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JEFFGIRL Posts: 10,689
5/18/14 7:29 P

Mom at her request.

SBURDEN Posts: 10,295
5/18/14 7:05 P

her first name

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5/18/14 12:12 P


5/15/14 11:26 P

I call her by her first name

EXOTEC Posts: 3,327
5/15/14 10:08 P

I call her by her first name.
In my circles, it was considered rude and supposing to call a person by any name they didn't invite you to use. I was never invited to call her "Mom", although the other daughters-in-law have done so. I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel with it, but it's moot, since I never had that invitation.
I think her background didn't include fine details like that, and perhaps it never occurred to her that I never adopted it because of my own upbringing. I don't know. It works, in any case.

If I'm sending cards on behalf of both my husband and myself, I will buy ones which say "Mom."

Edited by: EXOTEC at: 5/15/2014 (22:11)
SHIRLTHEGIRL69 SparkPoints: (2,581)
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5/15/14 7:46 P


BARBZUMBA SparkPoints: (13,942)
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5/15/14 3:12 P

The favorite DIL's call her Mom....I'm not on her fav list

MJEFFERSON23 SparkPoints: (32,691)
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5/15/14 11:52 A

I called her Mother Jefferson

STEELER71 Posts: 8,048
5/15/14 5:49 A


SUNSHINE99999 Posts: 17,099
5/14/14 10:20 P


REBECANOLA Posts: 3,285
5/14/14 8:33 P

I don't have an official MIL because I'm not married, but I call my long time boyfriend's mother by her first name because that's the way she wants it. He calls my mom, Mrs.( Last Name) because that's the way my mom likes it - for now, she might warm up if we actually do get married.

JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (531,739)
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5/14/14 8:02 P

Online Now  • ))
Senora Berta, but she is no longer with us.

5/14/14 7:16 P


STRONGERLEANER SparkPoints: (171,654)
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5/14/14 7:15 P

Mrs. "LastName"

We're kind of formal.

CARTOON3 SparkPoints: (33,714)
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5/14/14 5:23 P

Mine has passed. I never met her.

SWEETSUGAR7 Posts: 2,450
5/14/14 4:58 P

don't have one

ROXYCARIN SparkPoints: (95,965)
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5/14/14 4:57 P


ETHELMERZ SparkPoints: (242,145)
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5/14/14 2:47 P

I don't know what "deased" is, lol, but I call mine by her first name.

UMBILICAL Posts: 12,786
5/14/14 2:01 P

I don't

SPARKLEYSHINE SparkPoints: (29,922)
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5/14/14 1:36 P

Here first name usually. Unless it's more of a collective I'm talking to that includes my husband then I refer to her as Mom.

FEDGIRL4 Posts: 2,173
5/14/14 1:26 P

Mine is deceased.

My hubby calls my Mom by her first name.

CAMEOSUN SparkPoints: (86,609)
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5/14/14 1:18 P

She's deceased. But I used to call her by her 1st name.

SCHECK5 SparkPoints: (407,301)
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5/9/14 6:05 P

By her first name

PENNYSAVER2 SparkPoints: (143,961)
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5/9/14 5:43 P

I call her by her first name.

BARBZUMBA SparkPoints: (13,942)
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5/9/14 4:58 P

UMBILICAL...Too funny... My Father-in-law (deceased) Was a real know-it-all. I stopped
visiting when he refused to stop smoking around my kids.

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5/9/14 4:49 P


5/9/14 4:29 P


UMBILICAL Posts: 12,786
5/9/14 3:51 P


MYAKAYAH Posts: 10,378
5/9/14 3:22 P

If she was living I would call her by her first name, I have a mom :)~

BETRHO48 Posts: 14,114
5/9/14 2:19 P

Mom when she was living

BARBZUMBA SparkPoints: (13,942)
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5/9/14 1:39 P

By her first name

ATHENA-NADINE SparkPoints: (20,812)
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5/9/14 1:38 P

I call my husband's mother Mom, because she is like a second mother to me. I call my husband's step-mother Bear, because that is the nickname the family gave her and it's a term of endearment to her. I'm closer to my husband's family than my own, so it isn't strange to any of us.

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5/9/14 1:38 P


5/9/14 1:35 P

Just her name. Calling her 'mom' would feel really weird and we're familiar enough that I don't have to call her Mrs. So-and-so.

GONNALOSE5 Posts: 975
5/9/14 12:53 P

I used to call my ex-MIL mom. I am divorced and she died many years ago but still think of her as my mom-in-law. When I speak of her, when my ex MIL was alive...

Edited by: GONNALOSE5 at: 5/9/2014 (14:25)
FORTYPLUS56 Posts: 3,197
5/9/14 12:52 P

Mom or by her first name

SUSAN29NJ Posts: 2,425
5/9/14 12:51 P

I call her by her first name.

THOMAS.H Posts: 17,820
5/9/14 12:49 P

I called her mom when she was with us. Still do I suppose.

4ANEWME2DAY SparkPoints: (123,583)
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5/9/14 12:44 P

I call my MIL by her first name.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
5/9/14 12:21 P

Well, I call her "dh's mom" when talking about her. I would use her first name when talking to her if I needed to get her attention. No change over the years.
Dh also has a stepmother who is a year younger than me. Calling her anything but her first name would be weird. No change over the years.

Edited by: LOUNMOUN at: 5/9/2014 (12:23)
CJGODESS101 SparkPoints: (30,781)
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5/9/14 9:47 A

I call her by her first name, same with my FIL. My hubby does the same with my parents, we just call them by their first names. Maybe it would change with time, we've been married for 6 years and don't have kids.

DEANNA0725 SparkPoints: (22,611)
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5/9/14 9:30 A

Prior to my husband passing I don't really recall what I called her, but now that I have stayed in touch with her because of my son (her grandson) I call her by her first name.

SBURDEN Posts: 10,295
5/9/14 9:10 A

Her first name

JANCARD SparkPoints: (115,187)
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5/9/14 8:56 A

I've always called her by her first name. She probably asked me to, but honestly it's been so many years now, I just don't remember. When I'm sending her a card from DH and me, then I write "Mom".

SUZIEQUE77 SparkPoints: (9,271)
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5/9/14 8:12 A

I had two MILs but they both died. I don't really recall calling them anything! I did not see them often enough that I actually needed to address them by name.

My daughter-in-law calls me by my first name, which is fine even though she is more like a daughter than a daughter-in-law to me, and I know I am more of a mother to her than her real mother is. It is just semantics and this very thread is proof many of us just don't know what to call the MIL!

My sons-in-law (all five of them) call me by my first name too.

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,201
5/9/14 7:54 A

My DH's mom passed away before we were married, so I don't have a MIL. DH calls my mom by her first name, which is what she said she preferred.

CAROLINAGIRL69 SparkPoints: (109,188)
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5/9/14 7:52 A

Depends on what kind of mood I'm in. emoticon

Ha ha. I call her by her first name.

MLAN613 Posts: 17,952
5/9/14 7:50 A

Fortunately, I don't have to call her anything anymore because her son decided he didn't want to be married to me. But, I called her BJ when we were married.

JEFFGIRL Posts: 10,689
5/9/14 7:31 A

Mom. She told me I could call her that or her first name, Pearl. That seemed a little odd to me.

MJEFFERSON23 SparkPoints: (32,691)
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5/9/14 7:20 A

What do you call your mother-in-law and why? Is it Mom? Mother (Last Name)?, First Name? or some other name? Has it changed over the years?

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