I think we all get there at one time or another. Even during successful periods. You have gotten some great advice in this thread, so I think you have found that hooking up with SP support is one great step you can take!
I at times have to go five minutes at a time to divert from old behaviors. I CAN go five minutes without grabbing those crackers, I CAN walk for five minutes.
God luck -- the fact that you're here tells me you are comm8itted to your success.
I make a conscious decision to change my mindset after I realize that I've been off track,.
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1,206 12/29/12 10:09 A
Thanks for the advice!! I am feeling so much better today!!! I like the star idea to mark in my journal when I have made it through the day without binging or negative self talk...I am going to do a few errands today and then I am coming home to clean out cupboards!!! 3 days and counting!!! I am amazed at the support and advice that I am getting from SparkPeople!! Thank you all!
Don't be so hard on yourself. Most of us have gone up and down a good part of our lives in the weight fight.
Instead of hiding out in your bedroom, if you have kids try to get them to take a short walk with you. If no kids are around, put on some zippy music and dance in your living room or bedroom and think of a happy time. Dance for at least fifteen minutes.
If you still feel terrible, go buy yourself a pretty journal and start writing every time you want to binge. Write about your feelings, frustrations, hurts, disappointments, whatever.
And then after writing, do something physical if only for five minutes---run in place, lift cans of vegetables, something.
Keep plenty of yummy fruit around and tell yourself that you would not take lousy treatment from strangers, so don't mistreat yourself with harsh words, self talk, and judgement.
Eat fruit when you want something SWEETt and then reward yourself with a star in your journal or calendar for not eating junk.
Find many small ways ( a ten minute rest, a call to a friend or family member, a look at sparkpeople for ten minutes, a purchase of a new healthy food you have never tried, especially a fruit or vegetable) to reward yourself for doing anything positive ----and hopefully you will soon start to feel better.
Good luck and don't be sad or mad, just be GLAD you are you and tell yourself that you CAN start over and do this!
A positive attitude and journaling are both fabulous FIRST steps. Planning is important to make sure you get heading in the right direction on this journey.
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1,206 12/28/12 9:29 P
Thank you all for your kind words and advice...Having a meltdown and feel like I have nobody that understands...I am taking it a day at a time and starting full force on Tuesday...January 1 is the beginning of the rest of my life; does this mean I am going to go nuts over the course of the next few days? Absolutely not!!! But as you all have said, I am going to take it ONE day at a time,ONE step at a time, and ONE goal at a time. Small changes over time to form the habits...I bought a journal tonight and on the inside cover I used my label maker and put: Angie 2013 Part One!!! Journaling, blogging, tracking, and moving...First change will be finding a POSITIVE motivational or some sort of quote daily and journaling about it...It felt good to get this out today, I cried as I wrote it, I am crying now...I feel like I am releasing a load of my shoulders as I type!!! Thank you so much everyone!!!
Journal, pick up my Fitbit and head outside for a slow walk which eventually becomes faster with some music....sometimes you just have to put one foot in front of the other even when you feel so down...
You know, only YOU can decide when you are ready to change. And when you do decide that, you'll know in your heart that you are not changing for a month, or a year. You're changing for LIFE. I would always flip flop back and forth with eating healthy and binging and restricting, and this and that. I hated feeling deprived. But finally one day, I said to myself, "I don't care if I have to count calories and eat spinach for the REST OF MY LIFE. Anything is better than this!" And I changed.
Luckily, I listened to SP, and I made habits and changes that I would want to stick to forever- not just for a little while. If I adapted a new habit, it had to be one that I didn't mind doing for the rest of my life. I started so slow with the exercising, and with making better choices with my eating. It's not about going cold turkey or changing your life at the drop of a hat. It's about slowly changing your entire outlook on life, health, fitness, and nutrition.
I don't have any magic words for you, because only you can make the decision that you've had enough, and that you'll do ANYTHING to be happy with your body and to take control of your life and health. But once you do make the decision, and everything clicks, it will be worth it. You'll know that losing weight doesn't mean you can never eat cookies again, or that you have to jog for an hour every day. Of course some days will be better than ever. But when you do hit a rough patch and you can't seem to keep your motivation going, just tell yourself, "I just have to get through TODAY. Tomorrow, I'll eat 100 cookies. Tomorrow I'll lay on the couch the entire day. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow. But first, I have to get through TODAY. Just today, just ONE day!" And once you get through that day, you'll be so proud of yourself that those cookies won't even phase you tomorrow. You'll be so motivated you'll want to walk for an extra 10 minutes tomorrow. You will continuously inspire and motivate yourself. :)
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20,685 12/28/12 3:47 P
This is a perfect time to release the things that did not work and/or serve you beneficially. Start fresh here and now. Know that every healthy choice you make is progress towards your goals. Make a plan/have a strategy in place/utilize your experience to move forward. Resolve to empower yourself and achieve the self-mastery you deserve. Focus on what does work in your life, things you can appreciate and be grateful for every day. Delete excuses, complaints and fear from your thinking. Add positive affirmations to counter every negative thought. Make a vision board. Take a walk. Breath mindfully.
Fresh Year + Fresh Beginning = Rewarding results. Go For it!
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1,206 12/28/12 3:13 P
As another year comes to a close, I am 42 years old and I once again have failed at my weightloss fight. I have gained back 30 pounds since June, it is very frustrating and I know that I have know one to blame but myself. Why do I do this every year? What is it about myself that I dislike so much? Why do I sabotage myself? I am miserable, I am having a pity party. I look in the mirror and see this disgusting, unhappy, fat person staring back at me. I lock myself in my room to avoid my family, I am back to my "big" close (huge sweatshirts and yoga pants) because wearing jeans is uncomfortable and unflattering. Will I EVER win? What is wrong with me???? I literally feel like I need someone to come and live with me for a year and get in my face to get going when I don't want to...I am so sick of living like this and feeling like this...HELP!!!
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