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1/7/14 5:14 A

just wondering how it's going now- my niece was literally 4 yrs old before she even remotely started talking.. had tantrums and other behaviors that we were SURE indicated something on the spectrum.. as it turns out, A) late bloomer- she's 6 now and you can't get her to STOP talking, 2) no intellectual issues in school-she LOVES it and is very sharp and C) we were sooooooooo wrong!! i even paid to have her given a battery of assessments to see what was wrong. turns out she had a sever anxiety disorder [sometimes those are genetic too so don't jump to blame yourself like the rest of us do lol]

they say every child is different, and that's certainly true. i'm not saying that something isn't going on and i'd be very very concerned too- i would just try to see what the parameters are that she functions in now, work from there and see if there are ways to get her going a little farther a little bit at a time. please keep us updated on things /hugs

8/3/13 2:44 A

One of the biggest signs at an early age is a lack of shared interest. They don't say things like "look what I have". Children with Autism lack theory of mind. There tends to be a lack of spontaneous and flexible play and a lack of flexibility in general. Their play often looks more rote and just isn't as rich as other children's play. Also when you aren't looking at Aspergers there are frequently speech delays.

But I agree with the statement that toddlers can be inflexible in genera! emoticon

Edited by: LIVING4TODAY at: 8/5/2013 (14:21)
7/9/13 11:33 P

There could be many explanations for your child's behavior, and it would be impossible to really give you much feedback without actually observing her behavior. What one person considers abnormal may seem completely normal to another person. It's great that you are taking her to get an evaluation early because providing intervention services, if necessary, at an early age can really help to prevent later problems. If you are really interested in learning about the early signs of autism, a very parent friendly website is The site talks abut the three main criteria for a diagnosis, and also breaks down the early signs. You can also find a lot of great information from the CDC or Mayo clinic.

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6/29/13 6:34 P

It sounds more like she hasn't had much opportunity to socialize with other kids than anything more serious. Does she go to preschool or daycare? How does she interact with the other kids there? If she's an only child and she's home with you all the time, she may just be unused to other kids. My oldest had that problem. I didn't know lots of people with kids to socialize with and preschool wasn't in our budget, so she didn't have the idea that she was supposed to talk to other kids, or even talk in ways that made sense. I started babysitting so she'd have some other kids to socialize with, and she improved almost instantly. Within a year, she had a whole pack of little friends and she talked more than any of them. By the time she went to kindergarten, she acted just like all the other kids.

My best friend went through the same thing with her son. She thought he was autistic (and he may have a mild form of it, they're not positive yet) because he didn't talk, was extremely sensitive to noises like the vacuum or lawnmower, was obsessed with trains, and very particular about food. She took him to the elementary school for an evaluation and he qualified for the early intervention program. He just finished his second year of pre-k and he talks like a normal kid now...before he hung out with kids, he spent all his time with his mom or his grandma and so he didn't know he was supposed to to talk.

Playgroups or vacation bible school (even if you're not religious) might be a good, inexpensive way of finding kids for your daughter to socialize with.

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6/28/13 12:59 P

Children your daughter's age are creatures of habit. It is very common during the pre-school years for kids to get fixated on their routines and have tantrums when those routines are broken. The routines make them feel secure and disruptions can cause negative emotions that they have difficulty coping with because they don't yet have the skills to manage their emotions well, hence the tantrums.

If your daughter is smiling socially, making eye contact and otherwise interacting with familiar people in a "normal" way, it is unlikely that she is autistic. Asperger's syndrome is also on the autism spectrum and applies to children who have difficulty interpreting social cues. If your daughter doesn't seem to interact with her peers in the same way that other children her age do, it is possible that Asperger's could be a contributing factor. But other issues could also explain her behaviour: severe shyness, vision or hearing problems, etc.

If you have concerns, it is a good idea to get her evaluated by a doctor. Hopefully, you will get good news.

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6/25/13 9:56 P

From what I know it can be communication or expression related. Not talking a lot, talking back to you, not answering questions, and not expressing emotions through their face. The face where they don't smile or react to favorites with facial expression is known as a doe face according to my mom.

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6/15/13 1:17 A

We have yet to get my daughter diagnosed but there's something wrong with her. She's 3 1/2 and she can't communicate like a normal 3 year old. She's kind of hard to explain. Sometimes I think she may be on the spectrum and sometimes not. For instance, she has a routine of sorts and doesn't like to vary from it. If you DO vary from it, she has a meltdown. For instance, she asks for a drink of water every night as soon as we put her to bed. After she takes a drink and you take the cup she points to her dresser and says "right there". Or she will ask for chocolate at about the same time every night and heaven forbid we have run out. She had just got over a bad virus and we didn't have a spare tooth brush so we sent her to bed without brushing her teeth. She had a fit.
I have a half sister that has the most severe form of autism there is. So I know those signs and how she was as a toddler because I was 18 when she was born and was there through her rearing. But someone like my daughter, I have never seen. She doesn't repeat, she makes eye contact, if you smile she will smile back at you, but like we took her to an event where there were a lot of kids she could play with and one little girl her age tried to talk to her, pointed at something and asked her to look at it and she just seemed to not know what was going on so just don't know. We are taking her to get evaluated soon. Just waiting on them to call us with an appointment but I just wondered if any of you could share early signs that you've experienced. A lot of what I've read so far are about older children.

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