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5/23/13 10:25 P

I repeat people's question just to make sure what I heard is what they said or meant.

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,381
5/23/13 6:23 P

Why do I repeat your question?

Good question. I don't know.

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KNUCKLES145 Posts: 13,729
5/23/13 5:18 P

I wonder if verbal learners do it more?? as a tool to help them process what the question was??

I have a hearing problem and have to take care of my disabled son who uses a ventilator/trach at night and can only speak in a whisper. I almost always repeat what he has asked me to do for him to make sure I do the right adjustment.

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AMARANTHA120S Posts: 474
5/23/13 11:21 A

I sometimes do that when interviewing people or having a very serious conversation to clarify that I am hearing or understanding the question. But I usually say something like: "So what I'm hearing you say is ..." or "So, am I understanding that you are wanting to know if ..." or whatever.

I don't know anybody who does exactly what the OP describes in the original question and other than as stated in my post, I don't have the habit of repeating questions.

It wouldn't annoy me or bother me if someone did that to me and I wouldn't mention it to them as I would not want to make them self-conscious.

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PATTIJOHNSON Posts: 2,075
5/23/13 10:57 A

When someone asks my question back to me, I usually tell them "No, that's not what I asked. I asked you if ___________(fill in the blank with something ridiculous)!" Miraculously, they remember the original question I asked, and they've been made self-conscious of that annoying habit.

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GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
5/23/13 9:58 A

OMG. My son does this and it DRIVES ME UP A WALL. I will tell him something, and he will immediately ask if that's what we're going to do. He's been doing it since he was three. I don't know if he wants to make sure that's what's going on, or what...but I don't get it. Maybe it's an ADD thing? I have no idea.

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KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
5/23/13 9:50 A

Nah, it's definitely people not knowing how to respond, my hearing aides working just fine.
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5/23/13 6:14 A

I don't know anyone who does this.

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ANARIE Posts: 12,615
5/23/13 12:25 A

If you do telephone customer service they train you to do that so you don't misunderstand the question and say "yes" or "no" to the wrong thing-- especially important if you're dealing with different accents and speech patterns. I've dealt with a lot of accents where people say "didt" and "di' ' 't" instead of did and didn't, and you just cannot tell the difference on the phone.

I also learned to ask full-sentence questions instead of just "What?" because I had a school roommate who would ALWAYS repeat the part you'd understood. She'd say, "We need to get mummblble mutttemumble at Walgreens." You'd say, "What?" and she would say, "Walgreens." If you wanted the information, you HAD to say, "We need to get *what* at Walgreens?"

So, KJ, any chance that you've started mumbling because of the hearing issue? You might want to talk to an audiologist to see if that's common with your condition. Or you could just ask somebody you trust to be frank.

JGIRL5799 Posts: 553
5/22/13 7:49 P

LMAO I do that and say what? A lot.. my hubby loves having a cigarette in his mouth or his pipe and sometimes when he talks he mumbles or talks so soft I can't hear him..so I make him repeat it, then he has to take it out of his mouth and say it again... however, I also find its the same conversation or same things as well just because its like I have to hear something twice just for it to sink in..(or its because my hubby tells me I think I like to hear myself talk, I just blame it on the woman thing)


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5/22/13 7:41 P

Its always seemed like a stalling tactic to me like they need an extra second to concocted a way to get out of what's being asked. I know some people with hearing issues will repeat the question just to make sure they heard you correctly. Its usually pretty easy to tell the difference.

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I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
5/22/13 6:29 P

Sounds boring to me, of course sometimes we all do that if we thought we may have misheard and are double checking to see if we heard correctly, but a habit of it sounds boring like they need to say the question themselves in order for it to register in their brain before they answer. I think it would frustrate me. Now sometimes when people repeat you they are being a smart ass or the would say sarcastic that's the same thing to me. My 17 year old does it to me at times. emoticon

KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
5/22/13 9:55 A

right you are deb, I have a hearing problem too but those aren't the types I'm talking about here, lol.

Repeating questions out of habit rather than necessity......is that an idiosyncrasy?

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5/22/13 9:47 A

I have a difficult time hearing other people and it is helpful when I repeat back to them what I thought I heard. Half the time I get a word totally wrong. For example... Is my husband saying, I love you or olive juice? The family hates to repeat themselves and I hate when they ask me questions from a different room than me. So, what you are describing could be formed out of habit from others and they are being mindful to your situation.

TRIPLEMWF Posts: 906
5/22/13 9:23 A

I don't do that, but I say "what?" all the time. Even if I heard them, I say what. BF has stopped repeating himself and waits for what he said to register, and then when it does, I repeat it back to him to make sure I heard him right LOL

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KJFITNESSDUDE Posts: 15,787
5/22/13 9:21 A

Ex.#1
Me: "Hey, can you switch seats with me so that my good ear is towards the conversation, please?"
My gf: ""Can I switch seats with you so that your good ear is towards the conversation?"
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Ex. #2
Me: "Do you guys want to ride out to the park with me so we can save on gas?"
One of them: "Do we want to ride out with you to the park to save on gas?"

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Ex. #3
Me: "I'm headed to the store, do you want to go with me?"
My daughter: "Do I want to go with you?"

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(the above are fiction and are used to help me illustrate my point)

It's tough to add the inflection of their voice when I write what their response is but their response should be as if they were asking the same question back to me.

I have a hearing problem so when I think I heard something wrong I actually ask for that person to repeat it but sometimes, to me, it seems some folks repeat questions NOT because of hearing problems but just out of habit like an auto response as if to give them time to formulate an answer.

Do you know folks like this?

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