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BETH_46 Posts: 63
12/3/12 9:21 P

I'm so glad you're getting your motivation back. The tips are great, but to regain your motivation is all YOU! emoticon emoticon

12/3/12 3:40 P

Glad I posted here on the panic board, you've all had great ideas and have motivated me.
Thank you.

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12/1/12 10:22 P

It is hard to find that motivation again after a setback, but remember that it is just a bump on your overall journey. You may have gained back part of the weight, but you still have the knowledge that you have learned along the way -- you know what works and what doesn't work (which is often half the battle) -- sometimes, you just have to make yourself do it whether you feel like it or not. Before you know it, you will be back in the swing of things.

The most important thing is to make what you do something you can do for the rest of your life. I work full time and have two small children and my husband works many evenings -- I am extremely busy -- but I have found a way to carve out about 45 minutes a day to work out -- sometimes it is less, but I do it. I don't try to do crazy 2 hour workouts to drop the weight fast -- I don't go crazy with foods I hate -- I just to my best to make it work -- I have lost 33 pounds in just under 4 months -- those 3 months would have passed either way -- but now I am much healthier -- Good Luck -- you CAN do it! emoticon

11/30/12 6:11 P

Just keep at it one day at a time- Be serious about your diet and Keep exercising- It will pay off -I promise.I am loosing weight very slow- but hey! I am diabetic and my A1C Blood sugar test that my Dr does dropped from 6.9 to 6.4! in three months. Even things like that will show improvements!

BETH_46 Posts: 63
11/30/12 3:38 P

BYEFATNANNY, Have you thought about using DVD's at home? I love the Leslie Sansone Walk Away the Pounds videos. They aren't too strenuous and you can do them at your own pace and in your own time. emoticon

11/30/12 3:26 P

Thanks all, you are helping me with my motivation, Really! And I loved the new clothes idea, I am wearing very tight clothes right now and even though that should motivate me, it only depresses me. I've never left Spark, and I do know what I'm "supposed" to do. I think I do need to start "over" slowly and realize I am just too busy for the gym every day, but a few times a week is better than never! And small spurts on the other days. Thank you all again. This has been my first message board question and it has been very helpful.

CATHYJR73 Posts: 3,937
11/30/12 3:24 P

The key is to remember this is not a diet but instead is a lifestyle change. Keep focused and remember why you want to lose the weight!!

BETH_46 Posts: 63
11/30/12 3:10 P


I've lost and regained a few times over the years, too. Most recently is that I've gained about 45 pounds in just the last year, alone. I I have been so disgusted with myself, because I still had yet another 40 that I wanted to lose (total of 88 pounds) before I gained this weight back. But I decided no more beating myself up about it and you shouldn't either.

The great news is, we both know what worked for us before and we can do it again!

I don't know how to tell you to get the motivation because it took me a while to get it again and I don't know where it came from this time around. But maybe start out with something small, such as vowing just 10 or 15 minutes of exercise per day. Maybe if you get one habit started, you will want to add others as you go and before you know it you'll be back on track. As for me, I just made up my mind and jumped back in with both feet this time and I determined that what worked to get the weight off is what I'm going to have to stick with for a lifetime.

I take part of what I said because this time I am being a little more lenient with myself in how many calories I am allowing myself. I want to do something that's realistic for me and something I can stick with for a lifetime. Before, I was allowing myself too few calories and would end up binging. Now I'm allowing myself "up to" 2000 per day. If I go over once in a while, that's okay. But by having set the limit too low in the past I was binging quite frequently and became so disgusted with myself for not "sticking to it" that I just gave up. But no more.

Sorry I'm making this so long. But I would suggest to come up with a plan that will work for you for a lifetime, something that isn't so strenuous that you have a too hard a time with it. I wish I could give you more tips for motivation, but I think we just have to make a decision and when we do, that's where the motivation comes from, I guess?

I have faith that you can and will get back to it! emoticon

FEDGIRL4 Posts: 2,180
11/30/12 3:08 P


I joined Weight Watchers in 2001 and over the next two years lost 53 pounds. Then I started cheating and skipping meetings. I gained all but the last 20 pounds back. I joined Curves and also E-Diets and Weight Watchers three more times. I ended up joining TOPS but that ended too. Up and down to my hearts and body's content.

I had been climbing the stairs to my desk (4th floor) for years. In October 2010, I got together with a Spark member and we walk most weekends. This past February, I started walking (with my tunes) the garage in the building next to mine. In four months I lost 8 pounds off what I had already lost with Spark and TOPS.

