When I started this journey, I reckon I had it in my head that if I got my weight down, was in the middle of the BMI, etc etc-- well then magically I'd have this perfectly proportioned body. And that is not true. I am a "pear shape" and I reckon I always will be.
Like other posters have pointed out, we're our own worst critics. And we have a tendency to compare ourselves to images that aren't even real-- they're photoshopped or plastic-surgeried representations of people. Madonna actually looks really scary, if you see a picture of how she REALLY looks.
I'm 57, and my flabby thighs can power my fat butt up a steep hill faster than young whipper snappers half my age. I'm content to know that I strength train, I do cardio, I make healthy choices with my food. I'm doing what I can, to give my body what it needs to be healthy and strong.
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22,035 4/28/13 5:02 P
BUNNYKICKS Thank you for sharing that. It was AMAZING the HUGE difference between how the subjects saw themselves, and how others see them. I found the video very powerful, too!
Too big, too thick for what? You can't compare yourself to anyone else, especially Photoshopped images in mags and celebrities in the media. Do you have a team of people dressing you with custom-fitted clothes and doing your hair and makeup every day? It takes a lot of time, work and effort to look like that. Just look at those stars without makeup photos. Most don't look so hot.
You are a realization of your own unique genetic destiny. The blueprint for you was set at conception, everything from the length of your bones, the insertion points of your muscles, the type of muscle fibers, number of fat cells, etc. Sure, external factors my influence some things like fat cells or diseases that affect your body's development. But for most of us, we are unique.beings with our own potential.
My goal is to always maximize MY potential and to be realistic about what that is. I am short. My hip bones and the bottom of my rib cage practically touch. No matter what I do, I will never have a long, narrow waistline. I am strong and very muscular. I would actually have to loose muscle mass to fit in the BMI charts. I will admit that these things used to bother my more when I was younger, but that ended when I started focusing on what my body can do rather than how it looks.
I have thick thighs and a round butt, but it is exactly these attributes that allow me to pedal my way across states and in 100-mile rides. I have strong arms, but they allow me to turn my backyard into a vegetable garden. At 50, I look around and see so many who have not taken care of their incredible bodies and are now paying a price. I can't imagine just having so much difficulty getting through the tasks of daily living.
Just think about the amazing things your body does for you every day and celebrate that. And then pick clothes that flatter your body type. You'll never find me in skinny jeans because I look like a stuffed sausage but I can rock a boot-leg flare. Make peace with yourself. Your body is all you have and if you treat it right, it will carry you through a lifetime of adventures.
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21,129 4/28/13 6:51 A
Hi, KATIEMAE10 !
We are our own worst critics. Flaws we see in ourselves, no one else sees. The others are right. The media does have a huge impact on how women see themselves. We are constantly bombarded with images of impossibly thin women and we're told that unless we too are that thin, we won't be happy. Well, guess what ? Thin women have just as many problems as overweight women have. We think the grass is greener on the other guy's lawn, but it's not.
The happiness buck stops here. I know it's not easy, but you have to learn to love your body AS IS or if you prefer, warts and all. No one of us is perfect. the only people who are perfect are the models in magazines. AND the only reason they are perfect is because they are airbrushed and photoshopped to be perfect.
Consider what a celebrity (like gweneth platrow) to maintain that image. She has her own personal trainers, she has nannies to watch the kids, she can jet off to Paris for the latest beauty treatment, she has the best chefs cook for her, etc... She has money. If you have that kind of money, you can spend it on looking good too.
Well, the rest of us don't have that kind of time or luxury of money to spend on our looks. It would be nice, but you know what ? It's not necessary. good heath comes in many different shapes and sizes. That's a hard lesson to learn, but once you learn to appreciate what you body can do and stop worrying about how it looks, you'll feel better.
I will also add that our media generally plays a HUGE role in how women are portrayed. We are never skinny enough, never pretty enough, and the only way to be loved and be successful is if we are thin and have big boobs. This is the truth (well, about the media), but I'm thinking that this could be the reason. I have had issues for years over this and I had to keep telling myself that I am good enough and it does help. I am just now (after 20 years) learning to accept myself the way I am. Just tell yourself every day that you are good enough and if people don't accept you, then it's their loss. It could be that you may need to see a therapist to deal with these issues, but start out by doing this and after a short while, it really should help.
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22,035 4/27/13 10:44 P
I strongly suspect that you are one of the many who think if you can just get your weight to a certain number then you will be happy. Unfortunately, this isn't often the case. Often there is some underlying problem but your mind tricks you into thinking it is physical - kinda like it is looking for excuses or something to lay the blame on. If you find this a problem, then you may benefit from talking with your Dr and if need be, ask for a referral to a Therapist to help identify it, and deal with it appropriately.
Just be very careful, too, that you don't over-exercise/under-eat - when you do a lot of exercise you need to eat more calories to accommodate it.
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