Having used to be 330-lbs...i've had this sort of thing happen many times...all i can say is add that to your motivation for your success and give you a hug
Gastric bypass is only a tool...abuse it and you will fail...
BEFORE BYPASS: 330-lbs LOWEST WEIGHT: 120-lbs CURRENT WEIGHT: 145-lbs
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1,257 11/14/10 11:49 P
I'm sorry they embarrassed you. My own mother used to embarrass me all the time about my weight. It took my DH telling her that he loved me that way (plus moving away from mom) before I started getting better. Hold your head up high! Plan a positive step to make you feel better about yourself. The plans YOU make will free you. Good luck, God Bless You!
11/14/10 10:42 P
I'm sorry you went through this. I actually went through a time in my life where I avoided amusement parks because I was afraid I wouldn't fit in the coaster seats. Then, when my husband finally talked me into going to one, I was too afraid that I wouldn't fit (and would get embarrassed when I didn't) that I wouldn't even try to get on any rides. It was a sad point in my life. Keep your chin up, though. I've been where you've been and I can tell you that you CAN lose the weight. Make it a goal to lose enough weight to fit in the coasters by the start of the summer. But, don't wait until then to start living your life. Don't be afraid, like I was, to try things for fear of getting embarrassed. It's better to try and shrug off the embarrassment (if it happens) than to not try at all.
Anyway, 1.5-2 lbs a week until summer should do it so you can fit on the coasters. You can do it!
I am so sorry about your hurt and embarrassment! HUGS!!!!!!
11/13/10 5:00 P
I've had this happen to me also. As if being embarrassed in front of tons of strangers wasn't bad enough, I was with a guy who I had just started dating. This bad experience is now in your past and you are doing the right thing by joining SparkPeople and taking charge of your health! You can do it! I plan to head back to Cedar Point next summer and I WILL fit in those seats!
I am so sorry that you had such an embarrassing experience. It's hard to know how to react when you feel like all eyes are on you.
Next step, hold your head up high. Resolve not to let this happen again, and not by avoiding roller coasters, either. I'm with BAYSIDE, use this as a turning point in your life to become a healthier you.
Ask your parents for help and support. If that is not working, find a school counselor, family physician or trusted adult that can guide you on strategies to approach these types of life challenges.
By all means, keep checking in on Sparkpeople to get added support from us all!
11/13/10 9:34 A
As others have expressed, I'm sorry you felt this pain.
Now for some tough love:
You have two options available to you right now. You can get depressed and use food for comfort or you can use this as your motivator to change your life. The choice is yours, as are the consequences of that choice.
11/13/10 9:16 A
Though I am have not gotten to the point some of you have explained, however, I have had my share from being obese. When one has to use the handicap stall in the washrooms because there is no space in the reg. ones to get around those ridiculouse paper rolls. However my worst experience was at a water park. I almost drowned as a kid so very fearful to not be in control in the water. Well on the way down the waterslide, my weight took me off balance and I went head first into the water at the bottom. It was 90% outside, but I was shivering from shock. Never Again have I tried to proved to my kids that I am not chicken. I refuse to go on another one even though I have lost enough weight to probably be OK on one. I like the advice given by ANARIE. We can all learn from that.
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2,460 11/13/10 9:02 A
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am morbidly obese and I know the problems that stem from that. I always wonder if the chair that I'm about to sit in will hold me up. I also have a fear of those turnstile things. I'm afraid that I will get stuck. Today is a new day for you. You have it within your power to fix this problem. Believe in yourself and set a goal to fit comfortably into that roller coaster. Don't be too hard on yourself. You can do this!
I think the most embrassing thing I have been exposed to is male gyno doctors bias to fat women..
I had to loss all my excess weight to be take seriously I had a defect from a midwife cutting my bladder locking muscles nerves..
I lost 80 kgs (half my body weight) my avatar is me now.. I got the most extreme tummy tuck and my bladder went bananas- everything was tighened up and the weak joint was my bladder muscles..
I think wetting my pants on the trade mill at the local gym and the lack of respect from the floor manager was humiliating..
