/13 7:31 A

51 and long hair...

VIKINGSMOMDE SparkPoints: (29,537)
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6/7/13 6:30 A

I'm in my 40s and have short hair. I love it! I started cutting my hair shorter when I went grey (in my 20s) and the texture completely changed (from super straight to super textured). Now, my hair grows OUT rather than down.

I get compliments on my hair all the time ... but ... I think it's because I spend $$ going to a great stylist who is determined to keep me out of the middle-age blahs (and does amazing color too).

When my youngest graduates high school in 11 years, I'm planning on buzzing my hair & going naturally grey to see if I like it.

LADYSTARWIND SparkPoints: (83,102)
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6/7/13 12:49 A

Amen!! emoticon

JUDYAMK SparkPoints: (30,709)
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6/6/13 11:31 P

I am 62 & I had my hair chin length I hated it, made my face look even fatter like I had stuffed nuts in my cheeks. I told the hair dresser I want a mini cut no half inch or inch. I started to take Biotin for my hair to grow faster,believe me it works!!!! Finally it is past my chin,down to my collar bone. I always heard growing up from other women ( not my Mom she always had long beautiful hair back then ) you had to keep your hair short at a certain age, I see so many women past 40 with longer hair..I have no idea why that is a rlue for some people to have hair length & age be an issue.

EMMYERS76 SparkPoints: (10,444)
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6/6/13 9:27 P

For me, it has nothing to do with age...I have never been able to grow my hair out. I have uber fine hair, and it just doesn't grow faster than it breaks. So, although I am a bit older, my hair is short because I can't grows it.

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6/6/13 9:20 P

I guess it depends on the person.

LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 4,690
6/6/13 1:38 P

I also have to agree that 40 is not old (I'm in my early 40s now)! 50 and 60 are also not old! Maybe, just maybe, you can all start calling me "older" when I hit my mid 70's, but don't call me "old" even when I hit 80! Why on earth we want to call women "older" starting when they hit their mid 30's is beyond me. I think it's a kind of discrimination. We don't call men "older" starting when they hit their mid 30's, do we?

My hair is shoulder-length. When I was a kid, I had short hair. Mom liked it that way, but I absolutely hated it. Absolutely. Hated. It. She would make me get pixie cuts and (gag, even worse) for a while (in the mid-1970s), she made me get Florence Henderson 1970s style short shag cuts. Oh, yes, she made me wear bell-bottom pants with that... I cringe even thinking about it. When I finally refused another shag cut (with crying and hysterics), she made me get a short bob, which was an improvement, I admit (looking back at photos, it was cute), but I still didn't like my hair short. As soon as I hit middle school, I rebelled and absolutely refused to get my hair cut! I grew my hair out for a few years. When I hit high school, I got it cut shoulder-length, so it would be easier to style. It's been shoulder length since then. I have absolutely no plans to ever have it cut short.

Edited by: LOVE4KITTIES at: 6/6/2013 (14:00)
MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,403
6/6/13 1:18 P

I am almost 40 and I have long hair. Back when I was in my twenties, I was told that once you hit 35 you must cut your hair short. Well I will break the rules and I am breaking them. My hair is a little past my bra band.

One reason I won't cut my hair is because I look really UGLY with short hair. Its unmanageable short. And takes to much time to style. So I am going to keep my long hair. I guess if I must cut it, it would be to my shoulders

YOJULEZ SparkPoints: (15,981)
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6/6/13 1:05 P

My mom keeps her hair short because it's better for her naturally curly hair and easier for her to maintain. When I was growing up she always had longer hair and had to spend a lot of time on it because it wasn't the nice kind of curly, it was very unruly. I think she looks really nice with short hair. Her younger sister is in her 50s and doesn't have the curly hair, and she keeps it longer and it looks nice. Her other sisters with curly hair all keep it short.

I plan on keeping my long hair as long as possible though... it's very straight and doesn't look very good short. I went through a phase a few years ago where I kept it short, chin length, and in hindsight it made my face look round and fat.

I think it's just all about what looks good on you and what you like.

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6/6/13 12:41 P

It's all a matter of perceptions (the person choosing the style/cut and the people who look at them) ... and individuality. What looks great on one person looks terrible on another, and often has not a thing to do with age.

I used to have shoulder length hair (I'm 54) and when I got it cut short, I had SO many people at work - people who didn't even necessarily know me - commenting on how great it looked, as well as friends and family.

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6/6/13 11:40 A

depends on the person, their hair, their face, etc.

but I will say that as one ages, their hair often thins or the texture changes, so shorter hair may be a better option. And if you color to mask the gray, it may be easier to do with hair that isn't super long.

also, hanging on to a really young hairstyle can make you look older than you are (says the person who has the same hairstyle she did in her HS grad picture). My lack of change is sheer laziness. I'm not going to do anything other than towel dry & comb my hair. And I know it.

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6/6/13 11:22 A

IMHO. If an older woman (over 50) keeps herself youthful looking (normal weight, exercises, stays young in spirit) then I think hair to the shoulders or a little longer looks best and will keep her looking youthful for her age.

I think when women crop all their hair off and it could pass for a man's hair cut it does nothing for them. That short of hair draws you to your skin and features are more pronounced. Since your skin is not as pretty as it was when you were younger and your features are not as nice, the look of very short hair does nothing for you and ages you. IMHO.

