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122 3/11/13 6:05 P
Thanks for the support. Two weeks of not speaking later we "worked things out" when he came back with the usual, "I'm an idiot," speech. Now I'm back in limbo, he's still 700 miles away, and mancrush has re-entered my life. New blog post sums it all up.
Fitness Minutes: (238)
1/21/13 8:28 P
Sorry to hear that you are struggling but awesome at what you have accomplished. I am 4 weeks shy of graduating with a B.S. degree and cannot wait until I find my dream job. I currently work at home typing but I was burned out of that long ago. Every woman deserves to be loved for who she is; regardless of her accomplishments (Because that is such a bad thing....NOT). *you'll have to excuse me...my sarcasm at times gets the best of me.
I hope that you are realizing that you are deserving of much more than what he has provided. I know it's a lousy situation but one day, I believe that you will find Mr. Right. I found my Mr. Right when I wasn't even looking. As long as you are "shining" then its him that needs to do some soul-searching.
Hope things work out for you and that you & he find what you are looking for! Congrats on your accomplishments.
Take care of you...best thing to do.
Fitness Minutes: (14,252)
9,690 1/21/13 12:04 P
I'm sorry you're going through this; I think that you're waking up to some realizations you've been fighting for some time. I bet you're right; he IS jealous, and realizing that you're becoming successful, grounded, and he's being left behind.
Let him chase his dreams; you deserve someone who loves you for you, and is willing to always be there for you. This relationship isn't healthy! You have already put so much work into it, and what has that accomplished? I don't think that you can change him, or the relationship.
Edited by: DRAGONCHILDE at: 1/21/2013 (12:05)
Heather Writer, mother, wife, and breadwinner. I love to run, but running doesn't love me, so I'm switching to my low-impact bike.
Fitness Minutes: (4,874)
122 1/21/13 11:31 A
...That buying a house and starting a career would lead to the end of a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years, through lots of struggles. Since June of last year, he's been living in Ohio while I live in Iowa. At first, we almost ended it. The night I was ready to call it off he changed my mind by saying he had realized he made the worst mistake of his life by leaving me and everything he had here. Now, not even a year later, I have finished my master's degree and started the job of my dreams. I purchased a house near my job, and all along he was supportive. Now that I've closed on the house and started my job, he's decided that he can't "shine" in Iowa and needs to join the military and that we are moving in different directions.
He has always had a lot of issues with things like finishing what he starts. He is two classes away from finishing an undergraduate degree, but has spent the last two years not getting it done. He's changed his mind at least 6 times in 4 years on what he wants to be "when he grows up". Now it's the military, the end all be all that will accomplish everything he wants in life.
Problem is, he wants to be an officer and on active duty, which means he could get a commission anywhere. So he sees me putting down roots as he's deciding to embark on a journey of unknown destination. So in November we were ring shopping, and now he's ready to walk away from everything.
It's a baffling situation indeed, but one that I believe is probably fueled by jealousy of my accomplishments. As much as I don't want to give up on what we've created together, part of me feels that I deserve so much more support from someone who is supposed to love me unconditionally.
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