I stamped back to the hospital and asked to talk to a women gyno and got the head of staff.. She said wtf to reading the physiotherapists report, I got a apology..
I now have a tvt band operationed in.. But I still have anxiety issues... People think I look normal- but it has been hell getting where I am today..
I wish my problem was a roller coaster of plane seat! Lossing weight and not being able to breath easy was hell.. I have had to plan most of my work life in denmark around where a clean toilet could be found and if I could reach one with 2 screaming ADHD kids..
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11/12/10 6:38 P
I've had the same problem. My weight has been up and down so right now I'm not sure if I'd fit all the coasters at my 6 flags (and I love coasters).
If that is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you than hon you have lived a sheltered life.
My most embarrassing moment was at college. My ex-GF dropped out of college and I hadn't seen her in a year then she visited campus. she is bipolar so life with her was a roller coaster in itself. She was totally bummed out because she thought she was pregnant and being so depressed she decided to visit her friends at college hoping it would cheer her up. I had a test the next day but decided I could talk to her for a few hours in the dorm lounge before I started to study. We ended up staying up all night talking. Shoot, I didn't study and now I had to take my test with no sleep. It was morning and the dorm was now full of students. I offered to walk my ex- to her car and on the way she made a pit stop at the bathroom. Everyone I knew seemed to be milling about when my ex- came out of the bathroom beaming and in full bipolar mania. She loudly exclaimed "I just started my period so I'm not pregnant after all!!!" then proceeded to start hugging and killing me. Everyone else froze speechless and stared at us.
If it helps, almost all of us here have had an experience like this-- some people have had to pay extra for an extra airplane seat, others have had to ask their group of friends to sit inside a restaurant in nice weather because the chairs on the patio were too small, etc. My best friend once paid for kayaking lessons, went for the first class and was told she was "too big," and then practically had to sue to get her money back! The b****h who ran the classes was trying to keep her deposit.
All you can do is keep it in mind as one more reason to do what you're doing here. When you're trying to decide whether you're going to log your food today, or sitting there trying to find the motivation to put your shoes on and go out for a walk, remember that not only will you make yourself healthier, you'll also be one day closer to being able to go back to the amusement park with no worries. It's also a good way to avoid getting overwhelmed. If you think about how much work it'll take to get all the way down to your ideal weight, that might seem really hard. But how much do you need to lose to be able to ride the roller coaster? Probably not all that much. Even if you only put in a *little* effort, you can definitely get to the point where you'll be comfortable on the roller coaster by next spring. That can be a really good short-term goal.
Of course it hurts. But you have the power in your hands to fix this and be ready next time.
That was the most embarressing thing ive ever exspirence. I havent had the mind to talk about this yet, but i guess i will now.
A few weeks ago my friend treated me to a day at Six Flags. All was amazing, it was my first time there and we were having a BLAST! Went on a roller coaster and had fun.
Until i got on the SuperMan [now known as the Bazaaro or something] and i literally BARELY fit in the belt. My friend was shaking trying to streach the belt around my waist. How embarrassing, right?
Well i got over that, not wanting it to ruin my night... Then we went on the Bat Man... First row, 4th seat, ride about to start, everyone waiting... The bar wouldn't click over my breast. Two men standing over me pressing the damn yellow metal bar against me hard for everyone waiting to see, a whole ride full of people, my friend seated right next to me. I freaked out, yelled for them to stop, and got off the ride holding back tears as hard as i could.
I'm 18 years old, i should be able to fit into these things, right? Apparently not. I still havent allowed myself to sit down and cry about it yet. But after that, i was so depressed i didnt want to go on any other rides, i watched him the whole time. Even though i spent all week getting myself excised about so many more rides.
Nothing hurt more then that. I feel like im just plan not fit for anything anymore, i didn't even want to try for fear it would just be a repeat exspirence.
Thanks for listening everyone, i just needed to finally talk about this with someone. My mother didnt really care at all when i tried to tell her. All she said was 'your not big enough for this. Your fine.' and thats it, over and over again. Not very helpful :/
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