I am terribly sorry that you have gone through so much. Weight and abuse go hand in hand unfortunately. I don't have pics of my real life on here either. I have never felt anything from any members that I need to have anything my real life revealed on this site. Although some do, most people I interact with do not have pictures of themselves on here. Good luck with your weight loss journey, but even more with healing.
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to Sparkpeople and wishing you much success on your journey!
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1MORETRI ... Hi and welcome to Spark!! I wish you lots of luck on your journey!!
Thank you for joining us. It's no one's business if you don't show your face or give us your name. I have plenty of Spark Friends who I have never met, seen their face or know their real name. It's ok .... I still value them in my life and on this journey. Sounds like you have a valid reason for keeping private.
We are here for you!!
6/7/13 11:41 A
Welcome to Spark! I think you'll find a loving, supportive community here, and we don't mind if you lurk :) Feel free to share as much or as little as you want -- we're here to help and support you. I'm sorry for what you've been through, but I send you best wishes for present and future happiness!
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6/6/13 8:08 P
Thank you. I appreciate you taking a moment to post a message to me.
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Thank you so much. I spent over a decade being taunted by my ex and then he teamed up with his new wife and nearly caused me to have a nervous breakdown while I was in a high risk pregnancy. I am the way that I am because of it. I just can't put myself out there to give him/them more ammunition. They are both bullies. I've been able to have a measure of peace in the last 6 months and I'd like to keep it that way. There are things I'd like to talk about, need to talk about, that I absolutely couldn't feel comfortable doing because of them. My ex and I have a child together and he used to use anything and everything to pull me apart from my child. I asked my ex once while we were still married if he really got pleasure from being cruel to me and he said, "You know, I really do". So, I hope I can still come on here and talk without being shunned as a lurker or something worse but if not I guess I'll just read the boards, keep doing my meal plans and try my best.
Welcome to SP. The ride is rough, but getting there is the key.
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6/6/13 7:44 A
People who choose anonymity should be *respected* and NOT*disdained*! You bring up a very, *very* valid reason for doing so - seems to me that so many are taking the view that "you're hiding because you're a coward or a suspicious person" - and that is such a $#!@# shame!
Welcome and best wishes on your journey to better health - and we are all ENTITLED to take part of that journey, whether you put your full self out there or not!
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6/6/13 4:09 A
I am a 43 year old mom of three from Kentucky. I choose to not reveal my name or post a photo of myself because there are people in my real life that use Spark People. People that I would not share the intimate, gory, details of my real life with and the struggles I have with food addiction. People who would gossip about me and talk to my abusive ex about me so him and his wife can get a big laugh out of my pain. Kind of like he used to do when we were married. I read on here that there is some disdain for people who choose to be anonymous such as I and that is O.K. If you are like that, we probably would never be friends in the real world anyway. I need to be able to speak the unvarnished truth about myself, about my food addiction, about the pain and suffering that I experienced in an abusive marriage and I CANNOT feel comfortable doing that. I hope you all can understand. I need help. I need support. I need to be able to speak candidly.
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