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JENNILACEY SparkPoints: (80,279)
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12/19/12 7:48 A

That's how I felt in the beginning. My husband used to actually make that comment to me all the time! "Wow. When you do something it's either all or nothing, huh?"

But you know, I think that attitude kept me strong in the beginning and from falling off the wagon. It kept me on track when I was in the infancy of my lifestyle changes and trained me very quickly at getting over my bad habits. Now, I can have sweets in my house and they're no longer beckoning to me all hours of the day. I won't even touch them unless I plan them into my tracker a day in advanced which is very rare that I get the urge.

I am also beginning to not feel guilty when I do decide to have an indulgence because I realize now that one time is not going to throw me off track or effect my weight loss efforts because I'm so diligent 90% of time. I've learned how to fit them into my lifestyle. I don't believe in having certain foods off limits. Make your nutrition and fitness something you can keep up for the rest of your life. The key is moderation. Once you learn the self control that enables you to moderate yourself. You will realize that these little blips in your diet are not going to make or break you as long as you stay on track for the rest of the time.

Take your focus off the Marshmallow.

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SARBEAR126 Posts: 89
12/17/12 10:39 P

All or nothing - wow can I relate and my family constantly tells me that everyone is not as "stubborn" as I am! ha ha - it really can be taken as a compliment.

When I started really tracking, I would feel that guilt as well. Then I started looking back over my daily reports and realizing that naturally some days would be higher than others unless I just ate the same exact things every day. It's unrealistic to think that you will never eat another piece of chocolate again and once you realize that it's all about a healthy balance, that guilt will go away.

Just stay true to your tracking, even when you don't want to mark it down, and meet and exceed your fitness/movement goals.

“I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘no’ for too many days in a row, I k now I need to change something.” ~ Steve Jobs

Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. Albert Einstein
BARB0863 SparkPoints: (9,931)
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12/16/12 12:21 P

Something I've learned over the years is that we are hardest on ourselves. If you had a friend who you knew was on a weight loss journey and that friend told you they went over their calories by having too much peppermint ice cream and a few chocolate coins, what would you do?

Most likely you would tell that friend that it was ok, it really wasn't that much over in calories and it was only one day. You would probably also remind that friend of what a great job they have done in losing weight, remind them of how much better the look and feel and that it is a journey not a race.

We need to learn to be that friend/cheer leader to ourselves. We need to be able to tell ourselves the exact same message - it's ok, it really wasn't that much over, it was only one day (or only a few days), to look at how far we have come (weight and health wise) and that this is a lifelong journey.

Maybe that is something we should decide to include as part of our New Year's resolutions - we will be the uplifting, encouraging friend to ourselves that we are to others.


Edited by: BARB0863 at: 12/16/2012 (12:25)

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LOVEXAVIE SparkPoints: (37,222)
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12/15/12 11:19 A

Hey, at least you recognize that pesky "all-or-nothing" monster when it rears its ugly head!
That's a good thing!

When I was focused on losing, and would eat over range, and would start to feel the beginnings of a panic creep in, I'd stop and think: hey, even given going over my range, I'm eating waaaaaaay better than I used to!! I'm not eating 2 pints of Ben & Jerry's and 2 glasses of pinot noir, for goodness sakes! So if I go over a bit (and 200-300 isn't much), I'm STILL better off!

And you know what? It didn't harm me in the least! The clothes kept shrinking and I was so grateful that I could live a more normal life (which does include eating over plan at times).

So no more feeling bad about this. It's all part of adapting this lifestyle way of eating vs a dieters mentality.

You can do it!
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12/15/12 6:20 A


The "all or nothing" mentality is what caused people to pack on the weight. Stop trying to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Yes, there are going to be days you eat more than others. That doesn't make you a bad person or an unhealthy one.

How many calories a person eats or burns during the day is NOT an exact science. that's why you can't beat yourself up if you go over here and there. As long as you're not eating with wild abandon every single day, you really will lose weight with time.

But you have to give your body time to change.

Patience, it's a virtue.

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12/15/12 12:20 A

I understand how you feel! But it sounds like you were successful in reining yourself in before your binge got too out of control, which is an accomplishment too! Try to focus on the good. If you're losing weight, you're doing an amazing thing. This is a marathon, not a sprint, and little setbacks mean nothing if you have the ability to get back on track. emoticon

12/14/12 11:58 P

....for going over my calorie limit by a measly 200-300 calories? Sheesh, get a grip!

Sorry, my all-or-nothing attitude is showing itself again emoticon

I should be more proud of myself for LOSING weight during the holidays instead of my usual 5-10 lb. gain. I hate feeling guilty. All I did was indulge in a little too much peppermint ice cream. And a few chocolate coins emoticon

Oh well, tomorrow is another day....

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