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STARDUST2K4
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2/14/13 11:00 P

I think it depends on my mood really. Today, I over indulged, and ended up going over my calories, but it's over, and it's been done. It doesn't undo the progress I've made. As long as 1 doesn't turn into 2, it'll be okay, and there's still hope.



PCVCHRISTINE
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2/14/13 8:38 P

There were also tons of sweets in my office today -- luckily we just put them all out, so nobody is offended if somebody abstains.But it's hard to abstain!

Instead, I took very small portions (slivers) of a few things that looked most appealing. I didn't eat any other snacks today (I normally eat 3 medium-calorie meals and 3 snacks per day), and I gave myself permission to relax my standards slightly. I had to guestimate the calories in the treats I ate, but I'm still fairly confident that I was within range. And if I wasn't? No biggie -- I *know* I didn't eat more than I expended.



JESSAELINN
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2/14/13 8:27 P

Maybe bring in some healthy snacks on the days you know that your colleagues will bring sweets, then they'll feel appreciated more. They'll understand why you bring healthy snacks if they know you're trying to lose weight/be healthy.



BUNNYKICKS
Posts: 2,175
2/14/13 2:19 P

Or if you do want to "spoil yourself" with a special meal - instead of spoiling yourself with "more" (quantity/calories), spoil yourself with BETTER.

Depending on your budget, you could:
Spring for those lobster tails
Grill a high-quality steak
Make strawberries dipped in chocolate
Have a glass of good wine
Wrap some pear or pineapple slices with prosciutto

There's a lot of "luxury" to be had on a Spoil-Me kind of day, that can fit well within your daily ranges or not too much above!



LUCKINLOVE
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2/14/13 1:29 P

That's a really great point. Spoiling or treating yourselves to something other than food. My hubby & I had that conversation several years ago and we stopped using food as a reward or treat. Granted, I did sneak some M&Ms into his lunch bag w/o him knowing this morning, but they were in a cute heart that said "Be Mine", how could I not?! Hehe! And, instead of getting each other food as gifts, he got me flowers and I got him a pleasurable pack of condoms in kinds we've never tried. We'll burn the calories instead of consuming them!



BEANBYDESIGN
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2/14/13 1:03 P

You've gotten great advice so far, but I have a thought to add - why does your husband's version of "spoiling you" HAVE to include excess food? Why can't "spoiling you" mean that he takes over some chore that's usually yours that he knows you hate? Or he goes for a walk/hike/run/bike ride/whatever with you? Or he treats you to a manicure at the local nail salon? Or runs a fancy bubble bath for you? Or gives you a back rub? Or picks up that new book you've wanted to read? I could go on forever, but you get the idea.

This is probably not an issue to be discussed with him today, necessarily, but you may want to think about having a conversation with him about how the two of you express love and affection, and brainstorming, together, ways you can "spoil" each other without spoiling each other's health. I know lots of people grow up with this idea that food is somehow love, but food is NOT love - love is love. Kindness is love. Looking out for the other person's well-being and health is love. Making these kinds of distinctions is key to developing a healthy relationship with food, which is necessary to live a healthy lifestyle.



LUCKINLOVE
Posts: 216
2/14/13 12:52 P

I did some planning to not worry about today. I figured out my calories right away in the morning, kept everything the same, and our Valentine's Day dinner will now not even put me over my calorie/sodium limit for the day. Splurging in moderation.

It took a little planning, but completely worth it. And, since I don't typically indulge in sweets people bring into work, today was no different. Nothing will taste as good as when I wake up tomorrow and know I didn't blow my week apart.

Edited by: LUCKINLOVE at: 2/14/2013 (12:53)


ARCHIMEDESII
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2/14/13 12:47 P

Enjoy the day !! Have a wonderful time with your hubby !

I can't imagine living a life where I wasn't allowed to eat something because I was worried I'd gain weight. That's not healthy. There is absolutely no reason you can't enjoy a meal out with your hubby. Indulge, but don't over indulge too much. And if you do eat more than you want, that doesn't make you a bad person or an unhealthy one.

If you were to eat right five out of seven days this week, you'd still be doing way better than the average American. Don't worry, even if you do eat a little more than you want, just be more mindful for the rest of the week. that's all.

Enjoy yourself, GUILT FREE !!

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BELLADONNAHEALS
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2/14/13 11:33 A

I agree with the above poster. I wouldn't be offended at all if you told me no thanks. I am not a real treat person anyway so it never hurt me to say no, and if they care about you, they shouldn't be offended either.

Happy Valentine's Day and enjoy your evening with your hubby emoticon



SP_COACH_NANCY
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2/14/13 10:27 A

Hi KKOLLIG,

If you know your husband is going to be spoiling you tonight, be strong now. I once read that the first bite of anything we eat is all we need to eat to enjoy a treat--after that it's just eating. If people are offended because you decline, that is more about them than it is about you. Be strong and know that tonight you will enjoy the time with your husband which will make his treat even more special.

Coach Nancy



KKOLLIG
Posts: 140
2/14/13 10:24 A

How do you handle days like today? Everyone at the office is sharing treats and they get offended when I abstain. When I get home, my husband will want to spoil me a bit and that will mean extra calories too.

I'm doing my best, but days like today are very, very hard.



 
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