Staying motivated in a house full of people who can eat whatever they like and never have a weight problem is tough for me. My husband weighs less than I do, is a foot taller, and eats ice cream, drinks a 2 liter of soda and munches on candy all day long while at work, yet he's never gained an ounce, and is rail thin. Its so discouraging when I have weeks on end where I will never go over 2000 calories in a day and I still gain weight, even with eating well and exercise.
I completely understand your situation. For a long time I thought of it as 'on' or 'off'. The reality is there is no 'on' and 'off'. I too would lose 20-30 pounds and then 'give up' or 'fall off'. That's the downfall of the 'all or nothing' mentality.
Understanding that this isn't a temporary thing helped me change and for once I was able to lose 70 pounds consistently over the course of 8 or so months. I actually halted my weight loss at the beginning of the year because my fiance and I moved in with my parents, putting a strain on the household and even my relationship. The cool thing is when I finally came out of it and into my own place at the end of september, I had weighed myself and realized that I was the same weight as I was on January 1. I guess my point is the habits I had picked up, and the things I had learned about a healthy lifestyle had really stuck with me and I was able to maintain my 70 pound loss for a year (Though now I've re-initiated my actual loss process). To me, that's proof that it really does have to be a lifestyle change.
When I was 330 pounds, my binge meant eating 8000-9000 calories, sometimes more, a day where as now on my rock-bottom binge days I end up with about 4000-maybe 5000 calories a day. That's a HUGE difference!
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10/18/12 11:27 A
Staying motivated is one of my biggest challenges to attaining the fitness level that I desire. I am 49 yrs old and have worked out for 33 yrs, usually alone (which is fine). I stopped eating most meat 25 yrs ago and strive to be Vegan, but it's hard. Whether it be my workout routine or my eating habits, I will be on track for months then something will throw me off track (my period, vacation, lack of energy or time, sickness, holiday) and it is so hard getting back on track again. It's like "three steps forward, two steps back" which is frustrating and discouraging. Tracking food in SparkPeople helps. Hopefully these forums and teams will also help. Sometimes I'm just mentally exhausted ... and can't even think about working out.Suggestions are greatly appreciated!!
10/18/12 11:05 A
Early on in my commitment to exercise was writing a concise list of all the reasons I do it. Seeing it on the wall in the bedroom each morning helped me to remember why I was making the effort to rise early and go jogging in the cold, dark, rain. It worked.
The most important thing that happened from seeing that list each morning for 10 years was that eventually, somewhere along the line, it helped me to change my thinking. That is where fitness starts, in the head. The mental attitude is more important than anything else.
Know that you are not alone. You will find many posts here on the same topic.
Now, after 40 years of jogging, I can't imagine why anyone would want to sit around instead of getting up, outside, and moving. It is so much fun when you can do chores and sports easily, even at my age of 55. I forget how I used to think when I thought it hard or unnecessary to get up, outside, and exercise.
It makes me feel great! In fact, it makes you want to have everyone experience what you are enjoying! That is partly why I keep reading and writing on these posts, to encourage others! Lord knows that no one else in my circles are interested in exercise except those I meet at the gym! v Get moving, girl! Keep up with the schedule you made for yourself.
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7,994 10/18/12 10:13 A
I understand what you're saying, because I've been the same way since joining SP about 20 months ago. For me, at least, the problem is that I'm not completely committed, and so I get off track very easily. The other day one of the Spark People quotes really "spoke" to me. It said, "the first step in resisting temptation is really wanting to". It made me question my commitment. I'm trying very hard to do better. There are no quick and easy solutions; it's a long, hard road which requires a strong commitment.
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563 10/18/12 9:35 A
I am the same as you. I noticed it always seems to be when my period is due. I start eating the bad stuff and even worse I binge eat the bad stuff. I feel so so bad after I dont want to workout and get all depressed. You are not alone.
Blogging your emotions seems like a good idea as posted below. My tips to try and make more good choices then bad and change one thing at a time.
Also gyms are over rated so many other things you can do like volleyball, soccer, basketball, baseball ect. Join a local team and that way you make sporty friends are more accountable and its way more fun it then some boring gym. good luck :)
10/18/12 9:18 A
I needed to read this today... all wonderful replies.
What I have found works for me is really figuring out my Big Why. I am not doing this to lose weight or get fit. I am in for the long haul and want to have 100% function of body, mind and spirit. I get part of that motivation from this site and others as well. However, my biggest motivation is in my nieces and nephews. I want to be healthy for them and see them get married and have kids. I want to be able to chase them around the yard or go shopping with them without getting tired out. Mostly I want to be a good influence on them. In this day and age with the obesity levels in this country at an all time high, I think it is time to show the world what healthy can be. So when I do feel tired or unmotivated, I look at the pictures around the room and do one more rep or get off my butt and do something active.
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46,222 10/18/12 8:38 A
For me what I had to discover was this has to become my way of living. It can't be just until I lose the weight, only to go back to the way I used to live. I like the idea of keeping a journal or even writing a blog. Both of these tools allow us to connect to our emotions and peeling back the layers as to 'why we do, what we do, when we do it'. Healthy living is not about getting in a set amount of exercise, but making yourself aware to be more active whether that is via formal activity or becoming more active during your day. If you can only get in 10 minutes worth of exercise than 10 minutes it is...Just remember you don't have to have a PERFECT life to have a healthy life.
Keep on Sparkin'...
10/18/12 7:21 A
Creating a routine is great. Writing it down and posting it somewhere is often a great motivator, too
Considering times when weight loss stalls like "training" for maintenance often helps.
I found that once I was in a solid routine everything just worked. Commit to a routine. Stick to it. Keep going through those 'I don't feel like it' days, since you will regret giving up. Want it. Work for it.
There are no shortcuts. No magic bullets. No secret spells. What works is hard work, dedication, and a daily dose of chocolate.
First, let me start by saying that I LOVE sparkpeople and am SOOO greatful for everything everyone has been able to offer. I started back in Feb for the first time, and ever since then,its on again off again. I seem to drop 15-20 pounds and im off. I gain 30 and I'm on. It's something that I know I am doing, and I ignore it. I feel horrible for myself and get in this down mode where I keep saying Ill restart tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. This last go around, I had an awesome support system, but I dropped that 25 pounds, was feeling GREAT, people were noticing and I just quit. It's like I gave up everything I workd hard for, and I did work hard!!
I guess my question to my fellow sparkers is how do you stay motivated when you hit that slump of im tired of doing it or anything like that? What my progam usually consists of is atleast 30 minutes of cardio and 15 of strength and I was doing different things every day. I was doing SP videos, dance videos I bought myself and I didnt use the gym because right now, I cant seem to justify spending money on a place that does not fit my schedule (i'm also a volunteer EMT, almost full time hours with that, plus a part time job) What am I doing wrong? Should I keep a writen journel of my feelings and see what I am feeling like when I do just give it up? hmmmm....just looking for any advice from anyone who has ever been in this type of situation, because even tho I feel like it, I know I can't be the only one experiencing this!!
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