As an employer I had to learn how (teach myself how) to do this....generally people know in advance, although sometimes it's a complete surprise. If the person has an idea what's not working, they will be relieved.
So, don't worry about it....you'll kick yourself afterwards for having been upset...and no one ever believes you when you say that "this hurts me as much as it hurts you"...even though there might be a time when it's true.
Just sit him/her down and say, I'm sorry but we have to let you go....sometimes the less you say at the time, the better. And, if they're entitled to anything upon leaving, be prepared to discuss this and even give them some documents if they're required.
Hope this helps....GOOD LUCK & let me know how it goes!
Edited by: EWL978 at: 1/24/2013 (09:23)
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1/24/13 8:54 A
Well the deed is done and I managed to ward off a HUGE eating binge (yay me!). I did however, have a "little" binge. I had a small packet of crisps and 2 blocks of chocolate. I have also worked in 2 glasses of wine into my calories allowances today to relax my shot nerves.
Anyway the good news is that I am within my limits today (and quite comfortably so)!
So thanks to everyone for all the words of encouragement! Planning was definitely the key to deal with this stressful day!
I felt that way today. My mind kept racing and searching for something to stuff in my mouth. I was stressed out because I received a hospital bill that was $7000. I had to get on the phone and deal with it. So all this really stressed me out. I didn't exercise because I felt so much anxiety. Ironic, because that's what I should have done. But when I get anxious and stressed sometimes I get overwhelmed and lose motivation. Luckily today's video on SparkCoach talked about emotional eating. That helped a lot. I kept myself busy by scanning and frameing a bunch of photos and did a bunch of housework. Overall, my day was somewhat successful. Tomorrow is another day and the first thing I'm going to do, after I eat breakfast, is hop on the elliptical and go for a walk.
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1/23/13 1:16 P
It IS good that you know what may happen as far as your eating goes. So prepare for it by ore-packing all your foods. Snacks and lunch. That way you will be less tempted by the bad foods you may want to eat. Maybe you can even bring a little piece of dark chocolate to help you when that urge does come!!!
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1/23/13 12:24 P
Recognizing that this will be tough is a great first step. Try to plan as much as you can. Plan what you will say. Practice saying it to yourself. Remind yourself as often as you need to that worrying about it won't change it. Have a plan for the day before you tell her. Plan out your breakfast, plan your schedule, plan the timing of when you'll do it, and plan to take a breather afterwards. It is so tough! but you are a strong woman and can do it! ((HUGS))
What would you do today if you knew you could not fail?
I'm sorry you have to do that. That would be SO hard for me to do! Not to sound cruel, but try to separate yourself from the situation. I know it's not that easy, especially if you got to know this person really well. Don't allow the stress of bringing bad news turn into an emotional eating binge.
Maybe go for a walk around your building during break if that's possible? Have lots of water around so you can drink that instead of eat
Don't ever let anyone else tell you who you can be
Everyone has given you great advice. I don't know that I can add much, but I'll tell you about how I deal. I have a really stressful job, and emotional eating (and drinking) is a daily challenge for me. My go-to solution is yoga. When I REALLY want a gulp down a bottle of wine, or chow down a giant cupcake after a bad day, I make myself go home, pour a big glass of water, and head down to my basement for a date with Rodney Yee. (Yoga guy)
Afterward, I always feel better. Sometimes I still eat the cupcake. Sometimes I still drink the wine. But after practicing the yoga, if I choose to still eat the cupcake, I know that I CHOSE to eat it - I wasn't doing it to avoid dealing with the stress.
Be kind to yourself. Every day won't be like this one, and tomorrow when you look back and see how deftly you handled this bad situation, you will be even more proud of yourself.
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
-Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
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301 1/23/13 9:58 A
Three months ago I was in the same spot... I was not dieting then but I had to let an employee go. I ended up going to the diner across the street once all was said and done and had a cup of coffee. I know just being away from the situation helped. Once this is over tomorrow, while I know it is not easy, get ourself out of the office for a few and go for a walk and relax. It may not be the right thing for you to do but you do have to do it and you need to find something to help you overcome the anxiety and keep you on track. Walk, listen to music, write in a journal... Calm down and know you did what you needed to do.
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46,222 1/23/13 8:39 A
Wow, so sorry you have to do that. Just remember though, food is not a substitute for having to go through the emotions of the day. I am so glad you came to the message boards to share your feelings about tomorrow. Talking with a good friend or even journaling help us deal with life's emotions. While eating may make us feel better temporarily it doesn't do anything to take away the stress--but for many can actually increase our stress with guilt and shame for turning to food.
Take care and CONGRATS on your wonderful success so far. Try not to let this obstacle derail you.
Ugh, this is such a hard situation. I chew a lot of gum and drink a lot of water. Emotional eating is so hard to overcome. Good luck today.
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1/23/13 4:56 A
Tomorrow I have to tell a lady in our office that she can no longer work for us :( I am really dreading it and am already holding myself back from all the emotional eating binge I can feel coming on with the stress. I also know tomorrow I'm going to feel even worse.
What do you do when you know you are going to have a stressful and overly emotional day to try and stop the emotional eating before it happens?
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