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CYNTHIACYNTHIA1 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/28/12 9:12 A

I have 140 pounds to lose, but I can't really think of it that way. I think of it as "chunks" of smaller weight goals. My first goal is 25 pounds then 40 and so forth. I plan on rewarding myself every time I achieve those goals.

Hope this helps

Edited by: CYNTHIACYNTHIA1 at: 3/28/2012 (09:12)
NOREENBX Posts: 761
3/28/12 8:49 A

Just thinking about how long it's going to take to lose 100 lbs. is sometimes overwhelming.

CYNTHIACYNTHIA1 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/26/12 10:17 A

I've lost weight before. About 42 pounds. Oddly enough, when people start telling me that they can see that I have lost weight. I get to feeling like maybe I look OK and don't need to lose anymore-when the scale says that I am nowhere near my goal.

It is like by hearing them say that, it reduces the pressure that I put on myself to lose for me.

Outsiders input can really derail me from my goals. I don't know how to defend against this.

GLASSHUNTER SparkPoints: (70,225)
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3/18/12 8:49 A

no motivation

GOLFLADY11 SparkPoints: (45,954)
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3/17/12 12:35 P

The scale

XSCOOPYX SparkPoints: (0)
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3/15/12 5:45 A

when the unexpected (usual negative) happens, perhaps its that loss of control

MI-ELLKAYBEE SparkPoints: (228,262)
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3/14/12 4:12 P

Fear of losing my home. Fear of having my car repossessed. Stress related to my desperate financial situation. It gets worse, not better. Now, we are being evicted from the office because they couldn't pay the office rent. I don't know where to turn, and I have no money. I have been living on credit card cash advances since October. I take one out, pay the minimum on several other cards. Then rotate them. My credit score actually went UP. (Why???) My life discourages me. But I did get back to my goal weight, with the help of God and SparkPeople.

FITME81 Posts: 1,189
3/14/12 1:36 P

Scale not moving

3/14/12 7:01 A

Comparing myself to others. Acceptance is critical for me to stay focused and not disappointed.

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,292
3/14/12 5:44 A


3/14/12 4:06 A

Mirrors discourage me when my clothes feel big but I look the same.

123ELAINE456 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/13/12 9:08 P

About not being able to get the help I need. Between case workers, doctors and other agencies they drive you crazy. It is very discouraging and heart breaking to say the least about all of it. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

DABLUECAT SparkPoints: (0)
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3/13/12 8:55 A

Not seeing any improvement and 2nd guessing myself on things (exercise/food). And that I don't handle my anxiety well.

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,292
3/8/12 5:38 A


CAZEET SparkPoints: (0)
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3/7/12 7:59 P

I get discouraged when I keep hitting these plateaus. I have been at one for weeks and weeks. Hopefully, when the weather gets nicer I'll get on my bike and take off! Hurry up spring!!

HANDYV Posts: 24,924
3/7/12 12:40 P

When the scale does not go down. I am working on getting over this because I feel good, and I am now exercising.

BIBLEJOCKEY SparkPoints: (0)
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3/6/12 1:11 A

Good for you thats the way to reach your goals you have a great head on your shoulders Hip Hip Horay!! That weight will come off you said how much you are loosing it may not be much hey its a loss not up so you are doing somthing right my Dr. says slow weight loss is forever weight loss!! Keep on going!!! Mureengrace This is for you

Edited by: BIBLEJOCKEY at: 3/6/2012 (01:12)
BIBLEJOCKEY SparkPoints: (0)
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3/6/12 1:03 A

Going forward is always possible which mirror are you looking into sounds like the rear view and all you can see are the past mistakes and the roadblocks you struggled to get over. But you got over them, cause they are in the behind you, Ok so years were lost but you are in the here and now, And doing something about your future, not just the weight loss but depression,and bitterness. I am 57 years young I weigh 250 lbs, It is hard for me to walk this week, but as long as I keep one foot in front of the other I am a winner!! I have grandkids I want to chase around and run and laugh who says your youth is lost?? a number at your birthday or on a scale? NO WAY!! you are as old as you want to be.. Today I feel older than yesterday but I won't let that get me down. Rearrange your thinking look at the glass as 1/2 full positive. Think of the progress you made today! look at how your thinking is changing stop beating yourself up, shake off the heaviness, look up see the good. stop focusing on how far,or how much, celebrate each baby step that's going forward. sometimes you live each minute at a time but you get through that minute and the next and the next before long those minutes add up into days weeks and you realize how far you have come, Don't allow pitty to come out of your mouth,or think thoughts in your head feeling sorry for the lost is the worst way to spend your time it only sees the worst and how far you have to go set little goals even like I won't focus on weight loss or gain for one day. My self talk will be positive, I will not allow me to beat myself up at all today you may only be able to do that for one minute before a negative thought comes but replace that with more positives and stop that line of thinking sing you can't beat yourself up if you have a song in your mouth the thoughts in your head always stop to hear what your mouth is speaking Good luck try that you'll be better.. Bobcat58 this is for you you are doing great keep it up.

