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CATHYINLA Posts: 813
2/4/12 8:33 P

Some pretty good advise already on here. Here goes my take. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince. So it can take a while to get it right. IF you know the type of person you are interested in then seek out places that type of person would go. For example, if you want someone who likes the outdoors, then join a hiking club. Someone who likes to read, join the library group,etc. If you are attracting a type you don't like, then you might need to change how you appear to them as well. While movies like to portray that opposites attract, that is more uncommon than people who are alike attract each other. So if you want someone with a set of traits then you need to incorporate some of those traits in yourself.

Just some suggestions.

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2/2/12 11:52 A

Wonderful words of insite. So very true emoticon

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2/2/12 10:58 A

You don't need your mom to say No for you.

When you meet new guys, look at all of their traits and seriously consider any that you think you couldn't live with forever. Some people think that this is harsh, but you can't change a person so it's important to go into a relationship as if they never will.

If there's something you can't stand, dump him. When you get to the point in your life when you are wanting a long-term relationship, don't waste time on people with no potential. This will leave you single for many guys, and odds are you'll attract some good ones.

You also may not be putting out the right vibe. When I was obese and had really low self esteem, I often attracted guys that were the same. When I started holding my head higher, speaking bolder, and feeling better about myself, I attracted ambitious guys with a lot of confidence. Just what I was looking for.

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2/2/12 10:54 A

one of the the books on my 'to read' list is Don't Be That Girl. I don't know much about it (and I'm happily married!) but it sounds interesting. The author is a psychologist and wrote it from his perspective with the gals he or close friends/relatives have dated. It sounds humorous and insightful.

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2/2/12 10:41 A

Dating is a lot like being a gardener. We cultivate flowers, but we still have to pull out weeds. I could write entire volumes of my own dating experiences. You are not the first or last woman to date a weirdo. So, don't blame yourself because one guy who wasn't up to your mother's standards tried courting you. He may have been a perfectly decent fellow if a little odd.

I should warn you, your mom isn't going to like ANY guy you bring home unless he happens to be a highly successful, tall, handsome, rich doctor, lawyer, business man, athlete, etc... No man is ever good enough for their little girl in her mother's opinion. Doesn't matter if you're from Malaysia, Italy, Brazil, Russia or the USA... Mom will hate your choice in men. That's universal.

You're going to end up dating lots of men before you meet the right guy. But, when you do meet him, you'll know it.

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2/2/12 10:23 A

What is normal to every person is different, just like there are many different types of people. Just go for men that make you happy. Don't settle, picky is good.

ALPHABET26 Posts: 4
2/2/12 10:18 A

What do you consider normal? He's looking for someone to support him, as I'm sure you wish you had someone to support you. It's human nature, sounds normal to me.
Want a "normal" guy? Pick one and go get him. Guys are not that complicated. Show some attention and you will get some back. Just remember some people appear normal at the beginning and do not show their true colors until deep into the relationship, and vice versa.

EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
2/2/12 9:47 A

What's that supposed to mean?

I certainly don't want to attract or go out with losers!

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2/2/12 7:54 A

..... the Law of Attraction?

What you send out is what you receive.

KKKAREN Posts: 12,754
2/2/12 7:09 A

I don't get out much, I don't attract any guys!!

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,221
2/2/12 5:25 A

I think sometimes, when you're a nice person-- thoughtful and caring toward others, friendly, a good listener-- the wrong people get the wrong idea. Nothing wrong with you, it's them. You just need to develop an ability to "see" that they're wrong for you (kind of like how your Mom can see it), and some ways to let them down-- you can always say, I have too much going on right now, but we can be friends. Or something like that.

EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
2/2/12 1:22 A

I have enough problems of my own but recently, a guy with even more problems than me tried to court me. I was flattered at first but my Mom put her foot down. She said that if a normal guy who can take care of me courted me, and could accept me, she would be delighted but this guy required me to take care of him so she asked me to reject him!

I mean, why can't I attract normal guys? I keep attracting losers!

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