GEVANS7 SparkPoints: (276,675)
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6/6/13 10:37 A

I'm 59 and have long hair. I mostly wear it in a stylish updo- especially for work. Short hair makes me look old and the texture of my hair doesn't work for short hair. Then there's the maintenance - a haircut every month? no thanks. Older hair requires much more product maintenance, especially going through menopause, when your entire body is at war with you.

Long unkempt, dry, untrimmed hair is not attractive on anyone. The "old lady" short hair is equally unflattering. Many stylist have one haircut and give it to all their clients.

I remember old school rules when we were told you couldn't wear a bikini after age 25. I wore one until I was 53. Oh and don't forget that "older" women were not supposed to wear red.

Nonsense in today's society.

MOM2ACAT SparkPoints: (190,535)
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6/6/13 9:37 A

I think it depends on the shape of the face and the texture of the hair. For me, ( I am 49), I feel I look my best when it is almost, but not quite shoulder length. My hair is a fine texture and naturally straight, and if it gets too long, it just looks thin and "stringy".

I have seen some older women that look great with long hair; one celebrity example I can think of is Cher, she is in her 60's, and she still looks great with the long hair.

I think long hair can look good on most people, regardless of age, as long as it is taken care of and looks healthy.

Edited by: MOM2ACAT at: 6/6/2013 (11:30)
NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
6/6/13 9:24 A

My mom (69) has below-shoulder-length hair and my mother in law (63) has very very short hair. They both look great. I have short-ish hair (bob) because it's the style that looks best on me. I suppose my face could change enough that i would need a different style when I get older, but I've had the bob since 2007 and I have no desire to change it, it really is the most flattering style for my face/head/body. I used to have very long hair because I was self conscious and thought that it covered me up. Letting go of my long hair was one of the most freeing things I ever did, as silly as that sounds. Maybe when I get older (65+) I may feel the same way about going super-short!

MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (32,853)
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6/6/13 8:31 A

First, I think it is probably personal preference for most women. However, I know a few women who have said their hair texture changed and cutting it a little kept it more healthy.

MLAN613 Posts: 18,418
6/6/13 8:27 A

40s is NOT OLD!!!!! I am 40 myself and know I have many years of living left. I think a lo of it is a stereotype stating you can't have long hair past a certain age. I say if it looks good, go for it. If it doesn't look good or the hair is unhealthy, chop it.

ELMA1913 Posts: 5,051
6/6/13 7:59 A

Because they are tired of taking care of long hair? emoticon

EMMACORY Posts: 20,581
6/6/13 7:52 A

I have a friend who is a beautian. She told me that sometimes long hair can make one look older and emphasizes the sagging neckline. It draws your eyes there However if you have shorter hair your focus shifts. I have seen many older women with long hair that look great yet there are others who would look better with a shorter cut. To each their own!

CHEETARA79 SparkPoints: (106,259)
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6/6/13 7:37 A

I think as your hair goes grey, the texture also changes and sometimes that doesn't look good at long lengths.

I just drastically chopped my hair off and I think I look younger. It is shaved on the right side, longer on the left. Sideways mullet!

6/6/13 6:31 A

IDK but maybe it's the same reason to the wearing of fleece outfits past 65.

My gf and I went shopping last night and we picked up her 86 yo mother and went to dinner. The conversation turned to the shaving of my head and then Nina (her mom) said to my gf to get her hair cut short because at 51 she's too old to have hair down past her neck.


KKKAREN Posts: 12,754
6/6/13 6:30 A

I'm 58 and my hair does not grow as well as it did when I was younger. I cut mine short for a couple of years but didn't really like it. It's now a little past my shoulders and seems to have stopped growing, I keep trying for long hair though. I think it's a lot easier to take care of.

LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 4,690
6/6/13 3:57 A

I have often wondered this myself. Maybe, as you get a little older, it becomes harder to grow your hair longer. I've noticed that some people can easily grow longer hair and it is healthy vs other people whose hair is brittle and splits or dries out on the ends when they try to grow it longer? Maybe your hair just doesn't grow as well when you get older?

Honestly, I really don't know.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,314
6/6/13 3:45 A

First ... everything is relative and to the my age, I no longer consider 40 old.

but as you get older...long hair does tend to make a lot of women look older.
And shoulder length seems to be best for most.

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6/6/13 3:04 A

As an "older woman" of 59, I have longer hair, too! I nearly always have had, altho' there was a time it was very short - so short that I was mistaken for a guy - I was 16 at the time! When I turned 30 my MIL told me I "had" to get my hair cut now because I was too old for long hair. It was around my waist. I guess a lot would get their hair cut short because it is a lot easier to handle, or their lives are so busy that short means quick prep for going out. In my case, my hair is long MAINLY because I put the cost of hair cuts down the list in order of priorities. I even went quite a few years at one stage because of that. After all, it was money that could be spent on food or power!


EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
6/6/13 2:55 A

I don't understand why most women get their hair cut short when they reach a certain age.

I'm in my 40s and I still have long hair. Maybe not as long as I had when I was younger because it's very hard to reach a longer length as you age, but I have no intention of going short at all! I can't keep it too long though, it starts to look shaggy and untidy. I'm short, so I can't grow it too long anyway, doesn't look good on me.

But I'm sure I won't look good with short hair either! I have square jaws.

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