Edited by: BIBLEJOCKEY at: 3/6/2012 (01:13)
3/5/12 1:57 P

I get discouraged when I want something sweet but don't have the calories for it.

13MICHELLE SparkPoints: (0)
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3/5/12 12:34 P

I get discouraged when I realize I am sabotaging myself. Having a battle with myself is so hard. Being my own cheerleader is very hard too. It's like having multiple personalities! I am down and blue and then I need to dig inside myself and find that voice that will get me out of the funk. It takes alot of effort and energy. And then when I realize I am dragging myself down again, I get so frustrated.

BOBCAT58 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/5/12 9:30 A

I get discouraged when I realize how my youth was wasted, both being fat and putting things off until I could get thin, which never happened. Now even if I lose the weight, I'll have a lot of loose, hanging skin, artificial knees and my life will be restricted by so many bad choices I've made. It's a real challenge to keep depression and bitterness from messing up the progress that IS possible! emoticon

TRIMAT40 SparkPoints: (0)
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3/4/12 5:27 P

when I eat to much.

MAUREENGRACE1 SparkPoints: (15,391)
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3/2/12 4:31 P

I have decided that I won't let negative remarks or family buying me treats swerve me from my goal. I am taking longer than I hoped to lose weight, but I just keep on trying. So far I have managed to lose some weight each week, even if it's only half a pound. I joined a club where I am weighed weekly, then do an exercise class. This has kept me on the right road. I have lost 10lbs since 17th Jan 2012. Not a huge amout but better lost than still carrying them around.

RLB54321 Posts: 86
3/2/12 1:45 P

My inconsistency.

GODDREAMDIVA1 SparkPoints: (376,433)
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3/2/12 10:31 A

Negative people...

SAS202554 Posts: 475
3/1/12 9:08 P

When I think about how long it is going to take to get this weight off!!!

MI-ELLKAYBEE SparkPoints: (228,262)
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2/25/12 9:05 P

That the cost of healthy food is SO much more than you can spend filling up on unhealthy food. I struggle desperately to eat healthy now, but it has put me very very deeply in debt. That I will never even get to taste organic food - it ALWAYS costs more. As long as so many people are willing to pay more for low sodium products over the same product with more sodium, the cost of low sodium food will NEVER come down. As long as people will pay more for "organic" foods, stores will happily always charge more for them. And struggling people will never get really good meals on a regular basis. I hate to think, that we need legislation to regulate sodium-per-portion - we have too many regulations already. But that might be the only way. I couldn't support even that if it raised prices.

2/16/12 9:15 A

I get discouraged by people who go on and on about how much they ate or drank and how much they "cheated" on their diets, and then lose weight anyway.

SKINNYPAT62 Posts: 7,750
2/15/12 12:54 P

Negative comments and people judging everything you do.

ANTI_M SparkPoints: (9,074)
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2/15/12 9:23 A

I hate it when I do get motivated to get up and move, but my physical limitations put me in pain. Not the good "no pain no gain" type of pain, the "You're doing damage if you keep this up" pain. Hate it.

Also hate when people say things like, "I'm living my life to the fullest, you're depriving yourself" when what they mean is they're too lazy to do more than reach for their chili cheese fries. I'd have more support if I were quitting smoking or getting off meth (I don't smoke or do meth, LOL, just examples). But food? No, they say I'm not enjoying life. Oh yes I am! I want to enjoy it longer and with more energy than my mother or grandmother did, I never want to be so sick or so frail. ARGH.

BESCATS SparkPoints: (238,436)
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2/13/12 12:52 P

Working hard & eating healthy, but not seeing weight loss. Hate those plateau's. emoticon

FIRECOM SparkPoints: (0)
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2/13/12 12:38 P

Hitting a plateau. I was stuck at 195 for almost 2 months before I broke it. I get a lot of friends asking me if I wanted to loose weight or am I sick. Getting old aint for sissies.

NOREENBX Posts: 761
2/11/12 6:26 P

I gat discouraged when I tell someone I'm trying to lose weight and they try to sabotage me - - offering chips, candy --other things I don't want but lack the will power to refuse. FRUSTRATING!!

