Hi Shelley. Due to things that happened to me and my girls, i know exactly what you are talking about right down to the feelings of guilt. When it happens to you, you think that it is the worse thing that could ever happen. Then when it happens to your child, you realize that it is 100 times worse. We have to accept that we cannot control the universe. We did not do this to ourselves or our children. I hope that you have got your daughter in counseling, believe me it helps. If you have never had counseling about what happened to you, then you should also consider going. Learning how to deal with your emotional scars will better enable you to help your daughter.