Motivation comes and goes for everyone and it rarely stays around for long once it pays a visit. I think that a lot of people wait for motivation to come because it seems like, once you are motivated to do something, then it will be easy. But, my opinion is that you can't wait for motivation to come to you to start working towards your goals and you can't expect or rely upon motivation to stick around to help you achieve your goals. You just need to decide to do it whether or not you feel motivated (but, of course, do try and make it as fun/pleasant as possible, but don't expect that every day will be easy or fun).
We all do lots of stuff that we aren't particularly motivated to do (e.g. get up and go to work in the mornings, do laundry, etc.). We do them because they need to be done. We are very unlikely to say, for example, "well, I just didn't feel motivated to go to work this week." So, I say just tell yourself that losing weight and getting healthy is something that needs to be done and make it into your job. Motivation will probably pay you a visit later because, once you've seen some success in your weight loss, you'll really enjoy that and it will motivate you to continue. But, then your motivation will go on holiday and you'll have to muddle through without it for a while, until it pays you another visit...
What you need to find within yourself isn't motivation, it's determination. Determination is much easier to find and much easier to keep around than motivation. Determination will see you through those times when your motivation has gone missing.
What about finding a sport that you like? I am an avid rider and have dropped quite a bit of size since starting up again. I was never able to get motivated for the gym or any classes, etc, but with riding I can't wait to go and it's great exercise. Is there something you could get into that can get you active?
- biking - tennis - squash - hiking
then the more you enjoy the sport the more you will want to be in good shape for doing it!
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I think we all get stuck in ruts at one time or another. As I tell all new members,"don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Every little bit really does make a difference.
Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not getting any exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.
And that's how you get your healthy lifestyle back on track. You start with a few simple changes you can stick with. One small change really can change your life.
I totally understand not being motivated, but wanting to lose the weight. The reality is that no one else can motivate you. The reality is that no one else is going to care if you lose weight or not. I know that people around me aren't going to like me less, and my family isn't going to love me any less (I've heard "you're fine, you don't need to change a thing" so many times it makes me sick). You should only be doing this because you want it. Knowing you need to do something is great, but if you truly don't WANT to, then nothing is going to happen. I know I've needed to do a few things in my life that I Just didn't want to do and because of that, those things didn't get done.
Find what drives you. write a list of motivators. If you have to, find something more meaningful than just wanting to fit into the clothes in your closet. Find what truly inspires you. You can do this, but it really has to begin with you. No one else can motivate you but you.
Every time I've gotten started I have had a heck of a time getting motivated. My journey started in 2001 when I weighed 261 lbs. In that time I have experienced great successes intermittently sprinkled with total losses of focus and backsliding, but forgiving myself for those times and moving on has been so important.
What I've found is key is finding ways to experience a few successes, even small ones. It can be anything from not drinking soda for one day, walking 30 minutes this afternoon, getting 8 hours of sleep tonight or just having one healthy meal. By setting small goals I'm giving myself a chance to check some things off my list and feel accomplished. With each one this feels a little more do-able and I find myself getting motivated. Taking the first few steps are always the hardest for me, but this helps me focus on feeling good and not beating myself up for not doing things.
I try to only think of what I'll do between this moment and when I go to sleep tonight. That keeps this in manageable chunks for me.
Hope it helps! You can do it!
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There are a number of reasons why people are unable to get motivated when they want to do something. Sometimes it is just taking that first step. If you can overcome that hurdle then each time it becomes more easy.
Sometimes it is an emotional block and we don't really KNOW what is causing it. Perhaps if you read the articles on Motivation in the Healthy Lifestyle section of the toolbar above, you may stumble across some helpful tips.
If that doesn't work, then perhaps talking with your Dr might help reveal the problem. Is there some depression or related disorder going on? Ask or a referral to a Therapist who specializes in these sorts of issues and you may find that the door will be unlocked and you can not only go through, but come out the other side the person you WANT to be!
Apart from the above, start this journey with baby steps. It might be rather than attempting to do proper structured exercises, that you just mobilize a bit more in the day. I get the bulk of my walking in by putting my groceries and laundry away one at a time. It works well. It doesn't seem like exercise, but equally it doesn't seem like work. To me that is a win/win situation, and it REALLY WORKS :-)
Apply the baby steps to your nutrition, too. Between the two, in time you will notice a difference and that might just spur you on to bigger and better things :-D
Take care, Kris
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Unfortunately motivation is self-driven...in other words you must find what will motivate you. If I tell you to run, and you hate running, you will not run. If I tell you to eat Broccoli and you hate brocooli, you won't eat it.
That being said, I think many of us surrender our success to the scale and do not acknowledge the success we see with embracing life-long healthy habits. This is where finding what will motivate you--whether better health or fit in a particular outfit you have been wanting to wear for some time, may be all it takes.
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I just cannot figure out what my problem is. I just cannot get motivated at all. I want to, I know I need to, and I keep saying I am going to but it's like it just doesn't happen. My husband is supportive and keeps asking me why I am not doing it. I just don't know. I want so badly to lose the weight, I want to wear the clothes in my closet that don't fit. Help please, help get me motivated so I can get back on track.
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