2/11/12 8:22 A

I get discouraged when the extra effort I put in at the office goes un-noticed.

Edited by: JANWHOSOEVER at: 2/11/2012 (08:22)
DAWNIEMARIE2012 SparkPoints: (0)
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2/10/12 11:37 P

When me and my mom go out shopping and she's smaller then I, and we go shopping 1st in her dept. For now I have to shop in the women dept, well that will change!!!! and when my hubby don't support me, it's sucks he'll tell me I'm perfect just the way I am, I just wanna scream ,he doesn't see what I see.

CJMCCRAY SparkPoints: (10,849)
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1/16/12 1:36 P

I agree that it is discouraging to not see any body changes. I try to focus more on how much better i feel. I can't stand to look in the mirror.

C_REED1 Posts: 6
1/16/12 1:03 P

I get discouraged at work the people I work with want to eat all the time.

Edited by: C_REED1 at: 1/16/2012 (13:05)
KSANDIEGO SparkPoints: (8,680)
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1/16/12 12:14 P

I get discouraged when I don't see any changes in the mirror. I know that has more to do with my "head" issues, but I'm just beig honest.

ATROUT8 SparkPoints: (0)
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1/16/12 12:48 A

The most discouraging thing for me is when the people close to me do not give me positive support. Losing weight is one of the most difficult things anyone can do, encouragement and support even in small amounts can add up to a lot to someone who is struggling like me.

1/15/12 5:45 P

I get discouraged when I go to the grocery store. Like most people in the US these days I'm below the poverty line in earnings. Healthy food is more expensive than ever and unhealthy food is cheaper than ever and it's so hard to keep myself from just saying "whatever, I'm going to save money and buy the unhealthy stuff". But I've stuck with it so far knowing it will be worth it in the end.

CJMCCRAY SparkPoints: (10,849)
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1/14/12 10:12 A

I have to make a separate meal for my husband because he won't eat what I cook for myself. He has never been good at eating vegetables and fruits. He doesn't like the whole grain pastas and breads either. I have tried everthing to get him to eat healthier. It's very discouraging for me.

Edited by: CJMCCRAY at: 1/14/2012 (10:15)
LEEHAME64 Posts: 122
1/14/12 9:09 A

When I go to try on clothes and they look horrible to me. I used to be slim and hate the bigger look on me.

PELESJEWEL Posts: 2,895
1/12/12 8:52 P

I get discouraged when I don't follow through. Recently I acknowledged that when i don't do what I say I'm going to do, I am letting myself down. It's not enough to say you plan to lose 50 lbs in 2012. It is everything to follow through by doing it.

BLENA80 Posts: 19
1/12/12 6:09 P

I hate jeans shopping.... going to the fitting room and finding out I've gotten bigger than the last time I went shopping.

PELESJEWEL Posts: 2,895
1/11/12 8:33 P

Yesterday I found I was a bit discouraged when my boss couldn't even mutter a simple "thank you' after I completed a work project that made him look good.

ABBEMINE SparkPoints: (0)
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1/7/12 5:20 P

HI,, I get discouraged when I'm down on myself. When I think the weight isn't going anywhere. I look at myself in the mirror and truly don't like what I see. Me and only me can do something about that and 2012 will be my year. Have a great time before college return.

EUCLASIA SparkPoints: (0)
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1/7/12 2:28 A

I get discouraged when I eat with my friends who have endless appetites :(

PELESJEWEL Posts: 2,895
1/7/12 1:12 A

I get discouraged when I can't figure things out...but only for so long before I reverse it into determination. I think you have to be real and face the emotions otherwise you can easily spiral in an unrealistic direction. I get discouraged when I don't follow through...but there again, I'm working on really delivering on what I said I would. I've shifted my thinking to believe that doing what I say is the ultimate in honoring myself.

MYSSTIA SparkPoints: (0)
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1/6/12 9:53 A

A family member of mine likes to always comment, "oh you look great you've lost a few pounds, keep going" or, "uh-oh, have you fallen off the bandwagon? you look like you've gained a few".

Nope. I haven't "dieted" in a long while. It's just normal for me to fluctuate up and down 10 pounds. This person seriously makes me feel super self conscious, but I no longer let that bother me. I am doing this for me. For my health, and to be a role model to my daughter.

DONE2009 Posts: 268
1/5/12 11:40 P

So I was tellin my brother about my lifestyle change....He informed me that I always get too discouraged when I gain weight after I lose so much I am asking what discourages you???? I am going to do whatever it takes to wok past this. All the help from my sparker would be great. I start back to college in a week so I need advice.

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