For me, I gave up MOST flour and sugar.

My point? Find what works for you and keep doing it. If you don't like it, you won't stick with it. If you fell off the wagon, GET BACK ON. Keep going. If you falter, pick yourself back up.

I was just given this video and I want to pass it on to you. Here it is:

Edited by: FEDGIRL4 at: 12/4/2012 (14:23)
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11/30/12 2:31 P


Welcome back to Spark People ! Please, don't beat yourself up because you've regained some of the weight. That's something that has happened to every single member of SP at one time or another. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. You can't change the past, but you CAN influence and change the future.

I'm going to give you a piece of advice I give to all new members and it's this,"don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

Weight loss is not all or nothing. Every little bit really does make a difference. That's why SP recommends starting with a few simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. set some simple, achievable goals to start. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved those goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It starts with some simple changes. One small change can change your life !!

Second piece of advice, go out and buy a couple of pairs of pants that flatter your figure. Don't buy anything a size smaller and wait to lose weight. The fact is, wearing baggy ill fitting clothes really can increase a person's depression about their weight. That's why you need to buy some nice clothes that flatter your current figure. Don't worry about what the size says. You can always cut out the tags later.

Go grab a couple of your girlfriends and buy yourself some new clothes. you don't have to buy a whole new wardrobe. there are tons of sales. buy yourself a nice scarf and some accessories too.

Nothing says NEW ATTITUDE than a new set of clothes !! Trust me. A new outfit will pick up your spirits. It signals a change ! Wearing baggy clothes really does scream rut. If you want to get out of that rut, buy yourself some snazzy new clothing.

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11/30/12 2:15 P

Stay away from the scales for a while. Concentrate on working on your plan. There will be ups and downs on the scale so don't let it control your motivation. Look at how your feel and how your clothes fit. Bet you feel better than you did even a month ago so concentrate on that and forget the scale. Scales are lousy motivators.


STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,376
11/29/12 11:07 P

You've done it once, you can do it again! Don't give up! once you get going again, it'll be easier to continue. I had almost reached my "100 pounds lost" goal last year, but then life got in the way, and I gained back 30 or more pounds. I'm currently losing again, but I felt awful for the longest time.
The hardest part is 'sucking it up', realizing that it sucks, and keep going.

CBULLIS1 Posts: 1,692
11/29/12 8:59 P

weigh in today gained 3lb and lost motivation. Please I need help

11/29/12 7:55 P

Thank you all, I'll try to make ME the "event" and see if I can get somewhere that way.
It helps hearing it from others. emoticon

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11/29/12 7:50 P

Apart from what Coach Nancy mentioned, using an event for a goal is also a way of slipping back when the event has been and gone.

Rather than using an event as a goal, how about using YOU and YOUR health and well-being as the goal!!! Start with baby steps again and start that journey of a lifetime but this time for the right reasons.

BIG hugs - have faith in yourself because you CAN do this - you just don't realize it!

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 11/30/2012 (00:33)
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11/29/12 6:22 P


Studies show that we focus on losing weight to be a certain size or weight on the scale, the chance for regain goes up. However, when one focuses on making this a lifestyle--a permanent way of living, the chance of keeping the weight off goes up exponentially. The reason, you are making permanent changes to your way of living.

Of course many people may become quite overwhelmed with going through the process yet again, but be patient and know that it is the small, permanent changes we make that allow us to embrace the habits of healthy living.

You can do this!

Coach Nancy

LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 25,991
11/29/12 6:06 P

"I am TERRIBLE at setting goals "

Actually, you are not.
You did VERY well with a goal before... you CAN do it again!

11/29/12 4:13 P

I was so ambitious when I got here in Sept. 2009. I did so well and lost 62lbs. I had a high school reunion and my 1st boyfriend to see again. (I'm happily married, but ya got to look good) in summer of 2011. I was so happy and lost my weight and bought new clothes. I was exercising and was finding "all this" easy. Then my "goal" passed and since then I have gained back 40lbs. I'm back to cocktails after work, instead of exercise. Generally I am still eating healthy although my portions have increased. The last straw is that I am now wearing sweats when I go anyplace on the weekend. How do I get that enthusiasm back, I've tried everything. I am TERRIBLE at setting goals or finding a reason to lose again. Thanks for any advice, especially to anyone that this has happened to.

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