I call her by her first name. In my circles, it was considered rude and supposing to call a person by any name they didn't invite you to use. I was never invited to call her "Mom", although the other daughters-in-law have done so. I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel with it, but it's moot, since I never had that invitation. I think her background didn't include fine details like that, and perhaps it never occurred to her that I never adopted it because of my own upbringing. I don't know. It works, in any case.
If I'm sending cards on behalf of both my husband and myself, I will buy ones which say "Mom."
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The favorite DIL's call her Mom....I'm not on her fav list
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I don't have an official MIL because I'm not married, but I call my long time boyfriend's mother by her first name because that's the way she wants it. He calls my mom, Mrs.( Last Name) because that's the way my mom likes it - for now, she might warm up if we actually do get married.
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By her first name
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I call my husband's mother Mom, because she is like a second mother to me. I call my husband's step-mother Bear, because that is the nickname the family gave her and it's a term of endearment to her. I'm closer to my husband's family than my own, so it isn't strange to any of us.
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Just her name. Calling her 'mom' would feel really weird and we're familiar enough that I don't have to call her Mrs. So-and-so.
Well, I call her "dh's mom" when talking about her. I would use her first name when talking to her if I needed to get her attention. No change over the years. Dh also has a stepmother who is a year younger than me. Calling her anything but her first name would be weird. No change over the years.
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I call her by her first name, same with my FIL. My hubby does the same with my parents, we just call them by their first names. Maybe it would change with time, we've been married for 6 years and don't have kids.
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Prior to my husband passing I don't really recall what I called her, but now that I have stayed in touch with her because of my son (her grandson) I call her by her first name.
5/9/14 9:10 A
Her first name
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I've always called her by her first name. She probably asked me to, but honestly it's been so many years now, I just don't remember. When I'm sending her a card from DH and me, then I write "Mom".
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I had two MILs but they both died. I don't really recall calling them anything! I did not see them often enough that I actually needed to address them by name.
My daughter-in-law calls me by my first name, which is fine even though she is more like a daughter than a daughter-in-law to me, and I know I am more of a mother to her than her real mother is. It is just semantics and this very thread is proof many of us just don't know what to call the MIL!
My sons-in-law (all five of them) call me by my first name too.
5/9/14 7:54 A
My DH's mom passed away before we were married, so I don't have a MIL. DH calls my mom by her first name, which is what she said she preferred.
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Depends on what kind of mood I'm in.
Ha ha. I call her by her first name.
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Fortunately, I don't have to call her anything anymore because her son decided he didn't want to be married to me. But, I called her BJ when we were married.
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