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CHRISTINASP Posts: 1,856
9/27/12 3:52 P

Thank you very much for your replies.

CMCOLE, I enjoy your thinking with me!
Umm - the eating plan is quite important to me... I am trying to find ways to make it less time-consuming, such as doing more batch cooking, and doing more careful planning.
Not sure how to combine the yoga, meditating and relaxation. But, come to think of it, maybe I should just pick ONE of the three as a goal and leave the rest be?
I love the stationary bike idea... will keep it in mind. I don't own one anymore - due to lack of space in our home. May rethink it though. I ride the bike outside in nature / forest so that's an extra attraction for me.

LAURAAT Posts: 1,506
9/27/12 2:02 P

CMCOLE came up with some great suggestions, I second all of them. :)
As for becoming less of a perfectionist - if you find a way, let me know, will you? lol!

CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
9/27/12 6:50 A

Gracious, with that sort of list, no wonder you feel defeated just writing it out.
That's a lot of burden you've placed on yourself.

Some of those activities could possibly be combined.

1. If you're resenting cleaning so many dishes; could you just choose a healthy menu, and stick with it, rather than following a (in your words) "radical" food plan?

2. Could the relaxation, meditating and yoga be combined?

3. If you're using a stationery bike; could you read while peddling?

Just possible suggestions

CHRISTINASP Posts: 1,856
9/27/12 5:49 A

Thank you very much for your replies... it's helpful to read them.

I think I'm 'too perfectionistic'.... I like the idea of first starting small and then builiding it up. As it is I seem to be trying to do too many things too well, all at once... The idea of going back and starting at a 'lower level' or with smaller steps somehow makes me be annoyed with myself, in a way... (Can anyone offer me tips on how to work - IN SMALL STEPS ! - on becoming less perfectionistic? LOL).

My goals...
- Eating according to a rather 'radical' food plan (Eat to Live) that requires quite a bit more of planning, prepaering meals and washing dishes than I was used to.
- Exercising: 2 or 3 times an hour on the bike, 2 times gym for strength training, be it that I can't figure out if I really want that or if I want to exercise at home with weights, a complicated story that's too long to write out here).
- doing yoga daily (15 - 25 minutes)
- keeping the home tidy and clean following a schedule of 3x per week an hour
- meditating daily
- take extra care of my dog (grooming mostly, extra walks and play, also)
- doing exercises for my back and shoulder pains (about ten minutes)
- reading certain study books daily (10 to 30 minutes)
- a relaxation exercise daily (ten minutes)

.... Oomph, I get tired just thinking about the struggles I've had trying to do it all. In the past weeks I've not managed to visit the gym more than once a week, and there's no way I can do all the things on the list every day. In the meantime I also work part time and have other activities and appointments to take care of. So I do the yoga 3 times a week and resent myself, I do the reading of the study books a few times and resent it that I can't do it daily, I do the back exercises now and then and regret that I can't do them more often, etc. etc.

The point is even when I can manage to meet a lot of them, it means I have no time left to 'play', to just sit around, relax, read a novel etc... So it begins to feel at times, like it's all work work work all day and then sleep, and then it starts over again...

Edited by: CHRISTINASP at: 9/27/2012 (05:55)
ILOVEMALI Posts: 1,326
9/26/12 2:29 P

I've been having problems with my goals -- too ambitious. I am 10 pounds from my wish-list weight, and have been thinking about my goal in terms of that. I have been SO much more successful when I look at my goals in 3-pound increments, so I'm trying that again. 3 pounds is so much more attainable than 10 is (and I've lost 45 pounds so far, 3 pounds at a time -- I don't know what possessed me to change things up!)

LAURAAT Posts: 1,506
9/26/12 1:52 P

First, if your goals are making you nervous and you are spending too much time focusing on them, then yes, you have too many or are being too strict. Time to revisit!
As badly as I want to jump in with two feet into all my goals, I know that's not going to work. I'll give you some examples of what is working for me, and hope maybe you will find what works for you as well.
Take water. First, I started tracking my water. Then, I decided to go for 4 cups a day based on what I had been tracking. Next, in a few weeks, I will up it to 6, then when I am comfortable, to 8. Now, with freggies. I do great cramming fruit in, not so much with veggies. I'm starting slow, with 3 servings of fruit/day, and making at least one of them a veggie. ONce I am comfortable, I will up it to 4/2, 5/3, and so on. So, I have several goals, both long and shorter term. I don't feel too stressed, because some are smaller than others (like tracking water - no pressure, and easy enough.)
My suggestion is to start out slow, and continue to slowly work your way up. Could you tell us what some of your goals are, maybe we can help show you how to make them a little easier to handle?

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9/26/12 8:26 A

I would choose the goals most important to you and disregard the rest for awhile. I am in the same boat with a lot of anxiety over meeting the goals I've set for myself, and it definitely does more harm than good. On my weekly to do lists, I always add in read a book or take a walk or another relaxing activity as a reminder that it is just as important to take some down time as it is to do the laundry or sweep the floor.
Haven you spoken with someone about your feelings of nervousness about your goals? I am going to speak with a counselor (this afternoon actually) to sort out my anxieties and I'm really looking forward to the insight. Some people (myself included) try to regiment their lives too much with goals and lists and it really get too complicated. emoticon

CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
9/26/12 7:11 A

Guess it depends on how precice your goals are - are they becoming more of an obsession than a motivation (which seems almost what you're implying).

Can you write them down and sort of ignore the less important ones for a while?

I'm not entirely certain what your list is, and I'm not quite sure what advice to give to overcome your quandry.

Right now, I'm having problems setting most goals, because my job situation is in flux - I won't know for a while whether I get to keep a job, or whether it will be cut, so I'm just taking little steps with the remainder of the part of my life I have a say in affecting.

CHRISTINASP Posts: 1,856
9/26/12 3:25 A

I really like the idea of goal setting and I've been doing it for a few years. However as it now, setting goals seems to be working against me.

Is there such a thing as having too many goals?
Because I feel that trying to work on them all mostly makes me feel nervous. I am spending so much time working on the goals that I don't seem to get enough time to just relax.

Are there others who can relate? Or do you have insights into this?

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